I AM NO LESS...
By Priya
@creativedesigner (199)
February 16, 2017 6:41am CST
Usually my husband does help me around with the household work. The past 1 week had been hectic for him too and he hasn't been helping as much. As a result, i was overly worked up and tired. I just asked him "Can you do the dishes?" He replied, "I'm tired. You dont work anyway why cant you do everything yourself!!" I was shocked.
Obviously he did apologize to me later but that didn't help. I was left wondering whether I am not worthy enough. Was the decision to be a SAHM not right? Thats when i decided to join work again.
I was once a working woman earning almost $2000 per month at a very young age. I had left myjob owing to visa issues and also decided to look after my baby and planned to get back to work once she was over a year old. This statement from hubby is a wake up call for me. I have decided to look for jobs and start working again. I'm sure my daughter is big enough and makes new friends and understands that mommy is not the one to take things eaily. Im determined to get back to work. I am DETERMINED to do this and prove that I am no less than hubby.
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6 responses
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
16 Feb 17
A person who stays at home is a home maker...which is indeed very very hard work.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
17 Feb 17
@creativedesigner
If a homemaker would just sit one day without actually doing anything,..... the world would accept readily.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
18 Feb 17
As a house manager you have lots of responsibilities and errands to take care. Your hubby should not underestimate your contribution in running the show smoothly. It is an irony that contribution of house wives is not counted in monetary terms.
Undoubtedly, you could look for a job and could become financially independent.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
18 Feb 17
@creativedesigner I would say that a homemaker's job is priceless. For examole - Could we imagine to eat sumptuous home cooked delicacies even in a seven star Hotel? Never.
Therefore, I am of the view that their contribution to build up a family and to bind it together must always be taken into account.
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@creativedesigner (199)
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18 Feb 17
Yes. A homemakers job is worth dollars. Im glad that such words coming from a man. Glad u understand. I will definitely look for job and not give up so soon.
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@shaynas (5487)
• India
18 Feb 17
Being a SAHM is a hectic job, much intense that working in an office. I am a working mom and i say this from my experience. Husbands taunt you any ways, they don't mean it though. They just take the wives for granted and speak whatever comes in the mouth. Once you start working, you might be blamed of not taking care of your kid or not having enough time for her.
All I mean to say here is listen to your heart and decide, no haste decision just because you want to prove yourself to your husband.
@creativedesigner (199)
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18 Feb 17
Yes shayna. I agree. But i assure u my decision is after much thought. Thanku for your kind words.
@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
16 Feb 17
Yes, you will feel much better if you go to work. But then you will be tired as well.
Both my husband and I work. I don't expect my husband to do any housework at all. My husband is like a King at home. 
Goodluck with your job.
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@creativedesigner (199)
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16 Feb 17
Thanks TT. Well even i expect very less. But sometimes the workload becomes too much.
And yeah we may get tired at the end of the day but thats how life is. My mom was a working mother and she is loads of inspiration to me. I was always enjoying luxuries because of her and my dad was a little away from home due to the nature of his work.
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@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
18 Feb 17
@creativedesigner Did you discuss with your husband about you want to go back to work?
@creativedesigner (199)
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18 Feb 17
@atoz1to10 yes i did. Several times. Although he is worried about sendinng the baby to daycare, just like me, he also wants me to go out and socialize and be financially independant. The fact that i have more degrees than him makes him realize the value of my study and he believes that all my hardwork should not go into the drain
@sans224 (1806)
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18 Feb 17
i understand ur emotions and agree you.
its always good of you too can earn.
but u said in the begining that he used to help you and his week was hectic.
so ignore if words feel harsh this time.
just relax
if you can get to a job thats good but dont take it as a revenge
be happy
;-)
@sans224 (1806)
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19 Feb 17
@creativedesigner
thats good
u can look for a new job which can keep a balance between family and work.
@creativedesigner (199)
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18 Feb 17
Yes.
Actually my husband is very good. As i said he apologized later. But the fact that i was financially independant earlier and not now is itching me to take up job.
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