Is wishing them a happy birthday really worth it?
@nightSky19 (93)
June 15, 2016 5:19am CST
We all have such people in our life who once used to be our close friends. But then, we just stopped talking to each other due to some reason or the other. And then, we reach to the point where we talk to each other only on birthdays or some other occasion. So the question is, does it really matter if we wish them or not? I mean, it just seems like a formality to the brain, but then the heart says, we should, for the sake of old times. What do you think?
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@mypointsju (583)
• Westland, Michigan
15 Jun 16
I agree and a few years ago, I found a book that had a friends birthday date in it. I have not talked to the person for 7 years, but I thought I wish them a happy birthday in an email. End result we reconnected. I found out that he moved out of state and by dumb luck I was just going to travel to that state (actually in his area) within the next week. We ended up going out to dinner and got caught up. So wishing a friend a happy birthday even if you do not keep in touch with that person is a good thing.
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@nightSky19 (93)
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16 Jun 16
And what if talking to them again might get you in a fight? Doesn't it spoil all the beauty of the good old days because you just start to think then that it really is better that we don't talk anymore.
@nightSky19 (93)
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16 Jun 16
@mypointsju well, good for you. 
In my case, I think we might just end up in a fight.
In my case, I think we might just end up in a fight.
@aarifa (1210)
• India
16 Jun 16
@nightSky19 i dont wish them...why. i dont concern they are my friends..
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@nightSky19 (93)
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16 Jun 16
Well, at least that won't happen in my case. I think she remembers my number (maybe).
@jerry260188 (247)
• India
15 Jun 16
I can understand what you are saying because I have had a similar situation. See the thing is like any other relationship, friendship also requires efforts from both the side.I think you should wish them on their birthdays it may seem like formality to you but its human nature to feel happy when you get to know that someone still remembers you even after a long time,that his /her birthday matters.
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@Shreyashi (171)
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15 Jun 16
We should wish them not for the glorious past friendship but for the future where they can remain good friends or may be sometimes close friends. When we can clap for the unknown person while sitting in a restaurant just on the bday song then why not saying Happy birthday to old friends. They do or not, does not matter but we should do to make ourselves happy.
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
16 Jun 16
Friends will remain friends that is true but sometimes they move on in a stage in their lives where you are no longer a part of it. Wish them happy birthday same way and remember the good times. People are in our lives for a season and when that season has changed they have to move on and so do you.
I had a friend for over 20 years whom I love like a sister. One day she stopped calling or talking to me and when I called her she behaved as it I were a stranger and she did not even know my voice or number anymore. I stopped calling her and I was surprise to see her making much of me when she sees me and asking about my daughter who used to call her Aunt and her daughter sister. People change as their circumstances change and sometimes they just dont see you in the same light as they did before the changes came. So wish them happy birthday same way and keep your chin up
@Chungshop (2355)
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16 Jun 16
Good may it help to break the ice lo, and forget the past lo. Friendship is very important than making enemy.
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@eliza_godinez12 (5723)
• Philippines
15 Jun 16
it's okay to great if your heart tell to do so..
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@nightSky19 (93)
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16 Jun 16
That's exactly what the problem is! My heart and brain are completely on the opposite sides.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
16 Jun 16
There are people (not always close friends but people I knew well) I wish only on birthdays because of the reasons you mentioned. They are always pleased.They say "glad you remembered"
So I would say, "listen to your heart."
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