Friend or Foe?
By royanne
@royanne (372)
Philippines
June 23, 2016 7:55pm CST
So we have this friend at the office who is loud and very vulgar. We noticed how her stories doesn't match most of the time. We feel like she pretends to be someone she's not and that she thinks so highly of herself. She kind of gives the feeling of a social climber but we just let her be. This one time, I think due to her insecurities, she said something bad towards one of our friends. I don't like having to pretend that everything is okay but I don't know what to do with her either. I kinda pity her because now everybody talks about her behind her back but I'm at a loss since she's the kind of person who doesn't take criticism positively.
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@rachz_kisses (3838)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
I had a colleague just like her. True enough, she's been the center of jokes. We can't do anything about it because it would make the situation worse. Sad.
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
24 Jun 16
It sounds like she is trying to hide her true self.
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@anneguadaupe (36)
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24 Jun 16
That's really bad! Maybe she might experience too much insecurities that could lead her to be blind and deaf in everything.
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@royanne (372)
• Philippines
27 Jun 16
@anneguadaupe I want to listen to her but the question would be if she is willing to tell me her side. She is very stubborn and i don't know what to do with her anymore. :(
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@anneguadaupe (36)
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27 Jun 16
@royanne so sad to have a friend like her but in any relationship there are always challenges. In any challenges like a storm\rain after that there are always a rainbow. Everything will turn well especially if you have an open communication. She might wrong but as a friend she still has a voice that you need to know and you should listen to it.
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@Becky_25 (31)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 16
That's so sad that some people feel they need to act a certain way to fit in, when that certain way may be inappropriate and offensive as it is in her case.
It seems she has some of her own demons to deal with as i'm sure she must act like this around a lot of people so may be desperate for friends and more defensive when it comes to showing people the real her. She uses an alter ego to ensure she doesn't get hurt maybe.
@royanne (372)
• Philippines
27 Jun 16
I'm not sure what her situation is and why she chooses to pretend to be something she's not. I wan't to understand her, I do. But it gets hard when the other person is always defensive towards criticism and also doesn't want to talk about things. She just avoids it and pretend that nothing is wrong and from time to time would make bad remarks towards our other friend.
@shivamani10 (11035)
• Hyderabad, India
24 Jun 16
Everybody will have such a variety of peculiar stuff. We can not do with them. They will know the things ...in future. They need proper friends circle.
