He wanted me to shut my mom out
By chev marsh
@Jam4321 (577)
Jamaica
January 12, 2017 6:09pm CST
Good day Mylotters!
So I met this guy some time ago and I must admit he was really nice. We talked over the phone a few times and also met up on a few occasions just to talk in person over lunch or just a simply talk in a park. We were going well and decided that we wanted to take it to another level and the full agreement was there.
However, things took another turn when one Saturday morning he called me and asked if I could go to lunch with him. I had to decline because I had to accompany my mom to her doctor's visit for that day. He got so upset over the phone and at one point is exact words were "so isn't she old enough to go by herself? Are you really putting your mom over me?" I was so shocked because I was thinking how could this guy want me in a relationship but yet not want my mom to be a part of my life.
He apparently hung up the phone on me and and sent a message stating as soon as I value him more than my mom, I can call him again. Best believe he didn't get that call at all! I can't believe he was rude enough to even say that. Since lately he has been calling my phone but oh please...he can go to hell for all I care! That stupid man and his selfish ego!
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21 responses
@Jam4321 (577)
• Jamaica
13 Jan 17
Of course and I did go to my mom's visit. If he didn't like it too bad for him.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
13 Jan 17
Wow he sure is needy! I would never call that guy back. Not worthy to speak to you - good luck to him.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
13 Jan 17
@Jam4321 Yep glad the relationship didnt start beyond, imagine what would happen? He is not worth being angry at. You deserve much better.
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@Jam4321 (577)
• Jamaica
13 Jan 17
@infatuatedbby So right about that...hope the next person he meets just be careful and get to know before they make it too serious.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
13 Jan 17
You made the right decision of letting go of him. You'll find another man who'll love you and all that you love.Good thing it came up early while you were still not tied up with him.
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@diosabella (4789)
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13 Jan 17
Sounds like he's narcissist. Good for you. You don't need a guy like that.
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@shaggin (72018)
• United States
14 Jan 17
I dated a guy who was like that. He would fly into a rage if I had to cancel going to see him because one of my kids got sick. I think this guy did you a blessing showing what he is like. Now you know he is not who you want to be with if he reacts like that.
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@allknowing (135276)
• India
14 Jan 17
Good you found out before there was a commitment.
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@yukimori (10143)
• United States
13 Jan 17
It's not unreasonable for a person in a committed relationship with you to expect you to put them first, not a parent.
That said, to call and expect you to drop plans that were already in place just because they want to do something with you is out of line. To start getting verbally abusive because you decide to honor that commitment is ridiculous, and you're absolutely right to have nothing more to do with him.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
14 Jan 17
Better to find this out now than later!! Not worth wasting your time on.
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@melissa1024 (2456)
• Beckley, West Virginia
13 Jan 17
I would have done the same thing as you. Family comes first, especially your parents. A date for lunch can always happen when you are both free. Sounds like to me, he wants to be in control of everything.
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@melissa1024 (2456)
• Beckley, West Virginia
13 Jan 17
@Jam4321 Yes, it's a good thing it did end in the early stages. Nobody needs to be with someone whom is going to control them and keep them from their family. Good thing you realized it before it was too late.
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@Jam4321 (577)
• Jamaica
13 Jan 17
@melissa1024 So true! I also wish any other lady he is talking to they can identify as well before it is too late.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
13 Jan 17
You do not need somebody like that in your life. You did the right thing.
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@Jam4321 (577)
• Jamaica
13 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe So true and the girl that finally decide to say yes must be careful
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@ScholasticJasper (110)
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13 Jan 17
That guy is really disgusting. He don't deserves you.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
13 Jan 17
Looks like you dodged a high caliber bullet! He was either an abusive person (they tend to cut you off from friends and family) or an incredibly infantile jerk. I hope you don't meet another one like that. There seem to be so many of them these days.
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@Jam4321 (577)
• Jamaica
13 Jan 17
Luckily I was flexible enough to dodge that for real...I will be so cautious the next time around and try as best as possible to avoid another like him. Hope other females are careful.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
13 Jan 17
Sounds pretty clingy.. I think you dodged a bullet there.
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@Jam4321 (577)
• Jamaica
13 Jan 17
I believe so too and really glad it went that way...obviously he was up to be a difficult one to deal with.
@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
13 Jan 17
You did the right thing. Your Mom is as important as any personal relation
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
13 Jan 17
it was promising, but it's good that you learned this about each other this early.
it makes me wonder how he and his siblings treat their own parents.
and how he envisions his own senior years.
i wonder if he's expecting his wife to dedicate her life to him and only him.
but what if her health fails first? would he be there 200% for her ?
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@Jam4321 (577)
• Jamaica
13 Jan 17
I can just imagine how for real...I hope if this is how he pledges to continue other ladies can know about him before they make some dreaded mistake.
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 17
Bravo for doing the right thing! His behavior was simply immature, who knows what else he could say or do if the relationship had gone any further.
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