BEHIND CLOSED DOORS.

Only you can answer those questions. I don't see much evidence of abusers changing. In fact they mostly seem to get worse. It's all very well for others to say what you should have done but they weren't dealing with the situation at the time. You're better off out of it.

You did the right thing. People who are abusive will never change. It will only get worse and worse. I know how you feel I had the same reaction from family and so called friends. I stayed a lot longer then I should have and I feel I wasted so much of my life. Nobody deserves to be abused and nobody has the right to judge. They have no say in your life. It is your life and you were the one living it. Good for you for getting out so quickly.

I think that you did the right thing in leaving. I am glad that you had the strength to go

@Kandae11 What you did was right! Those friends of yours or pretty much anyone you ask can have their opinions. At the end of the day, it is you to do what you feel is right and makes you happier. I have said this quite a lot and I just have to say it again but Dr Phil said something once that you and I can both relate to. "It is better to be happy and healthy alone, than sick with someone else." When a person who is physically AND emotionally abusive once, it is already too much when he or she does it the very first time let alone all the other times they keep doing it. You are not stupid. You did nothing wrong. It is not your fault. Anything I say can surely be suggested to you for these are my thoughts and opinions but again like I said, in the end, it's up to you to do what you feel is right. I am so sorry and feel for you to have gone though such a rough and difficult time like that. There are NO excuses for people being a bully. You did the right thing and pat yourself on the back! You and I both know how hard it is to escape from something like that!

I don't believe any women will fault you for leaving that bully. My daughter was also unfortunate to have been a battered wife. Tears still well up just thinking of what she went through. She kept going back to him maybe because he was her first love. It finally ended when he push her down a flight of stairs during one of their many arguments. she was hospitalize and my husband almost killed him. You're lucky you got out early. They don't change.

Only you can decide. Sorry things didn't work out but definitely don't base your actions on what others may think. Take care.

Physical and verbal abuse could make a relationship worst. It was a wise and sane decision on your part to severe the ties with a partner who used to torture you.

I don't think it's another person's business to tell someone else what to do or to pass judgement when it comes to abuse. We all have different levels of pain endurance. How long did you know this person before you married him?

May be counselling could have helped you handle the situation better.

No! If you are physically and mentally abuse by your husband you need to move out. I know other woman who stay out of their marriage because of that, and others who stand beside their husband. I know I've woman who inspite of getting beat up she commit herself to her husband and now they are happy with their kids. It's not an easy decision. But whatever you think is best by the Lord guidance may you have everything that you need in every step of the way as you journey your life. I am really praying to Jesus that you find the best path of your life. Just keep in hanging to your faith and never lose hope. Keep smiling and think positive.

you were very smart.No woman should have to go through with this. Do they have a woman shelter there.To help you. We have one here for years.Working out great for them. Good for you to leave.How nice to return to your mom and dad.Wish you the best of the luck there.

They will not change @Kandae11 . They can say they are sorry, it'll never happen again; but it does. What others think won't matter when you are the one with the black eye, broken nose or fractured ribs. Too much is the 'first' slap or being called 'useless'. I put up with it for 17 1/2 years and my body is so severely damaged, there is no way to repair it.

I'm not the one to answer such a question. Only you are. But statistics say that abusive behavior doesn't change in most people. I think you did what was best for yourself!!!

The question of how much is too much can be answered only by you. i would also want to tell you that you should show very minimum tolerance to such things. Try to save your marriage but not at the cost of you emotions.

Yeah it is good you left, never put up with this abuse. A valid and justified reason. Sorry this had happened to you, I know it myself.

I don't know you , but glad you left, why would you stay longer? you are right no one knows what goes on behind closed doors. Abuse of any kind is not a good thing. I would not have stayed in hopes of someone changing. I hope you re in safe place.

I would never put up with any abuse, I would be right there with you - leaving fast and for good... Take care of yourself.

I'm glad you didn't listen to them but got away from an abusive relationship.

People are too quick to say things about something they have not exprienced. Only you can say if it was too much or not because it was you in that situation. Hope you are better now.

Congratulations on getting away. I am sorry to hear that some people are judging you - but in my opinion no. You should not go back. They don't know exactly what happened and very seldom do abusers change their ways. Stay strong. It always makes me sad, these cases, because what happens? People start in love and one ends abusing the other. Sad indeed.