Break up is mix emotion - happiness and sadness

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Been two weeks now, from the day I broke up with my partner. And lately I feel the feeling of relief and that I never felt before. I'm happy for having a life uncontrolled by someone. If you read my previous discussion 'Do you allow you bf/gf to control you' I said there that he's been so controlling regarding my career and he aint happy about my career growth. And yes all the advises and comments happened. I never got a job I wanted because of being submissive til I ended up having nothing but I still supported him in his career and allowed him to work to a company he wanted. So now, I lost a lot of opportunity. I don't want to blame it to him alone because it is also my fault because I allow him to control me. Then after he took the job I told myself it is the right time to breakup with him. So we both have a better life and opportunity in life. And maybe we're not meant together because we're not creating positive aura in our lives. Though I felt like losing a lot of things including him, there is a feeling of happiness inside me. Like I'm free from a lot of pain. Until now, we're exchanging messages and he's telling me that he wants me back that I should still help him to change his attitude etc. I feel like it's me who give up easily in our relationship and again I feel like blaming myself. I want to be happy fully. Sometimes I want to tell him to get rid of me. But most of the time I don't want to because I feel like hurting him and myself too. I feel stuck. I want to move on. I don't know if with him or with just me myself and I. But I wanted to be happy as I was before. Am I bad or not a good partner for giving up easily on him? Or is it right that I should think of myself too? I'm confused.