HOW HONEST ARE YOU? / myLot

December 11, 2016 2:33pm CST

They say "honesty is the best policy" - and it is - but up to a point. Imagine telling someone the awful truth about - say their - personality, jokes, choice of clothes, hairstyle, spouse etc. The fact is, people do not like hearing negative things about themselves and speaking the truth can sometimes land one in hot water. How honest should a person be? I suppose it would be easier to be honest with a family member or close friend - but is it really?

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ShannyBananny

@shaggin (72196)

• United States

11 Dec 16

I was always brutually honest an it took me over 20 years to learn to show tact and not tell everyone exactly what I am thinking.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55131)

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11 Dec 16

Well, at least you are still in one piece. Some folk get pretty angry if what they hear about themselves is not what they prefer to hear.

ShannyBananny

@shaggin (72196)

• United States

12 Dec 16

@Kandae11 Constructive criticism can be good but hard to swallow. I have definitely really angered people!

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Bluedoll

@Bluedoll (16773)

• Canada

11 Dec 16

Yeah I know what you mean here. Better not to say anything at all but if asked for help be deadly honest?

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Bluedoll

@Bluedoll (16773)

• Canada

11 Dec 16

@Kandae11 some people are so polite or so afraid to offend they don't always want to tell the truth but if the person asking gets the truth that might help the most yeah true it works both ways

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55131)

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11 Dec 16

It would be good to get help if you ask for it.

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pumpkinjam

@pumpkinjam (8770)

• United Kingdom

16 Mar 17

A lot of the time, I am too honest for my own good. Sometimes, we probably shouldn't be completely honest but there's a difference between being tactful and being dishonest. I find it can be difficult trying to answer something without hurting feelings and to get someone to understand because I don't want to be dishonest. I get quite annoyed when it is assumed that I have been dishonest, and it particularly upsets me when others are dishonest to or about me. As my mum says (which her dad always said) you can lock away your belongings from a thief. There is no protection from a liar.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55131)

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16 Mar 17

I like that -- no protection from a liar

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Arthur Chappell

@arthurchappell (44998)

• Preston, England

12 Dec 16

truth hurts but it is generaly better to hear it though I often avoid telling others the truth about themselves

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55131)

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12 Dec 16

Depending on who the person is and circumstances, it maybe best to play it safe.

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Shadi

@Madshadi (8840)

• Brussels, Belgium

11 Dec 16

I am honest somewhat. I wouldn't be honest about things which would hurt peoples feelings for example.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55131)

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11 Dec 16

One could try to be honest but in a tactful way.

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Shadi

@Madshadi (8840)

• Brussels, Belgium

11 Dec 16

@Kandae11 true

Judy Evans

@JudyEv (341824)

• Rockingham, Australia

12 Dec 16

It is a shame if being too honest hurts a person's feelings. I think the decision to be REALLY honest depends on the circumstances. Mostly I am honest but I don't like to hurt people.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55131)

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12 Dec 16

I agree, it depends on the circumstances.

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rebelann1949

@rebelann (112966)

• El Paso, Texas

6 Nov 19

I'm honest with friends but I see no reason to reveal anything to a stranger.

Felicia Kane

@DesirousDreamer (34776)

• Peoria, Arizona

11 Dec 16

Oh I am blunt. If someone's joke or attitude is terrible, I will tell them. Never will I do judge them by what they are wearing, hairstyle, or things that they have chosen to do. That is just wrong and terrible. Because that is what people like, my opinion is not the truth, it is just an opinion. If someone wants to wear something ridiculous, I won't say that they look good, I won't say they look bad either, my opinion doesn't matter as long as they are happy.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55131)

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11 Dec 16

That is very good thinking.

Hanni Harel

@Hannihar (130213)

• Israel

18 Oct 17

I think you need to pick which topic you want to be totally honest about or come very close to truth in a nice way.

Annastasiaaaaaa

@annastasiaaaaaa (727)

• Philippines

12 Dec 16

If I am very comfortable with the person then I can be as honest as possible. If I'm not comfortable with the person, I better not say anything.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55131)

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16 Mar 17

Well said. Sorry about my late reply, had some internet problems around the time this was posted - so I missed yur comment.

Marcus Yeates

@Marcusuk123 (24)

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11 Dec 16

I think as we are bad we are good and as we are honest on most days sometimes we lie when we not feeling our self's But then I hide my face on this site that could be seen as a lie to others but security to me it's is only our own perception that make the our judgment Things happen

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55131)

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16 Mar 17

You are right -- things do happen. Excuse my very late reply.