My heart hurts and is broken completely now

Since both of you cheat I don't know why it is suddenly such a problem but you do whatever you have to in order to be happy.

I thought you were seeing people behind your husbands back too...what's the problem if you're both doing it

but you cheat on him too. I don't know why you are so upset.

Maybe your parents can help you get away and find work I really hope so.

Well at least you know you can walk away with clean ties hopefully?

If you're serious about leaving him, do it. There are resources available for single mothers that can help you get on your feet even if all of your ducks aren't quite in place yet. Reach out to the state department that administers the welfare programs like SNAP and see if they can recommend anything, local charities and churches, anything that you think might help. I think you've mentioned that he does abusive stuff like withholding money from you or keeping you from working outside the home? If that's the case (or he does anything else that would be considered abusive) get in touch with a local DV shelter. They have great resources that can help you out. Even a regular shelter at this point might be a better option than staying there. Have you been to your doctor recently? It may not be a bad idea to go get a full STD panel done just to make sure you're healthy in that regard.

This has tostop as its not goo d for you' and your s on either he straightens up and ' flies right which does not seem likely or you have to get out of ther Is there anyone who can help you to leave him, relative or friend'' 'you might try putting a fund me in "Face book to get funds to find lodging and a j ob wish I klnew more to suggest. I will s end prayers for you and your son to be able to leave him now

So sorry! It seems that we must know how to earn our keep when we become adults. I hope you find a way.

I don´t really know what to say as I don´t know anything about this. However I do wish you all the best in starting a new life again. Good luck and all best thoughts going out to you.

Sorry to hear this he should not have lied to you about this reguardless if he thought he would lose you and your son that is not right. I hope you figure out a income for you and a place to stay and get the heck out of there it is not good for you or your son.

Are you mad at the fact that he hide this "secret" so well? Or he spent money on wasteful things and cheated?I honestly don't get the relationship you both have since you cheat on him also. But I hope you will do what is best for yourself and your son.

I just wanna ask if your husband knew that you cheated on him too. How did he handled it? You said that this is his first time to do that thing. If your husband had learned to accept what you did to him before and even continue on living with you and your son, isn't if fair to do the same thing for him this time?

FYI Open marriage, anti biblical

Do not worry. There is a scientific research that suggests people with low IQ are more likely to cheat than people with high IQ. To tell you the truth as it is from what I understand as a guy, you said "No wonder he was dressed so nice that weekend..." that tells you he had planned to cheat. He is taking you for a fool telling you he didn't wanna lose you thus he lied to you etc the truth is, he's been playing you for much longer than that. The only difference is that the time you mentioned, he did it in a different state and probably with a new cheating partner. Let's be honest, you suspected him from way before that 6 months ago because your subconscious mind is well aware of what he has done and is trying to give you a hint. As much as he shared his body with someone else other than you, you are hurting not because he cheated, but because he lied to you. Before you leave, try all that you can to save your relationship. I can see as I am typing this that you have learnt the truth like not more than 48 hours ago. Don't just make a rush decision to leave. Ask yourself these: 1) Are you leaving because it is the best thing for you and your son or are you leaving because you have been desiring to leave and be independent for some time now (At least 3 months)? 2) How much QUALITY TIME do you spend as a family and as you alone with him VS QUANTITY TIME? 3) Have you spoken to successful couple in marriage about the problems in your marriage ?(A mature couple like father and mother age but not actually your father or mother or his parents or people who know them because you don't want them interfering lest both sides start pointing fingers at the other making things even worse) 4) Have you tried talking to Jesus? I am a bible believing christian and even the bible allows you to divorce just because of Adultery if you cannot forgive. I suggest that you work on it for at least another year or two as you find yourself a job, secure it and grow in it and pile up your money but spend his so that you gauge if you are able to forgive him (which won't happen if he continues cheating) and then from there carry out your separation plans. 5) Spend more time with him and do some brain exercising challenges, IQ tests together, math challenges to increase his IQ.

It seems like things have been bad with you and your husband for years. Maybe it is time to cut the cord. I am sorry nonetheless. It is never easy.

I am sorry to hear that. Take time to think it over, my friend. It would be difficult but I know you are strong enough to deal with this later

Prayers to you to escape that awful situation

Sorry to hear this. I am sorry you are hurting so badly. You need to do what is best for you and your son. You do not have to live this way.

So sorry to hear what you're going through. Hope everything works out for you and your son.

I wonder what kind of marriage is that, you guys cheat on yourselves...marriage is marriage no matter what but since he is afraid to loose you...I think you guys should put things in order