The Last Words Heard by a Dying Man
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (140102)
Philippines
April 15, 2017 11:51pm CST
"Have you experience to whisper to a dying person?" It was three years ago when my father left us. I vividly remember the last day of his life here on earth. He was been comatose for more than 2 weeks.
My family and I continued to talk to him. He responded by twitching his leg. It was said that hearing is the last sense to be lost for a dying individual. We took the chance of letting him hear that family is always there for him no matter what.
When his vital signs were fluctuating, I had sensed that my father is fighting for his life. But the physical state is weakening for being in a comatose state. Then, I stood up and went to his side. I moved my face to his ear and said, "It is fine to let go." "Your family will be fine." "You can take a rest now."
After few minutes, his heart beat stop and monitor showed the flat line. I felt relief that my father took the chance to rest. He fought hard but things cannot be controlled. God knows how hard we also fought for him. I am sure he is out there and continued to guide his family.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
16 Apr 17
There's something special about seeing a loved one into the next world. My husband and I both shared special times with our mothers before they finally passed. My mom was only in the coma for a couple of days, and I did not leave her. The Hospice nurse had already told us she would leave us that day, but she kept hanging on. I suspected that she was waiting to say goodbye to my brother who would not be able to get there for five more days. He lives five hours away and was coming every Saturday while she was sick. This was only Tuesday. Finally, about 5 PM, I called him and told him I thought he should call Mom and say goodbye and give her permission to leave if she was ready. I held the phone up to her ear, and after twenty minutes Mom was gone. I'm so grateful for the help Hospice gave us in understanding how patients feel and what to do once the coma starts.
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@Shavkat (140102)
• Philippines
17 Apr 17
There are some situations that we can't explain. Some dying people are waiting for someone before having the last breath. It was me whom he didn't hear for a couple days because I was in denial. Then, it was that day that he heard my voice. I was hoping for a miracle but it didn't happen.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
16 Apr 17
It is heart-wrenching to lose a close family member @Shavkat . I drove like a maniac for 10 hours to reach my Mother's bedside. She passed before I got there. I'm so glad you got to say goodbye to your Dad.
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@Shavkat (140102)
• Philippines
17 Apr 17
During that time, it was my brother should stay in the hospital. But then, I was hesitant to go home. Thus, I decided to stay. I realized that I am going to say goodbye to him. I feel sorry for your lose too. I am sure your dear mother knows that you'd tried to see her for the last minute.
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@diosabella (4789)
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16 Apr 17
I'm so sorry about your dad. But I know where ever he is, he is very proud of his family.
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@galileo2008 (1168)
• Philippines
18 Feb 18
This is a really sad story and I am sorry for your loss. My husband's mother have gone through all the pain of having cancer and it caused so much agony to the entire family, too. When she's about to say goodbye, my husband whispered to her ear that she can rest and not to worry about them. They said she was just waiting for my husband before she will go. It's really hard and painful.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
16 Apr 17
I am sorry for the loss of your dear Father Shavkat.
I also believe that he is around all of you.
Yes also I am glad that you were there for him in his last moments. RIP
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
17 Apr 17
@Shavkat A positive outlook Shavkat.
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@manasamanu (3746)
• Bangalore, India
16 Apr 17
You have had a loss, your father. Nobody can take his spot in your life. You were so brave in such a situation to utter those words. He was surely happy and finally rested his life knowing that his work on earth is complete. He has made you strong that you can lead your's and your family's life to a happier and safer path. This is what every father wants his child to be. To be a better person and individual, so he may not be worried to take the path of peace and finally rest.
@definitelynotaziz (262)
• Nanjing, China
16 Apr 17
I'm sorry for your loss. The last person that meant a lot to me who passed away was my grandma, and unfortunately I didn't get the chance to hear her last words.
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