GAMES OF LUST --WHO FEELS IT MORE?

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@Kandae11 (55040)
March 4, 2017 3:29pm CST
In a soap opera I usually watch there is this guy who is a known playboy. He meets the new girl in town who refuses to fall for his charms, but he is very determined. He tries everything, until two months later she finally gives in and they are a couple. He continues to pile on the charm for another three weeks, she begins to fall in love - then she is unceremoniously dumped. This kind of scenario is nothing new - it is played out countless times in real life. Some guys will try every trick in the book to get that particular woman into bed - especially if he thinks she is playing -"hard to get". When he succeeds, she is discarded and he moves on to the next conquest. Of course, this happens the other way around too - some women also do it to men - whether for lust or material gains. I just wonder who feels it more after being dumped in this manner - the woman or the man. What are your thoughts?
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (340286)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Mar 17
I have no idea. Once I would have thought women were most affected but I've seen some men who were really badly affected when a relationship when wrong.
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83505)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Mar 17
JudyEvans, both of them will face their own karma.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (340286)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Mar 17
@Kandae11 That's true. Some can't bear to lose face in this way.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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4 Mar 17
Some men may even resort to violence.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (218967)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Mar 17
I'd say it depends on the person more than the gender. I'm always surprised (as have some of my male friends) by how quickly women find a new man after a relationship ends. But I've heard women say the same thing about men.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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4 Mar 17
Perhaps that is one way they attempt to ease the pain of the breakup - if it was painful that is.
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Alfredo Rossi
@amadeo (111938)
• United States
4 Mar 17
this guy is a hottie there.Not sure what my thoughts are.But this is for the straights?lol
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Alfredo Rossi
@amadeo (111938)
• United States
4 Mar 17
@Kandae11 Not sure about that.you will find that most of them are gay.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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4 Mar 17
Most playboys usually are.
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DianneN
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
4 Mar 17
No idea. That hasn't happened to me.
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83505)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Mar 17
@Kandae11 agree because there is karma.
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DianneN
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
4 Mar 17
@Kandae11 I wouldn't be surprised.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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4 Mar 17
From what I have heard and read, it can affect both sexes in various ways.
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Mike
@Mike197602 (15505)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 17
I am single and plan to stay that way Yes I get feelings of lust...especially at work as our place seems to hire a lot of hot ladies The reality is relationships going wrong are destructive to one or both parties so I choose not to enter into one.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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4 Mar 17
I was unfortunate in marriage, so now I am very happy being single.
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G
@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
5 Mar 17
I think it really depends.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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5 Mar 17
Yes it does - like how emotional the dumped person might be for example.
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G
@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
5 Mar 17
@Kandae11 right. And how much emotions were invested.
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Nawsheen
@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
5 Mar 17
I don't really know. I think it depends.
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Nawsheen
@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
5 Mar 17
@Kandae11 I personally know someone who loved a boy but got married to another man just because he was rich. And after the marriage she said she was sad but it didnt seem so. And she is still with the same man today
Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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5 Mar 17
On how emotional the dumped one is.
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Always smiling
@allknowing (136630)
• India
5 Mar 17
Every situation is different I guess depending on who dumped who.
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Always smiling
@allknowing (136630)
• India
5 Mar 17
@Kandae11 Dumping is seen in many situations. One has to develop a thick skin to face dumping.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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5 Mar 17
@allknowing - That is so true.
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Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
5 Mar 17
I am not sure who feels it more. But these days this is very common thing people use other's for their sake and dump them once they use them.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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5 Mar 17
That is so true.
Marie
@Tampa_girl7 (50291)
• United States
5 Mar 17
I never had to deal with this problem. My husband is the only man I have ever been intimate with. I can't even imagine the pain and hurt that people must feel.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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5 Mar 17
Indeed, those actors in the show were so real - even though I haven't experienced it, I really felt it for that girl.
Bobby Larkin
@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
5 Mar 17
i think i have been on both sides of your story
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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5 Mar 17
Ha ha - you have dumped and been dumped.
Joanie
@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
6 Mar 17
I know some men who take a break up really hard but try to keep from showing it. It depends on the personality I guess.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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7 Mar 17
Yes , it would depend on that - some take it quietly while others may get violent.
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83505)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Mar 17
They are the same humans, so both suffers guilt and regret.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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5 Mar 17
Some may take it harder than others.
ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 Mar 17
lust does not last long if love is not there. if love is present, it should be passion
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ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Mar 17
@Kandae11 yes i agree. it should be passionate love
Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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5 Mar 17
Both would be a great combination I think -- love and lust.
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Notlilie
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
5 Mar 17
That would depend on who's being dump I guess. The one that play around only feel he or she just won another conquest. It doesn't matter if it's a woman or a man. When we love someone, it will hurt when your partner is only playing around with you.
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Go Crossbones
@crossbones27 (49491)
• Mojave, California
4 Mar 17
This seems to be coming more common with both sexes. Probably be best if people are just out front about it and let the other party know they are not looking for a serious relationship. When people do it that way, usually no one gets hurt or angry.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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4 Mar 17
That is exactly the way it should be - no "beating around the bush" - just be upfront from the beginning.
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RasmaSandra
@RasmaSandra (79962)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Mar 17
My thoughts are that men who do that and women are not very nice people and they are terrible to hurt others in this way. It can unfortunately end in real life making one depressed or wanting to end their life.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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4 Mar 17
You are so right, that kind of behavior can have disastrous results for both parties.
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Aunt Bling
@workathomefan (8957)
• Prairieville, Louisiana
4 Mar 17
I have never been a soap opera person.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55040)
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4 Mar 17
I watch those which deal with real life scenarios.