MALE OR FEMALE?

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@Kandae11 (55164)
April 24, 2017 7:39am CST
Has this ever happened to you? - well it happened to me back at my former site and the same problem has arisen here. I may be commenting back and forth on a member's discussions while under the impression that I am interacting with a male or a female - then something they write would alert me to the fact that the member is of the other sex. I feel rather silly when this happens. For privacy reasons, not showing one's true self in a profile pic is understandable - but a short bio on the profile page would indeed be helpful. What do you think?
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
24 Apr 17
I wrote a similar post a long time ago, and my suggestion was that they have a simple F or M on the profile page. That would stop any misunderstandings.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
24 Apr 17
@Kandae11 Yes, if they would put that initial right next to our names on our profile page it would be great.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
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@Kandae11 (55164)
24 Apr 17
That is a very good idea, - but it seems no one listened. This one should serve as a reminder.
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@Courtlynn (67080)
• United States
24 Apr 17
Agree. Ive questioned which gender some people here are because of not having their picture up, and names not being helpful.
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@Courtlynn (67080)
• United States
24 Apr 17
@Kandae11 i know just saying some have names that could be or male or female so it doesnt help, when the picture isn't of a person
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@Kandae11 (55164)
24 Apr 17
They won't have to put pictures - a short bio should suffice.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
24 Apr 17
I have not included any profile picture or bio. I had people mistaking me for a male. I guess i will have to write a short bio. Thank you for this discussion
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@Kandae11 (55164)
24 Apr 17
Sometimes we can guess from the discussion - but not always.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
24 Apr 17
@HAPPSINGH thanks
@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
24 Apr 17
@Kandae11 i totally agree.
@allknowing (137822)
• India
25 Apr 17
That continues to happen to me (lol)
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@allknowing (137822)
• India
25 Apr 17
@Kandae11 I wish it was mandatory for us to mention our gender.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
We are supposed to be good at guessing.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
@allknowing These sites try not to put too much pressure on members - which is good in a way.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 17
I have made this mistake as well and then feel kind of silly. I do wish everyone would say if they are male or female. Some of the names say opposite of their actual gender.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
24 Apr 17
I am glad that others have noticed this.
• United States
25 Apr 17
I ran into that with one person in particular. The photo is very masculine so I 'assumed'.... It is up to each one if they want to put a bio or not and how much to announce.
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• United States
25 Apr 17
@Kandae11 People are weird. Heck, I don't use my real name so I'm weird too.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
@AbbyGreenhill A username I would consider a different matter - almost everyone does that.
@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
That is true - we do have a choice. Somehow I didn't think disclosing if you are male pr female would be a big deal for anyone - maybe I was wrong.
@snowy22315 (182217)
• United States
25 Apr 17
It might help,,,it is usually pretty easy to pick up from the name whether you are talking to a man or woman though. I did get confused once this week though..It turns out I was right, but I thought I was wrong.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
It cannot be easy to pick up from a username - but a regular name - yes.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
25 Apr 17
Yes, it's happened to me also. I like when there is a picture, it make s it easy to now. If they are concerned about privacy, they can get a picture on Pixabay.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
26 Apr 17
@Kandae11 Or, we can give ourselves a name that reflects our gender even if it is not our real name.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
Very good idea.
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
25 Apr 17
Yes. Sometimes I am also surprised by the gender of a member because its hard to tell of theres no photo!
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
Even if there is a photo it isn't necessarily one of that member.
@Plethos (13581)
• United States
25 Apr 17
it would only work if people actually read bios.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
I think they would - if they are uncertain and want to be sure. That is the first place I would check - but unfortunately I can still come up with a blank - because many times you find that there is no bio.
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• Banks, Oregon
25 Apr 17
Yes this has happened to me to recently!!! i was so surprised to when i saw they referred to themselves as a her...
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
@ chrissbergstrom(3419) - I suppose that was an 'oops' moment.
@stapllotik (1933)
• India
25 Apr 17
Agree. If implemented, will clear confusion
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
It most certainly would.
@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
25 Apr 17
Yeah that's right. I agree.. I feel the same because with girls i sometimes send hugs n kisses Because I'm a female too.. But Once I found it was a guy n i said sorry lol.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
I am sure they would know the reason the mistake was made.
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
26 Apr 17
@Kandae11 hahha yeah
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25 Apr 17
I haven`t yet been in such a situation but you are right. Although we use avatars we should find a way to indicate our gender to avoid confusion.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
I am glad you agree.
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@xstitcher (32706)
• Petaluma, California
24 Apr 17
It hasn't happened to me in a while, but it does make one feel awkward.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
24 Apr 17
It certainly would.
@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
25 Apr 17
It can be embarrassing when you refer to a he as a she, so I agree it is good to know
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
It certainly is.
@just4him (317238)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Apr 17
I like knowing if it's male or female. It really ends all confusion.
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@Kandae11 (55164)
24 Apr 17
It really would.
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@andriaperry (117146)
• Anniston, Alabama
25 Apr 17
Yes, but I am not sure I have one on mine. I am ALL female
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@Kandae11 (55164)
25 Apr 17
You most definitely are.
@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
24 Apr 17
I like bios, don't feel bad, happens to me too sometimes. :-)
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@Kandae11 (55164)
24 Apr 17
Judging from the comments it does happen quite a bit.
@Basilo (670)
24 Apr 17
Yeah, it does happen though I haven't been in the mix, however, it is much sense having a little bio of yours. it makes reference easier
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@Kandae11 (55164)
24 Apr 17
That's the idea.
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