~Don't Need Friends Like That~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
March 9, 2017 7:16am CST
Good morning everyone. I hope your all doing okay and I hope this discussion will make sense with my exhaustion level. Lol.
I was thinking a little bit ago about a friend who says she cares and misses me but yet lives 30 minutes away and never comes to see me and only calls once a month. I don't drive so unfortunately the only effort I'm able to make is calling or texting-which I was doing a lot.
You know, I'm getting to the point in my life where I know everyone is in your life for a season-some longer than others. I also know I'm happy with my own family and I don't need people in my life who don't want to be in it...
I don't want or need friends who don't actually care. If you want to be a good friend-you have to make an effort of some sort.
I have enough real life stress to worry about so not sweating the small stuff.
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31 responses
@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
9 Mar 17
As they say, when we grow older the lesser friends we have but only the true ones remain.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Mar 17
@nottoooldtowrite That's the truth. We only need the real ones in our lives.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
9 Mar 17
@LovingMyBabies quality over quantity.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Mar 17
@marlina Yeah I was just writing it out here so I was able to move on.
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
9 Mar 17
@LovingMyBabies Good therapy to write it out.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Mar 17
@Ladyduck Yeah I'm good with my husband and kids. I like having a friend or two but only ones that want to be in my life.
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@LadyDuck (470798)
• Switzerland
9 Mar 17
@LovingMyBabies Same for me, I do not care of those who never have time for you.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Mar 17
@amnabas A phone call or text doesn't take long. I have 5 children, a husband and 2 dogs. I still make time for people I care about. That's not a good excuse to me...
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
9 Mar 17
Yes I do agree with that. Where she knows that you don't drive she should make the effort to come visit or arrange sometime together. Time slips away and people get busy and lose track of time. I don't have many friends and I am okay with that but sometimes it is nice to have good friends to spend time with or talk with. 
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Mar 17
@Happy2beme Yeah she swore when we moved she would still come visit but she's been here one time since we moved.
I miss her but I won't beg anyone to be in my life. I have my family things going on so it's okay.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
9 Mar 17
@LovingMyBabies Yes I agree. You shouldn't have to beg people to be in your life.
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@GardenGerty (160491)
• United States
10 Mar 17
You have to watch where you spend your energy. It is not your job to always be the one reaching out.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Mar 17
@Gardengerty Yeah it's very one sided and when I do text I get one word answers. Not really worth it to me.
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
9 Mar 17
I actually keep a small circle of friends. It is not the quantity that counts but the quality.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Mar 17
@allen0187 I absolutely agree with you.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Mar 17
I am pretty picky about my friends. I have a few and those are special. I don't worry about having a lot. Quality, not quantity.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Mar 17
@LovingMyBabies ......Better you learn that now before you have put more time into it.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Mar 17
@celticeagle I don't have many friends either, but this one I thought was a good friend. Apparently not.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Mar 17
@sjvg1976 Yeah I'm good with my husband and kids. I can't put in one sided effort anymore with people.
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@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
10 Mar 17
I have two close friends, one I've known since Junior High and the other I was in the Army with, whom I don't see or talk to very often, sometimes not for months or years, but because they are truly friends, the time between doesn't matter as when we do get the chance to talk or meet, we pick up right where we left off. If your friend isn't that kind of friend, perhaps cutting the tie, if it leads to you being less stressed, is the right thing to do.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Mar 17
@DWDavis Yeah I think so too even though that makes me sad.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Mar 17
@dwdavis It's not like that with her unfortunately. We don't really connect anymore and when I do make contact I feel like a burden more than anything else.
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@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
11 Mar 17
@LovingMyBabies Then I think you know it's time to cut the ties that bind you to her, for your own sake.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
9 Mar 17
Friendship is a two-way street - sounds like she's on a one-way road.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Mar 17
@Abbygreenhill Yes it is a 2 way street-and this relationship has been only one sided lately.
@Tampa_girl7 (50080)
• United States
10 Mar 17
I just read the other day that when you feel someone is avoiding you or ignoring you , just don't disturb them
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Mar 17
@Tampa_girl7 Yeah I can't put energy into someone who isn't going to do the same for me.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Mar 17
@jstory07 She used to be an amazing friend and I held her close for so long but now I feel like I annoy her when I do make contact.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
10 Mar 17
Why doesn't the friend come over? I do know what you mean, I have people in my life like that also.
@JamesHxstatic (29413)
• Eugene, Oregon
9 Mar 17
I agree that your attitude here is best with people like that. There is a lack of sincerity in some.
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@workathomefan (8957)
• Prairieville, Louisiana
22 Mar 17
A friendship is a two way street not a one way street.
@punit7724 (101)
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10 Mar 17
Why all this happenes !!. I mean that person may also feels just same thing but for someone else. Why can't we what is our real happiness.
my friend, she was so into me few months ago, just like that season thing. She was mine from every angle but only for that season. Then a boy came into her life and now she don't even talk to me and guess what that new boy also don't give a damn to her.
so basically here i want her in my life but she don't get in my life and she want to be in that new boy's life but that boy don't want it. Why can't we understand our real happiness?
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