If a guy ignores you, is he gay?

@sol_cee (38219)
Philippines
May 30, 2016 2:21am CST
Just got back from a business trip in Fukuoka. Tired but alive. Good thing about it is that the employees had the chance to meet those from the other branches and mingle, get to know each other and familiarize the face of the person behind the Skype name which we always message to every day. So we have this male co-worker who maintained this frowning face all throughout the event. He seldom smiled. He spoke in the same way the dog barks. And I constantly made it a point not to cross his path. But a female co-worker finds his scowl attractive. Not afraid of his presence, she made a few attempts to get to know him better. Offering him a sandwich or tea every now and then; doing a few errands for him; understanding his English; etc. etc. Futile attempts which made her conclude that he must be gay not to notice her advances. Is my female co-worker correct?
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
30 May 16
Rubbish. It doesn't mean he's gay at all. He just doesn't fancy your friend. She flatters herself to think she's so irresistable. Perhaps he has a girlfriend or perhaps he's just got a lot on his mind at the moment but basically, he's just not into her.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
She'd die. lol
@slayer08 (2377)
• Philippines
30 May 16
I agree. If a guy seem uninterested he usually is.
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
30 May 16
@sol_cee Also she should be careful to not get involved with somebody she works with, especially if he is senior to her in rank. That's a good way to break your heart AND lose your job.
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@JudyEv (342110)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 May 16
No, not necessarily. Maybe the guy just doesn't fancy your friend, perhaps he is engaged - or married - or has just broken up with a girl. There could be any one of a dozen reasons.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
Dozen reasons which will surely agitate my friend.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@JudyEv I can imagine her reaction. lol
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@JudyEv (342110)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 May 16
@sol_cee In that case, why are you smiling?
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
30 May 16
Perhaps, the guy isn't genuinely interested.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
@sol_cee admit it, some guys and some girls aren't genuinely interested. No big secret there.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
Ouch.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
@allen0187 not looking at the right place..lol
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
30 May 16
Maybe, maybe not!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
30 May 16
@sol_cee I can't think of a Bible verse that would answer the question about if someone ignores a person would that make him gay.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@1hopefulman I am just kidding.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
No bible verse for this one?
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
30 May 16
Let me check him out first, after which i can make my own conclusion. Not quite sure if one can conclude that man is gay when he ignored her. I haven't been ignored by many men including gays (I make sure they become my friends like that one in the picture), but I've been ignored by a lot of women lol!
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@sol_cee grey shirt
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@toniganzon pretty pretty! and that guy is gay?
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
Which one are you powerpuff goddess?
@magallon (19279)
• Philippines
30 May 16
Hope he is not a woman hater... Ha ha ha ha. Maybe he is really rude or not nice to other people. Or could be the same guess as your friend.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
My friend has found a friend in you.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@magallon Wow. You've got superpowers.
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@magallon (19279)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@sol_cee .. I can tell if the guy is gay or not. If only I can see that person.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
31 May 16
It is either he is gay or your friend is not your type.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
@sol_cee But she must accept the reality. My husband experienced that from an office mate but even if her office mate were calling him torpe or bakla he did not mind because he had no interest with that woman as his heart belongs to me already.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
My friend won't like the latter. lol
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
@salonga Lucky you. Or vice-versa.
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
31 May 16
When it comes to the opposite gender, I am really shy. Even though he is smart, handsome and friendly, those things will not make me do the first move. Despite my attitude toward other men, I still have many male friends. I have observed different behaviours. Some are very talkative while some are timid and quiet. I have observed that some male friends who are very talkative and have always something to comment are gays. Other males are just quiet and do not interact much unless they think of something interesting to talk of. There are other males who are chatty when they like a certain woman while gets quiet to the opposite gender when they do not like them.
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
@sol_cee If I am not mistaken, men really get talkative when they got drunk already. That is why I am thinking that maybe if I want to know the truth I should make my man drunk.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
@annierose You can do that in Macau, right after checking the casino out. lol
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
He was chatty during the company dinner I noticed. That's after he drunk too much. lol
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@tech40 (23121)
• Philippines
30 May 16
It was depends on the action of the guy, I'm a guy who always ignore some of the girl because I know that we'll don't have a same attitude that possible ends with "Enemies" and to avoid those scenario's i'll start by ignoring them, I might talk to them sometimes but not too attach or close..
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@tech40 (23121)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@sol_cee aand i have a girlfriend :D
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
Nice to know your opinion.
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@tech40 the most important reason. lol
@LadyDuck (472060)
• Switzerland
30 May 16
No, she is not, many men do not appreciate that it's a women to show "attention", they want to be the ones to make the first step if they notice a woman that they like.
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@LadyDuck (472060)
• Switzerland
30 May 16
@sol_cee Females can show their feelings also here in Europe, but some men do not appreciate. It is also possible that this man saw no one who he really liked.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
In Japan, females can show their feelings, if not confess to males.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@LadyDuck each to his own preference.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 May 16
I think that man doesn't like your female co-worker.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
I wouldn't dare tell that to her. lol
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 May 16
@sol_cee Yes, she might be offended.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@ida123 I would fuel her fury instead. lol
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
30 May 16
Maybe...shy?
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
I am shy.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@Lucky15 your face of doubt. Haha
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
30 May 16
@sol_cee ahmm..well
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• United Kingdom
31 May 16
He could have a partner though, so it is wrong to assume he's gay because he is not responding to the girl.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
My friend researched. He is single and available.
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• United Kingdom
8 Jun 16
@sol_cee See comment originally from @Boingboing - your friend flatters herself to think she's going to be the one. What will be will be. If he's attracted to her then he will make a move. If not, then move on!
@shamish (202)
31 May 16
She is wrong. He is not attracted towards her . That is all. Or can say she is not attractive.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
She is VERY attractive.
@shamish (202)
3 Jun 16
He may be or may not be a gay. Even if he is a gay there is no need to bark at all others. He can act normal. He can smile. No need to keep frowning face. All I can say he is trying to be over smart. Or he may be having some psychological issues. Even if he is not having any issue and he is normal it is not necessary that he should start speaking very nicely to all good looking or attractive looking ladies.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
31 May 16
There could be many reasons for not reciprocating your (female) friend's advances by that guy. It is not fair to conclude that he would be a gay that is why he ignored your friend.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
3 Jun 16
@sol_cee You are right. But in your friend's case it was one sided affair, as far as I understand.
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
All is fair in love and war.
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• United States
30 May 16
LOL - just because a guy is not interested in a girl making advances on him does not mean that he is gay. There have been females who have flirted with both my husbands, and I would sit back and watch and laugh, because the girls never did and never would have a chance of getting their attention. This guy could have been in a relationship ... or not looking for a relationship, especially since it was at a work function ... so he was not realizing or interested in flirting with her.
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• United States
3 Jun 16
@sol_cee Thank you.
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
You're so lucky to have your husband. And vice-versa.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
31 May 16
I think just because he isn't minding her , is that he is already a gay . He is just one employee who impossible to work with . Imagine , doing those things yet no words of gratitude or a smile in return .
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
31 May 16
@sol_cee It's understandable for her .
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
31 May 16
Must have been so frustrating for my female co-worker hence the name calling. lol
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• United States
30 May 16
i'm glad that'cha'd the opportunity to meet those folks'n which ya correspond with so frequent. 's fer that fella? i'd not pass judgement'n his preference. sounds from yer description that he seems a bit haunted. who knows, a lovely lady might've jest broken his heart.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
I did have fun talking to my co workers instead of using emoticons. lol As for the fella, he deserves a good love story. Coz we all do.
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• United States
30 May 16
@sol_cee indeed :D
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@trivia79 (7828)
• El Segundo, California
31 May 16
did you asked your coworker if she saw him talking with a man?
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
I saw him. I know what he did. lol
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@trivia79 (7828)
• El Segundo, California
3 Jun 16
@sol_cee and what was that thing he did? hmmm, curious me lol
@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
30 May 16
Not necessarily, maybe he`s just not interested and who knows maybe there is a secret lover somewhere.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 May 16
I want to believe someone out there makes him smile.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
30 May 16
@sol_cee Im sure there is someone