Going to lunch with a friend. Why I might "have" *her* for lunch.

@TheHorse (217901)
Walnut Creek, California
April 12, 2017 2:14pm CST
A friend just called and asked if I wanted to do lunch. I was going to keep doing progress notes and eat some Trader Joe's Indian food--not very exciting--so I said yes. She's a good friend, and an adult (in her 50s), but she has the unsavory habit of checking her cell phone when when we're involved in conversation. Once, when I was telling her about my feelings about my Uncle passing, she laughed. I asked if she thought my Uncle passing was funny. No, it was a funny text from another friend. If she does that today, I might have to...well... you know...
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
12 Apr 17
House rule...no cell phones at the table. . I like the idea of the cellphone stack when you go out for a meal with a group. All cellphones are stacked on the center of the table (no answering your phone). If you grab your phone to make or recieve a call or text, you pay for everyone's meal. Obviously there would be exceptions if there is an emergency responder or equivalent at the meal, but I'm sure you get the gist.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50089)
• United States
14 Apr 17
@Morleyhunt that is a great idea
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
Won't everyone say, "Oh, I thought it was my mother/grandmother/cousin/dog-walker/butcher/UPS man who had a stroke last year"?
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
13 Apr 17
@TheHorse they pay the bill...I'm ordering the most expensive entree....I know I can leave my phone alone.
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• United States
12 Apr 17
I hope she isn't using her phone while having lunch with you =)
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• United States
12 Apr 17
@TheHorse Hehe glad she was nice and you didnt eat her up this time! Did you have Japanese food today? :)
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
@infatuatedbby I did. It was yummy. Do you like eating Japanese? Notice how I worded the question.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Apr 17
She was good enough that I didn't have her for lunch. She even shared her miso soup with me.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
12 Apr 17
What a rude and callous thing to do while a friend is sharing his sorrow. I would not lunch with her again and might even strike her off my friends list. People are so involved in their phones now that they have stopped living. Have a nice lunch! I hope she can enjoy your company without distraction.
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@MALUSE (69373)
• Germany
12 Apr 17
@TheHorse I'd also drop her from my list of friends.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Apr 17
I just see it as an addiction, like any other addiction.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Apr 17
@MALUSE She was able to restrain herself for most of the meal today.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Apr 17
I would feel like grabbing that dratted cell phone and hiding it till she wanted to leave.I really think that sort of thing is rude
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Apr 17
I should carry a small flamethrower with me for just such an occasion.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Apr 17
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
12 Apr 17
I would at least "put her" in her place.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Apr 17
She's fairly well marbled. I'd rather have her over for a rich stew a salad.
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
13 Apr 17
well my comment won't mean a thing.Does not have my swing.Oh!where am I going with this. My comment is different.Not serious,but funny.You have good one below
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
13 Apr 17
@TheHorse thank for the video I loved it.Do have this somewhere If I can find it.Typical.LOL
@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
Some thing are timeless. Like conversation. And really good music.
It don't mean a thing, if it ain't got that swing (doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah) It don't mean a thing all you got ...
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Apr 17
And she's a 'good friend'?
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Apr 17
@TheHorse .....I guess the meaning is different for different people.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
14 Apr 17
@celticeagle I will not "blow off" friends if they develop an addiction, whether it's to heroin, gambling, or cell phones.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
She actually is!
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@LadyDuck (470819)
• Switzerland
13 Apr 17
I have a rule when I have lunch (or dinner) with someone, if I see a cellphone on her/his hand or on the table, I get up and I go.
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@LadyDuck (470819)
• Switzerland
14 Apr 17
@TheHorse Yes I did, I gave them a warning and it was only one warning. Our niece understood immediately that she had to keep her phone in her handbag when we met and had lunch together, because it happened that I left her alone in a restaurant.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
14 Apr 17
@LadyDuck Have you had lunch with her since?
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
Do you give them a warning? I'd like to do the same!
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@pgntwo (22408)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
12 Apr 17
Drop her phone in her soup?
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Apr 17
@Gillygirl She avoided using her phone for most of the meal. Else I was going to drop *her* in the miso soup.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
@Gillygirl I didn't say a thing. She knows how I feel.
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• United States
12 Apr 17
I hope you were able to enjoy a nice lunch with your friend and her phone
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
She lasted for about 1/2 hour.
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@cacay1 (83334)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Apr 17
Hahahahahaso funny friend of yours , she should have put off her mobile phone or say some excuse words she you won't be annoyed hehehe,
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
14 Apr 17
@cacay1 Usually, she's just checking for messages from family. But the chase was cool. It was like OJ on steroids. Wait. OJ probably WAS on steroids. I meant it was like the OJ chase but on steroids.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
She usually has an excuse. Nah, really, she doesn't bother with one. She's hooked. Actually, we would up watching a high speed chase in LA together for awhile. It was funny.
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@cacay1 (83334)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Apr 17
@TheHorse wow that is so nice, maybe are used to her style, just ride on to enjoy her company.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
13 Apr 17
That is one thing that ticks me off more than anything @TheHorse . When I see somebody doing that I say, "Excuse me, am I bothering you?" They'll give you that quizzical look and I'll say, "I'm sorry if I'm an inconvenience."
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
If I'm talking and they do it, I say, "Oh, I can wait." They get the idea.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
14 Apr 17
@nanette64 A fella's gotta do what a fella's gotta do.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
14 Apr 17
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
2 Nov 17
To tell you the truth I would not go out to lunch with her anymore if she cannot put her phone down during the lunch. That is so rude. I would say something to see if she was listening at all and then tell her that you are having lunch and if she cannot put her phone down or turn it off completely then you will walk out and leave her with the full check. That may get her attention.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Nov 17
I don't think I could bring myself to do that with her.
@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
3 Nov 17
@Hannihar You didn't overstep. It's just one of those friendships where I have to accept that bad habit.
@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
2 Nov 17
@TheHorse I am sorry if I overstepped. It is that it is so rude and didn't she invite you? She should be all there when you are talking and it sounds like she is not.
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@Kandae11 (54981)
12 Apr 17
Do what?
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Apr 17
Well, have her for lunch... See the movie clip that @mythociate linked in his comment. It's perfect.
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@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
13 Apr 17
Well I hope your friend does not do that again to you. It sucks how so many people rely on their phones and going out to eat now a days you cant engage in a conversation. When I'm out with my boyfriend i do not even get on my cell phone as i pay all my attention to him. That's how it should be.
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@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
14 Apr 17
@TheHorse Yes he does
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
14 Apr 17
@Blondie2222 Glad to hear that!
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
Does he do the same?
@allknowing (135331)
• India
13 Apr 17
This cell thing annoys me no end. These visitors tag they cell phone along.
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@allknowing (135331)
• India
13 Apr 17
@TheHorse Anyone relatives, neighbours, friends the works (lol)
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Nov 17
@allknowing I wish they'd leave the blasted things in the car.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
Which visitors?
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Apr 17
I am surprised more places dont have cell blockers to prevent that, lol
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• Centralia, Missouri
17 Apr 17
@TheHorse true, or maybe just a cell free room
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Nov 17
@Jessicalynnt My cabin in Montana is a cell-free room. Heh.
@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
Sadly, in this day and age, they'd lose business!
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@JudyEv (338682)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Apr 17
I can't understand how people can't see how rude this is. Yet everyone seems to do it.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
When I finally get a "non-stupid" phone, I'm going to leave it in the frigging car when I'm about to interact with humans, young or old.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
@JudyEv I enjoy the internet when I'm alone at home. When I'm around real humans, I enjoy...humans...Maybe I'm misguided.
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@JudyEv (338682)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Apr 17
@TheHorse Well done! I really hope you are able to stick to this promise.
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@teamfreak16 (43418)
• Denver, Colorado
13 Apr 17
Kind of rude. I turn my phone off.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
That's the best way to go. Do your fingers tremble to turn it on?
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Nov 17
@teamfreak16 Thank goodness.
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@teamfreak16 (43418)
• Denver, Colorado
13 Apr 17
@TheHorse - No, not really.
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@ron484 (27)
12 Apr 17
That is really irritating.... I totally understand how you feel. That's the problem with people nowadays.... They are always busy with their phones which is really bad....
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Apr 17
@ron484 They'll pay the price.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Apr 17
They lose the opportunity to actually interact with each other.
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@ron484 (27)
13 Apr 17
@TheHorse exactly
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