Not asking her anymore.
By Reine25
@Lucky15 (37374)
Philippines
March 2, 2017 7:32pm CST
Going Dutch, but not for her.
I have been going out with few friends lately. Having some time aside from work.
Well, we were okay with going Dutch with what we eat but then someone seem not to be liking it, sort of.
I always asked the bill and had it divided among us after, but this particular person seem to be like, "will give you later" remarks and what make it made us be annoyed is when we can not everything and got a lot of left overs, she would just have herself, as if she had given us her share.
It is not just when we eat outside, even when a colleague invited us, she would ask for a ziplock
, where she can bring some of is offered to us.
Now, we don't invite her anymore.
Is it okay not to?
, where she can bring some of is offered to us.
Now, we don't invite her anymore.
Is it okay not to?22 people like this
26 responses
@Mike197602 (15505)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 17
People should pay their way or not be expecting to be invited to social gatherings.
In the UK we call them skinflints
https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/skinflint
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
3 Mar 17
But if you invite me to dinner, then wouldn't you pay rather than expect me to pay?
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
3 Mar 17
@LoriAMoore hahaha, looks like someone can relate to our experience
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@allknowing (136446)
• India
3 Mar 17
There are always odd people that spoil everything. If it makes you uncomfortable it is best you exclude her. Life is for living, and living happily.
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@allknowing (136446)
• India
3 Mar 17
@Lucky15 Once my friend and I planned to have lunch. First I thought we would each pay for our own. Then I changed my mind and decided to go dutch but was shocked to see the number of items she was ordering. Diplomatically I switched back to paying for our own
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
3 Mar 17
@allknowing hahaha. I would do the same thing
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@flpoolbum (2978)
• United States
3 Mar 17
Yes, she doesn't sound like a considerate person and seems to spoil the fun mood of these events. It is perfectly fine not to invite her along anymore. Have fun and enjoy your time with your friends.
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@much2say (55607)
• Los Angeles, California
3 Mar 17
She seems to be super cheap! We've had friends who did that . . . and after a while we caught on to their ways . . . and yah, no more next time for them. If everyone is paying for their share, then she needs to pay for her share too - that'd only be fair.
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
3 Mar 17
If she expects you to pay for her when the understanding is that everyone pays for themselves...I would not invite her. When she is ready to pay her way she can join you again.
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
3 Mar 17
@Lucky15 then she doesn't join you. No reason to feel guilty.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Mar 17
Yes if I did not like it I would not invite her. But do you think she has no money or food at home? That may be the reason she cant pay her part.
If she is a friend just talk to her and let her know she has to pay her part of she comes with you anymore.
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@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
3 Mar 17
Absolutely okay. She is not a polite guest, but more like a greedy person.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
3 Mar 17
why don't you ask her point blank why she does not give her share? if you are friends, then she should accept your idea of dutch treat. i think she is also working,right?
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
4 Mar 17
@ridingbet she will be still be in some occasions ;))
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Mar 17
@Lucky15 so now, how is she without you? she should already know her mistake right?
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@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
3 Mar 17
Hmmm I won't invite her too if she does that always...
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
4 Mar 17
@brokenbee yes, whether we are in a resto or in a house of a friend, haha
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@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
3 Mar 17
@Lucky15 Yup, I will be ashamed not to share if I am benefited too... Hihihihi And you said she likes to bring home some foods? Hihihi
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
3 Mar 17
Is it just me or is that friend kinda dense? She takes and takes.. what happened to the give part?
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
3 Mar 17
@Lucky15 do you know why she is like that?
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
3 Mar 17
I had an officemate before who had drinking buddies. He's very early and, inf act, is always first to arrive at their drinking venue but when it's time to ask for the bill, he's gone. He always finds reason to go home ahead of the group after he had overfilled himself with what he did not pay for. I guess the tribe like that of your "friend" and our former officemate are aplenty.
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
3 Mar 17
@sunrisefan hahaha. That person is a parent(magulang) :))
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@snowy22315 (180715)
• United States
4 Mar 17
If she doesn't go with the flow...I don't see why you need to include her.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
3 Mar 17
When I had money and would go out with a group, I didn't mind splitting the bill equally between us, even if I had not ordered much. However, when I did not have money, I preferred to have my bill separate from the group. It is not that I minded paying for myself, but when I had a limited amount of money, I would only order the least expensive things. I didn't want to pay $15 when I had only ordered $8 worth of food. Maybe if you do go out with this person again, you can have a separate bill for her, so she will only be paying for her food. That might not seem so objectionable to her.
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