why are you successful in life and marriage?
@amadeo (111938)
United States
May 8, 2017 11:02am CST
Good afternoon.
Most people are amaze how long that we have been together.
What is your secret.No secret.
Michael and I been together over forty five years and legally married going on four years.
For us is.Stay out of each other way.Do not deny the things he did before commitment.
I stay out of his way,let him do what he wants.Give him plenty of space.
We are not talking about cheaters.We have so much respect for each other.
We have our differences ,but work it out.No slamming the door and walking out of the house.Respect is the key word.
We are fortunate being a gay couple as most say that this will not last.
We know many gay couple lives been shorten due to unhappiness and freedom.
Some still want to play around.But this is a no no with us.
this is why so many gay couple do not make it.They are not satisfied with their lives and thinking they are missing out.
Yes,we are lucky and proud.Proud as we made it as many people will say that this will not last long.
I am not bragging just saying.Give each other space.
Thank you.Fredo
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31 responses
@invisible_string (39)
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8 May 17
Woah! your marriage life sounds really interesting and seems as much appealing to me. As already has been mentioned by you, the key to a happily lived ever after is 'respect'. Oh yes ! certainly it is. But what makes your marriage and post-marriage different from the likes of gay couples, I believe, is not just a lack of respect for the partner. Many a times, before respecting the other, call it our soulmate or our secret sharer or the life partner, it becomes really essentially to respect yourself and your choices. If you respect your decisions than the macrocosmic world won't matter.That is what every couple need to understand. Love is secondary, respect primary. Respect not just for the other who completes you but also for the initial you. That you who chose to become 'we' with this person. Only then your married life becomes ideal even if your marriage was never near to it. Respect is the invisible string that binds your bond and keeps it going.
Keep inspiring,
best regards,
Medha.
@amadeo (111938)
• United States
8 May 17
@invisible_string thank you for the comment and nice to meet you
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@Hate2Iron (15727)
• Canada
8 May 17
Some people simply know what it takes and others give up without trying. You two know how to make it work. Congrats!!
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
8 May 17
@Hate2Iron we try to make it works.We have change a few things to help this.
@amadeo (111938)
• United States
8 May 17
@JustBehem thank you.What is going there in your life?
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
8 May 17
I was far from successful on either side of the fence. Its fine with me, I am peaceful now.
Did not want to stay in disrespectful situations.
Congrats to you two.
@LeaPea2417 (37355)
• Toccoa, Georgia
8 May 17
I have noticed that in both the Straight and Gay communities the divorce rate is very much a like. There are marriages/partnerships that last decades and there are others that last not long at all. Also, there are those who have 3 and 4 or more marriages in both communities and their are others who have had only 1 spouse/partner in both communities.
I do congratulate you two in your long time together. I feel fortunate because my husband and I have been married 29 years and we would never divorce.
@amadeo (111938)
• United States
8 May 17
@LeaPea2417 Congrats there.That is so wonderful to hear.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
8 May 17
Love, commitment, respect and communication - this is what keeps our marriage going for 18 years, which is almost double what my first marriage lasted.
Keep it up guys, you are happy and that's the important thing.
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
8 May 17
@AbbyGreen thank you Abby .Love is better than the second time around there?Good for you
@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
9 May 17
Its good that you have a stable and strong relationship
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
8 May 17
You must respect yourself first your partner second and make allowances. There is no point in being jealous or denying each other growth and space to follow your own interests. Here is to the next 45 years! 
@amadeo (111938)
• United States
8 May 17
@garymarsh6 well said there Gary.How true is this.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
8 May 17
Talking, telling what is liked and not liked. And everyone needs space and alone time.
@Essjayd (1567)
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8 May 17
Congratulations I'm happy you have
both found the person you want to
be with.
I agree respect and allowing your
partner their freedom are the key
things to the success of my
relationship. Neither of us needs
to try and change the other or
hold them away from living their
lives.
@SKRocks (4)
• Madurai, India
8 May 17
Most of the people forgot that their better halves are also 'individuals' like them. That's where the problem arises, but you guys understood life way better. Hats off guys... Cheers
