Should he stay or should he go?
By Wendy789
@Drosophila (16571)
Ireland
December 29, 2016 6:43am CST
I have a friend who's very good at dropping off the radar.
I usually give up on him after a while, then out of blue he'd get in touch and we'd be like best friends again for a while.
Then, he drops off the radar again.
I must admit, I usually don't have the patience or the time for people like this. But somehow we managed to stay as friends.
As the end of year approaches, am evaluating whether I need to keep certain things including people in my life. I find his name showing up..,
So I wonder, should he stay or should he go?
Do you have friends like this? And what do you do with them?
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12 responses
@moffittjc (121659)
• Gainesville, Florida
31 Dec 16
If he's not causing an unnecessary drama in your life, I see no reason to let him go. Keep him around as a friend...you never know when he will prove useful to you at a later time!
Happy New Year!
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
31 Dec 16
try.. I might have a Xmas tree that needs watering..
Happy NY
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@moffittjc (121659)
• Gainesville, Florida
31 Dec 16
@Drosophila So are you keeping him or not?
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
29 Dec 16
Make sense, I may have written about him in the past, he's the French guy.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
30 Dec 16
@DianneN ah! He's the guy who taught me the French potato bake, and visited in France early this year
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
29 Dec 16
@Drosophila Ooo la la! You never mentioned if he was French or not.
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
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30 Dec 16
I too don't have time for people like that in my life, it's nice to have friends but then you get people like that who thing they came come and go as they please.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
30 Dec 16
Ya I usually just let them drift out of my life
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@Orson_Kart (6827)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 16
Friends don't have to account for their whereabouts to each other. He can come and go as he pleases without telling you. I guess it might be good practice to tell you when he is disappearing and gor how long, but it shouldn't stop you remaining friends.
I have friends I often don't see for years, but it's always great to see them.
Never greet someone you haven't seen for a long time with a snarly "Where the hell have you been? " 
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@Orson_Kart (6827)
• United Kingdom
30 Dec 16
@Drosophila That's because you DO sound like a nagging wife.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
30 Dec 16
lol you made me sound like a nagging wife hahaha
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
30 Dec 16
I guess it depends on whether they are good at keeping touch or not, some people are just terrible
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@just4him (317249)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Dec 16
@Drosophila He sounds like he's been a good friend, even if he doesn't get in touch very often. I have a few friends like that now, but would never give them up.
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@Gita17112016 (3611)
• Trinidad And Tobago
29 Dec 16
Yes, Out of sight out of mind. When the person shows up I pay attention, when they leave, I just forget and take up the threads of my old life. No problems.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
30 Dec 16
That's pretty much what I do, thought I don't know why I am a bit perplexed when this one drops off the radar
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@Gita17112016 (3611)
• Trinidad And Tobago
30 Dec 16
@Drosophila Well, as long as he is not harmed, then until next time you meet. Life goes on.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
29 Dec 16
You have raised an interesting point, am I judging my friend? If so why? Hum... this has never occurred to me, how interesting
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
29 Dec 16
I think you needn't worry about him, he will go on his own and later you can think about whether he is worth welcoming back!! Happy New Year
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
29 Dec 16
You have a point here for sure! Happy new year to you as well
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@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
7 Jan 17
If he's someone you enjoy spending time with when he's around, and his leaving doesn't leave you in the lurch, I'd say keep him as long as you understand this is how he is and he isn't going to change. As long as your not expecting to settle down with him, what's the harm in enjoying him being around when he is?
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
7 Jan 17
you're right here. I usually do a "spring cleaning" every year, and basically pull back the energy/time I invest in things/people if I don't feel it's being utilized appropriately
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
29 Dec 16
I guess I do have some unrealistically high expectations for my friends at times
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
29 Dec 16
He rarely explains his bolts of absence.. and I don't usually feel I should persist with the line of questioning
@Lisa810 (48)
• Tampa, Florida
29 Dec 16
sometimes people just get stuck in a routine and don't get around to reaching out to friends. If the friendship is worth keeping it will resolve itself. And if not I would not worry to much as if he just disappears maybe he just stays gone?
Good luck.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
29 Dec 16
That is true, maybe I should think less of it
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