Toxic People

Why are you giving a damn. Just let him do all that he wants but don't let him decide your decisions,stand for yourself in a polite way showing its your life and you are responsible for it and nobody else. Don't stand for yourself in a rude way in front of him.

You kind of have to cut them out or see that they change. Otherwise those types will drag you down with them. Im lucky that most of my friends are rays of sunshine so its not a problem Ive had to deal with often.

I have a relative that I had to severe ties with because he is honestly a whacked out nut.

Yes, you just explain to that person that your lives have taken different directions.

There was a woman I've known for many years, but realized she was a gossip and a trouble maker. I blocked her on FB, I don't need that.

You need to break loose and fast

Toxic people are my late father's siblings. My family and I close to them after my father's burial. Basically, we just ignore them.

If you can gently, but firmly confront them, do it. If you can't, life is too short to put up with this. I cut her out of my life. I just did that to someone. Sure, she retaliated can turned people against me, but those people should have talked to me first, and did not do that. What she did defines her.

Your best friend can also be your weakness , but if he or she has cut you out , it will be better if you talked it out with him.

It took me a long time, but I finally had to cut my own mother out of my life because of her toxic lifestyle and the way she treated everyone around her. It's never easy, and the only thing I can really say is if they don't respect you enough to listen to your viewpoint and to be honest with you, then yes it's time to cut them out.

It's hard when you've been close to someone, when you start to see the negative affects of the friendship. It's good that you identify her as "toxic". That's the first step to protecting yourself. Sometimes it takes a cold turkey cut-out-of-your-life approach. Other times it's much more difficult. It seems like you are in a situation that's more difficult since you are neighbors. Sounds like you already know what to do, you just need support, and to know it's okay. I too have a very close, very toxic friend. It's taken me several years to begin to recognize and understand why I was getting hurt all the time. After defining her a toxic friend, it still took me a great deal of time to figure out my boundaries with her. Eventually it took my husband really holding me up, and reenforcing to me that I didn't need to take her crap. I, as a people pleaser wasn't ready to let go of my friend. But once I started backing off, with my husbands help, things have been much more healthy. We are still friends, but on a very different level. Just know you will NEVER change a person, so there is NO point in trying to make them understand their decisions are wrong. My mom used to say to me, people will always 'hang themselves'. It's so true. When people make bad decisions, there are always consequences. The problem is, they aren't always wise enough to connect the dots. You sound very wise to me. Perhaps just lacking a little strength and confidence. Take a deep breath, and know you deserve a higher standard.