LOST IN VANITY.

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@Kandae11 (55010)
December 20, 2016 6:00am CST
My ex husband was so vain, he would sulk for days if he found himself ignored at any gathering or function. When we were dating, his obsession with his looks wasn't that obvious - and the little I was allowed to see of that part of his character - I found amusing. However, I realized in due course that marriage to a vain man was no fun at all. Would you get married to a very vain person? How would you deal with it when you find that your spouse is happiest when he - or she is looking in the mirror?
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (317041)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
21 Dec 16
After the wedding is a little late to worry about it. It's certainly not something to get divorced over. I hope that's not what broke you up. I wouldn't deal with it. I would just wait it out. Eventually he would come out of the bathroom.
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (317041)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
21 Dec 16
@Kandae11 I think we all could. I was divorced 23 years ago, but only 22 years divorced as he passed last year and now I'm a widow.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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21 Dec 16
@just4him Do you think of getting married again?
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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21 Dec 16
I had to get there first or my wait would be a long one. Oh no! his love of self didn't cause the breakup - that was the least of my problems. I could write a book about the others.
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Tokz
@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
20 Dec 16
Oh well, that would lots of stress on our part if they always consider themselves in front of the mirror. I would not be comfortable with them.
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83480)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Dec 16
@ilocosboy , There is something wrong.
Tokz
@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
20 Dec 16
@Kandae11 its good my wife is not like that.
Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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20 Dec 16
A stressful situation indeed.
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83480)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Dec 16
Just inspire him dear with your love and sweet words to stop his vain.
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83480)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Dec 16
@HAPPSINGH , hard to deal problem like that.
Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83480)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Dec 16
@Kandae11 yes to feel the assurance of love and sweet words are soothing and comforting any souls in vain.
Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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20 Dec 16
Sweet words might encourage his vanity.
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The Sunshine!!
@shaynas (5487)
• India
20 Dec 16
I can't even imagine living with such a person!
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83480)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Dec 16
@shaynas , yes, hard to deal , there will be restless moments.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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20 Dec 16
For me it was next to impossible.
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83480)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Dec 16
@Kandae11 , There is nothing impossible if he will see a doctor and a therapist.
vaishnavi :)
@vaishu0106 (968)
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20 Dec 16
I dont know..may be love care and affection can change him...I am not sure !
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aubrey
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
21 Dec 16
@Kandae11 He has a very big ego. He's a difficult person to be with. Teach him to be down to earth
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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21 Dec 16
@averygirl72 He refused to be taught.
Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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20 Dec 16
He already has a very big ego, showering him with more love would only serve to increase his vanity.
Gitara
@Gita17112016 (3611)
• Trinidad And Tobago
20 Dec 16
I dunno. Is the money good? Because if I had a very rich husband I probably wouldn't mind if he stares at himself.But I can't say for sure.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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20 Dec 16
Trust you to look at the practical side of things
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Gitara
@Gita17112016 (3611)
• Trinidad And Tobago
21 Dec 16
@Kandae11 But of course, lol. Every cloud has a silver lining.. But seriously, as you get older things of the flesh is not so important.
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Judy Story
@jstory07 (139697)
• Roseburg, Oregon
21 Dec 16
I am glad I am not married to a man like that. My friend is and he spends more time in front of a mirror than she does.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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21 Dec 16
I know, my ex never seemed to get tired of admiring himself.
Marlina
@marlina (154131)
• Canada
20 Dec 16
Sorry, but such a man would not attract me at all.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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20 Dec 16
In the beginning he didn't show much of that side of himself.
Joanie
@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
22 Dec 16
I always thought vain men was something you see in the movies but I suppose they do exist in reality. Anyway nothing wrong with a little vanity just not over the top vanity,
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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22 Dec 16
I agree, one should have self esteem, but definitely not over the top.
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DianneN
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
21 Dec 16
Not too happy. There can only be one vain person in the marriage! Lol!
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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21 Dec 16
That's right.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (339930)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Dec 16
I'm not sure how I'd cope. Luckily I didn't end up with someone like that.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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20 Dec 16
Not easy, I can tell you.
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Claudia Kirkland
@CRK109 (14556)
• United States
20 Dec 16
When I was younger, I probably would have married such a man, because I wasn't wise to the ways of the world. Now that I'm older and understand so much more what kind of man would make a perfect husband for me, I would see the vain man and then move on.
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Claudia Kirkland
@CRK109 (14556)
• United States
20 Dec 16
@Kandae11 I've learned it's much better to be alone than to be with the wrong person.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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20 Dec 16
That's true,you know the kind of person you want in you life and you wait for Mr. Right.
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Ayuriny
@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
20 Dec 16
I hope I won't meet that kind of guy ...
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55010)
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20 Dec 16
I hope so too.
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