Have you ever given up on someone? why..

@Basilo (670)
April 17, 2017 1:48am CST
Have you reached a point where you decide to give up on someone? Not really being too much egoistic or individualistic, but you've just realized they take you nowhere? They don't help you grow either do they return the love for them, the generosity and respect you give them. These are the people you'll beg for their attention not because you're naive of anything but because you appreciate the art of loving, the reason to keep company and the unending belief in diversity. However, they will end up doing the opposite: commanding your attention when they need it, always ready to throw the accusing finger and in high defensive voices. But I certainly believe it will reach a point when the warm heart just decides to turn cold when your full stretch of generosity is exhausted, and the heart just gives up on someone. Don't fear to do this, don't hesitate giving yourself the best food~run away from what kills your self-esteem, the unappreciative friend and that person who takes your good heart for granted and ensure you feed your heart with its food. Food that in all ways, makes it grow, develops you and give you motivation. Is this really realistic? have you ever given up on someone? let's see why...
5 people like this
9 responses
Happy Lady and Freya the Catblog Cat
@Jackalyn (7558)
• Oxford, England
17 Apr 17
Yes. There is a thinking in Christian circles you never give up on people. Sometimes the best and Biblical thing is to let them go but to keep on praying. Otherwise they consume you mentally,spiritually and physically.
2 people like this
wongchoiyee
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 17
@Basilo exactly what I think you should be. In that way, you will relieve yourself from sadness these people give you.
1 person likes this
The Horse
@TheHorse (218576)
• Walnut Creek, California
17 Apr 17
That's a tough one. I never stop hoping good things for them (some would call it "praying for them"). But one has to have boundaries.
1 person likes this
Basilo
@Basilo (670)
•
17 Apr 17
I think today I have learned a lot, we should give up on people but let them give up on us
2 people like this
scheng1
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
17 Apr 17
I doubt I will have this issue. I am not an emotional person by nature, and I do not have much expectation of anyone. For me, I believe that when a student is ready to learn, a teacher will appear. Some people are very foolish in money matter, but very kind-hearted, and caring. Some people are very sensible in money matter, but not endearing at all. it takes all kinds and I like to befriend all of the different characters by matching to their emotional and intellectual makeup.
2 people like this
Basilo
@Basilo (670)
•
17 Apr 17
wow, this is so unique of you, as we all say, diversity is the spice of life. if we can entertain all the different kinds of people, from their character to their pretense them you're actually a great spirit..
1 person likes this
scheng1
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
17 Apr 17
@Basilo It sure makes life interesting. If you know a person so well that you can foresee their next speech or action, you will not get disappointed that they do not see your point of view.
Basilo
@Basilo (670)
•
17 Apr 17
@scheng1 yeah, it is interesting if you've understood someone to that level... you won't judge them either
1 person likes this
Toni
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
17 Apr 17
I have given up on a lot of people because they drag me down and not lift me up. Especially those people who only considered me as a friend during the times they needed me but don't remember me when they don't need anything.
1 person likes this
Toni
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
17 Apr 17
@Basilo Right. But I learned something from them which I'm very grateful. And that's valuing myself more than others.
1 person likes this
Basilo
@Basilo (670)
•
17 Apr 17
@toniganzon ooh great. you must love yourself as much as they love themselves. great lesson indeed
1 person likes this
Basilo
@Basilo (670)
•
17 Apr 17
so true, we must keep our lives at peace. only by not engaging with people who turn us into objects, who don't value us
1 person likes this
The Horse
@TheHorse (218576)
• Walnut Creek, California
17 Apr 17
I kind of gave up on a friend who became Schizophrenic and was verbally abusive toward his former friends.
Basilo
@Basilo (670)
•
17 Apr 17
that was so unfortunate...
Chris Bergstrom
@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
17 Apr 17
Yes sometimes for your own sanity and well being you have to give up you can still wish for the best but now t be so involved
Basilo
@Basilo (670)
•
17 Apr 17
exactly,we must be sane when it comes to our own lives
1 person likes this
Chris Bergstrom
@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
17 Apr 17
@Basilo very true
1 person likes this
Zoega59
@zoega_59 (59)
• Haninge, Sweden
17 Apr 17
I have said bye to many who has been energy consumers
wongchoiyee
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 17
Yes I been giving up a few friends who used to be good friends as they no longer interested to be friend with you. You know that ugly feeling? The more you appreciate them, the more they will no longer interested with you.
Shavkat
@Shavkat (139827)
• Philippines
17 Apr 17
The last time that I did this when my ex- betrayed me.
Sasha
@diosabella (4789)
•
17 Apr 17
A long time ago I given out my 2 bestfriend at the same time but with different reasons. The first one, because she rather believe with someone else than us her friends and I'm just fed up with it. The 2nd, because he doesn't need the additional stress from me being present in his life. I'm not saying I'm a bad friend but some people just don't understand our friendship and it tends to be stressful when someone put me in between when I have nothing to do with anything.