She is 90 years of age but still wants not be dependent.
By Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41281)
Delhi, India
March 25, 2017 10:30pm CST
Hello friends, my father's sister is of 90 years and still she lives alone.
Unlike US here in India old age homes are not so common.
She was married at the age of 14 years but her husband died within 2~3 months and ours being an orthodox family she was not married again.
She spent her 5~6 years of her life at in-laws house then permanently shifted to her parents house and spent her most of the life there but when parents were no more alive she chose to live alone instead of living with any of her brother.
I feel pity on her as now she can't walk properly . I have asked her to come to our house and love with us for her rest of life but she doesn't like an idea .
Recently she came to my house and spent 3 months here and was upset when was going back and said to my wife that she doesn't want to go back but she will have to go.
I am worried how she is going to live but she is living . I talk to her over phone daily to know how she is.
Hope so she lives long and come back to us to live with us for rest of her life.
Unlike US here in India old age homes are not so common.
She was married at the age of 14 years but her husband died within 2~3 months and ours being an orthodox family she was not married again.
She spent her 5~6 years of her life at in-laws house then permanently shifted to her parents house and spent her most of the life there but when parents were no more alive she chose to live alone instead of living with any of her brother.
I feel pity on her as now she can't walk properly . I have asked her to come to our house and love with us for her rest of life but she doesn't like an idea .
Recently she came to my house and spent 3 months here and was upset when was going back and said to my wife that she doesn't want to go back but she will have to go.
I am worried how she is going to live but she is living . I talk to her over phone daily to know how she is.
Hope so she lives long and come back to us to live with us for rest of her life.11 people like this
14 responses
@mgeet111 (30)
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26 Mar 17
Admire the strong will of this senior citizen. There are those,who like to depend on others,even when fit,who could take inspiration too.
One thing bit puzzling is,when both of you have no problem if she lives in your home,why cant you persuade her to live with your family,permanently.If you cannot do so,present situation is best.
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@pammooratan (4668)
• India
26 Mar 17
Some people prefer self respect and not to like live with others.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
27 Mar 17
Even here in the US people just don't want to up and move. It is hard to when they are so independent. All you can do is be there show them you care and be willing to help out if needed.
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@allknowing (136563)
• India
26 Mar 17
You and your wife are great people that you are willing to have an old person in our life. These days we hardly come across such couples
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
27 Mar 17
I think it's her way of keeping her dignity intact- to live alone than living with relatives and feel that she is a burden. Maybe when she finally can't move anymore, then she have no choice but to ask for your help.
Yes, just keep calling her as to how she is. 
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@anushreem (333)
• Mumbai, India
27 Mar 17
I can understand your emotion. At that age if she wish to live on her own then a respect for her will power however you should always be in touch with her and make sure to pamper her with things she like. She has not seen happiness throughout her life, make sure she is happy by whatever way possible. You will be blessed forever.
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@Shwetasingh (1333)
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26 Mar 17
Wow you are a good person. Defiantly we should help our elders as much as we can. But actually time has made her very strong now she will never like to stay with somebody as she doesn't want to trouble you. But try to convince her.
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