oh, i am sorry. do you require sympathy?
By Elizabeth
@Poppylicious (11133)
November 30, 2016 4:57pm CST
The cough has existed since the beginning of September, give or take a week or two. On a couple of occasions the cough brought blood with it. The cough was eventually taken to the GP who prescribed antibiotics. The antibiotics did not help the cough, but the GP was not revisited.
Until today.
Today was also the day before a general check-up at the Heart & Lung Hospital, because if you're having a medical problem which could be related to the lung cancer that stole half a lung from you in 2014, you should always wait until the last minute to see your GP,
Common knowledge, isn't it?
She's my MiL and I do love her, but I am finding it increasingly difficult to have any sympathy for her. For weeks I have been telling her to go back to the GP. I have said those words she doesn't want to hear. I have scolded her, offered to help her, allowed her to get it off her chest - pun possibly intended - and tried to help. I accompany her to her knee appointments and whatnot.
She is sixty-seven years old, going on ninety-three. Old before her time, in both looks and mentally. Some of you may recall that she exhausts me with her negativity.
When YASiL's dad discovered his cancer had returned she grumbled about how stupid he and his wife were for not noticing the warning signs and going to the GP. I long to remind her of this, but her selective memory will dismiss me and it's not worth the bother.
She has her regular check-up at H&L Hospital tomorrow, with a note from her GP for her symptoms to be immediately investigated. For all our sakes I'm hoping it is just an infection that she can't shake, but we suspect the worse.
And if we're right, life is going to be rather miserable for the foreseeable future.
*sigh*
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@xFiacre (13120)
• Ireland
30 Nov 16
@poppylicious Some folk just can't be helped. Some, like my aunt, are only happy when they're miserable.
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@Poppylicious (11133)
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1 Dec 16
Yes. And their miserableness is always the fault of others, never themselves!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Nov 16
Oh goodness this sounds just like my husband's aunt who is also in her upper 60's and lives with us. She acts like she's 90 something by complaining constantly about her body aching and everything else under the sun! It is hard to deal with on a daily basis so I understand how your feeling...
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Dec 16
@Poppylicious Thank you, some days are much harder than others. She is very negative most of the time so I really have to pray a lot to handle things with her around. Life has so many good things in it-you would think she would be grateful because we took her in from the street-but she's not at all. =(
@Poppylicious (11133)
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1 Dec 16
Oh, I can't even imagine how hard it must be to live with someone like this. I only have to spend one or two days a week with her, and that's exhausting ... I think I would be needing a straightjacket if it was constant. I both admire and pity you!
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@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
1 Dec 16
I am so sorry to hear this...I know that it can be hard and really do hope for her sake and everyone elses as well that everything turns out alright tomorrow....I know how hard it can be taking care of someone who is sick as I did for my grandma for many many years just try to keep your chin up and hope it all goes well and she gets better 
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@Poppylicious (11133)
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1 Dec 16
Thank you! My positive vibes are trying to fight off the negative ones, and hopefully she'll be okay.
@LadyDuck (471968)
• Switzerland
1 Dec 16
Oh my, your MiL is doing the same that my sister in law has done. She has ignored the warning signs that something was not right and she needed to go to see a gynecologist. She waited six month and when she finally went she did not listen and refused to do further exams. Well, she has now a terminal stage uterine cancer.
@LadyDuck (471968)
• Switzerland
2 Dec 16
@Poppylicious Thanks, it is a very sad situation, especially for my niece, she is 31 now and I feel she still needs her Mom.
@Poppylicious (11133)
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1 Dec 16
I hope this is all it is for MiL. I don't know how I will cope with her if the cancer has returned.
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
30 Nov 16
I tend to put off going to the doctor....for many reasons. I've had a cold that gets better and recurs, gets better and recurs....I'm tired of the coughing and the runny nose. Then suddenly it's gone again.
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
1 Dec 16
@Poppylicious that does make it all so much harder.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
3 Dec 16
sometimes, we jest don't wanna know 'bout the 'elephant'n the room'. e'en more denial if'n we've 'xperienced such 'fore. sendin' healin' hugs fer yer sis-in-law 'n sanity hugs fer yerself.
