Spending time with friends can be relaxing and tiring at the same time, right?

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@Shavkat (139367)
Philippines
June 22, 2016 9:43pm CST
If I am not working online, I used to spend time with close friends. A cup of coffee in the coffee shop will do the trick to relax. Sometimes the feeling is not mutual when a friend complains so many things. I felt it is also a combination of being tired listening to friend’s problems. However, it is a true friend’s role to lend your ears to them and give possible advice. At the end of the day, you had the chance to relax and feel tired at the same time. I think it is a perfect combination to build a good relationship to others. Since there is no perfect world. We just need to balance things up in our lives. Photo Credit: pixabay.com
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
27 Jun 16
ya I tend to stay away from overly negative people..
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
28 Jun 16
I also do that. I better be alone than spending time with people who are negative in everything.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
4 Jul 16
@Drosophila You said it right. It will consume all your energy.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
28 Jun 16
@Shavkat yep they are energy vampires
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@Tierkreisze (1609)
• Philippines
29 Jun 16
Actually, I fall asleep sometimes when I'm with my friends. I feel so secure with them around. But I do listen as they talk; I even listen while I'm half asleep!
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
4 Jul 16
I also do the same thing not to offend the talker in the group.
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• Philippines
4 Jul 16
@Shavkat But they do make fun of me a lot of times because I'm always asleep. Haha!
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@shubhu3 (36463)
• New Delhi, India
23 Jun 16
Yeah same is the case with me.Life without them is restless.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@shubhu3 You can also mention a friend who is so persistent.
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@shubhu3 (36463)
• New Delhi, India
24 Jun 16
@Shavkat Yeah there are two of them Rohit and Priya. :)
• United States
23 Jun 16
For me it's not the fact that I have a friend who complains, it's the fact that I'm an introvert and I don't like being around people to begin with. lol I'd much rather be alone.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@missjessicadawn I agree with you. I must also admit that I am more comfortable interacting with my virtual friends.
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• United States
24 Jun 16
@Shavkat Same here. In real life, I always worry about what to say or how to say it. In the virtual world, I have time to think before responding. lol
@magallon (19279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
It's been a long time since I was with my friends. I am always with my children, work and home. I also miss hanging out with friends and talk a lot about anything with them. But what can I do? I think we are all busy with our lives. No time to hang out.
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@magallon (19279)
• Philippines
27 Jun 16
@Shavkat You are good and responsible... Keep up the good work.
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@solitary (260)
23 Jun 16
Yes , we need to do something to balance things up in our lives.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@solitary It is always balancing our own world.
@solitary (260)
24 Jun 16
@Shavkat It is great to share your happiness and sorrow with your friends. But it can be painful sometimes.
@MGjhaud (23240)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
I dont hate people, i just feel much much better when im alone trying to relax.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@MGjhaud I always had this moment. I am more at ease and relax of having myself moment. Socializing with friends are also fine. It spices up my life too.
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@snowy22315 (179715)
• United States
23 Jun 16
Yes, sometimes people just need a listening ear.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@snowy22315 We are the outlet of our friends. We can never say NO. Since they trusted us and need some help in the long run. But I hope it would not fall to needing because of material things. That's another story of friendship.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 16
thats it its a matter of balance just like living with diabetes you use portion control and you stay well and with friends its just balance great wa y of putting it
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@Hatley I do agree that our life should be balance.
@silvermist (19702)
• India
23 Jun 16
@Shavkat Very true.But these days I do not spend much time with friends.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@silvermist I only go out with friends if there is a chance.
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
I don't have that priviledge of being trusted by a friend while they tell me their problem. maybe I don't look the person they can be trusted.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@LetranKnight2015 I hope it is not of what you think. I guess there is a reason why they cannot share their personal hang-ups in life.
@JudyEv (338640)
• Rockingham, Australia
23 Jun 16
I agree, sometimes being a good friend is hard work.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@JudyEv It is an obligation in some point to be a good friend for them.
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• China
23 Jun 16
I have some freinds.And we meet when we miss each other.That's good time to stay with friends.They are all my old classmates.Sometimes I complain sth to them.They would give me advice.I agree your opinion that we need to balance things in our lives.Friendship is the better gift of the world.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@1210800460 Most of my close friends are not in my country. But still, I considered my casual friends special to interact with.
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23 Jun 16
Getting tired or relaxed from hanging out with a friend is totally normal and a good thing. The most important thing about hanging out with a friend is to not get stressed out when you are tired.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@Antonius25 That's the main goal not to be stressed of being tired.
@jobelbojel (35356)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
I think you are good in balancing things in your life.
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
It is how we balance our life. I agree with you @jobelbojel.
@paigea (36318)
• Canada
23 Jun 16
It is true that it's tiring and relaxing to spend time with friends, and with family
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@Shavkat (139367)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
@paigea I do understand this situation. But I have deal with it.
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• Philippines
24 Jun 16
Yeah. you're right... when you want to relax and a friend just can't help but pour out her frustrations in life can be tiring. But that same friend will do the same when you have something to air out as well. Life is a balance after all.