I'm not dressing that way

@carebear29 Oh. Well that would definitely be a problem. But he married you despite of you not wearing such clothes. There must be a part of him that loves you for who you are. Maybe he's frustrated about something. I usually get annoyed at my husband when he wears crocs. I think he should only wear them to the wet market / farmers market. But he wears them everywhere, to a clinic, to the mall, visiting people, etc. It makes it look like I just dragged him out of the house, like he would rather watch basketball but I forced him to accompany me or else. :D Wearing sneakers isn't that hard. Maybe your husband has an underlying issue like this, although sneakers and skimpy outfits aren't on the same scale. You should try asking him why it really matters to him.

@swirlz He doesn't get what he wants in the bedroom. Thats what he complains about the most.

He likes them like strippers.

I just keep telling him I won't do it and stick up for myself

@carebear29 I dated a guy for several years who told me what to wear, and he bought my clothes - I put up with it for a while, then I woke up and realized what kind of ah he was.

@AbbyGreenhill Yeah my husband buys me clothes but I tell him not too because he complains about not having money

@carebear29 I know, but the whole thing about him not looking at you gets me. He needs to leave it alone and realize not everyone likes to dress that way. :-/

@tammys85 Right I agree

I like to surprise him but not if he's asking all the time

@carebear29 Yes i know what you mean. It's a different thing when it is demanded, it gets annoying.

@carebear29 Well, in a way , it means he finds you sexy on it .

I want to surprise him but not when he's asking all the time.

@carebear29 Uhmmm I guess he has its fantasy? I mean he wants you to be good in his eyes.

@Shavkat Yes he does

I dress the way that makes safe too but he insists I look like a stripper lol

some guys do, some guys don't @dwdavis sweats to jeans is an improvement @carebear29

I started wearing jeans more instead of sweats. Now he wants leggings.

@carebear29 Tell him you'll start wearing leggings when he does.

@carebear29 eeekkk!! He should accept you for you.

Like a stripper if that helps.

Right I agree

@carebear29 pretty unfair way of thinking

He dresses nice for others but not for me so I won't

I dress nice but not the way he likes it anyways.

@Genipher Sort of. He is very stubborn

@Genipher Maybe, but I have an incredibly low tolerance for abusive behaviors in a relationship. A man refusing to look at his wife because she won't dress the way he wants her to is controlling and abusive. I may have been letting some of the background posts color my opinion a bit, too...

@carebear29 His boys have the right idea and you deserve respect.

His boys keep telling him that

@tammys85 I heartily agree.

I have tried so many times. I just pretty much dress for the weather

Nope

@carebear29 maybe, he just wants to re-freshened the younger years of both of you and that's why he is asking you to wear like that. because sometimes, as we get older, our fashion in clothing also changes.

I am starting to think he's like your ex

@yukimori right very true

@carebear29 Considering how much he's apparently accused you of cheating, it honestly wouldn't surprise me.

Right. His ex's dressed like strippers and I don't like that

I always do

Right.

I am used to it honestly.

@LoriAMoore Been married 13 years on July 8th