What Would You Do If The Friends Of Your GF/BF Is More Important Than You?
By Tokz
@ilocosboy (45156)
Philippines
September 13, 2016 2:03am CST
Just heard from a local radio station and I think this is a good discussion for us about relationship.
What if the friends of your girlfriend or boyfriend is more important than you? For example, your date did not pursue because their friends called your GF/BF that they have a party or a reunion or you supposed date was cancelled.
Its sounds funny but sometimes this happen. They make you just taken for granted because what is more important to them is their bonding and happiness with their friends?
What do you think?
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9 responses
@magallon (19279)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
My boyfriend and his friends (barkada) had a drinking session and he forgot about our meeting.
I waited for two hours for him.
When he went to our house the next day, I ended our relationship.
He pleaded , but I did not give him another chance.
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@Letranknight2015 (51969)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
If he can do that to you, how much more if your married to him.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
We cannot blame you because your boyfriend had the very lightest excuse for you. there might be another reason why he did that.
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@EMbakes (1142)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
I had an ex before who prioritises more his friends rather than me. I don't even demand for too much attention.
Maybe that's the reason why we broke up. I knew right from the start that I'm not his priority, but I still pursue having a relationship with him. Thank God we're not together anymore. 
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
The discussion might just be so simple but we have experienced this and we can relate to this situation. Its good your relationship had ended and that it give you the opportunity to look for a better relationship.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
14 Sep 16
@EMbakes That is love, its so happen that person is not meant for you.
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@EMbakes (1142)
• Philippines
14 Sep 16
@ilocosboy But to be honest, it took me years before I was able to forget my feelings for that person. I guess I wanted his love and affection so much that even we're no longer together, I'm still hoping that we can patch things up and be together again. 
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
I think there should be a healthy balance between time with his friends and me because as a girlfriend/wife, I would prefer not to smother him with just time with me. I think that would not be healthy for any relationship. If he cancelled because of a party or reunion, I would ask him why I was not invited and if the reason is not good that is when I would question our relationship.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
that's it, the healthy balance of relationship. That is why there must be a good communication between the two.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
yeah, but you can really weigh which importance is being given. And when your love one prefer the other activity, we might re-think what is our relationship for.
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@Shavkat (139962)
• Philippines
15 Sep 16
@ilocosboy If I am in this position, I would stay with my partner.
@Letranknight2015 (51969)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
This is one investment I wouldn't risk, if you loose it then you will loose everything.
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@Letranknight2015 (51969)
• Philippines
14 Sep 16
@ilocosboy Well, maybe I don't have the maturity for it.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
Its hard to lose someone you love just because of nonsense reason.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
14 Sep 16
@Letranknight2015 I don't know, but in love, I think we all like very young and all that matter is our feeling, including me, he he.
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@Yar_Joey (3271)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
It needs mutual understanding to know if you are a priority of your GF or not. If she is aware of your activities and you need to be with some of your friends, I believe there should be communication, so that your relationship will not end abruptly
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@Yar_Joey (3271)
• Philippines
14 Sep 16
@ilocosboy I am happy I and my love are open in communicating with each other
@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
That's it, good communication between the two. Its just a matter of explaining or communication to avoid the misunderstanding.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
13 Sep 16
I'll just have to find my way into his heart or step away from the relationship for good. My ex put his friends before his family unfortuantely and thats part of what broke our marriage. Not something I'm willing to deal with again.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
He/she should not ignore the girlfriend/boyfriend; just let him/her join and introduce to his/her friends.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
13 Sep 16
I think this should be the proper way.
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