How Do You Handle Negative Or Destructive Criticism?

Often it is easy to just ignore such things, but when it can't be done, it can get interesting. Maybe asking someone why they feel the way they do might help the situation.

I do not mind what others tell me as long as they do not have to shout or raise their voice..I hate it. Also not in front of other people. And I may listen if they are nice..nice is the key.

Constructive criticism is helpful. But destructive criticism usually says more about the person talking than the person being criticized.

If its someone I can avoid, I avoid them. When its not, I give myself a pep talk afterward.

As best as I can...not perfectly always.

I would have no problem with constructive criticism - delivered in a nice manner.

I think it all depends on the subject of the criticism and of course who is dishing it out. It is easier to take criticism from some people than it is from others.;-)

Negative criticism based on little or no knowledge is worthless. I just ignore it as what happens in the virtual world. Again if such criticism comes from those that matter then I will work on it.

I make those negative criticism , positive. I analyze if they are really true and do something to improve myself in that aspect. For destructive criticism, I confront the person, even if she is my boss. I want to know why she tells me that.

As long as i can bear it.. Have a great day

The best way is to handle it by thinking to yourself "The person who insults me cares for me." or Count to ten and that way your anger will calm you down. My late dad always advised "Water off a duck" or "In one ear and out the other."

No one likes to be criticize even when they put up a brave front and pretend it does not affect them. Response can be aggressive or passive-aggressive. I prefer the first rather than keep my resentment bottled up. A sarcastic riposte always come in handy.

I was married to someone that would criticize me a lot. I would stand up to him because I knew he was full of it and di not believe up but before I would believe but learned he was not right in what he said about me to me.

I would say I am not good at handling destructive criticism... I am easily let down by toxic/negative people who attack my character and ability and even credibility. So, those are my life's current stresses. I still feel like a child who needs protection from the world or from some unhelpful, cold people. And make myself strong first while I hide, lest they wont stop until I am so depleted..And I don't know what it means except that I'm hurt and down and feel bad. It could be a relationship issue rather. And I don't know how I'd fix it myself. Wish I am an adult or my life was all smooth sailing. But some people are just so cruel to wanna attack you where you are weakest and are just unreasonable, in many areas.. and these are things I dont need to be burdened with...people's non-senses, people who take pride in believing they must be smarter grown ups...and they do have gangs.. and politics Don't know how I'd handle it. And I'm thankful for the relief that a positive caring person provides because he knows what's going on on my side which those kids don't.so that I don't believe that those negativity is all what is life really like. But those do affect me. because they have gang and supporters. What I really do is remove myself from the situation, but I am sometimes paranoid that they follow me to do me more bad things. Not sure if I related to your topic about criticism. Cos what I say does sound like bullying. It's actually like that, protected and twisted by some people. A little bit complicated, but it's real and it's been weighing me down for the past few years already.. Actually it's a bigger problem that have been bothering me for a while now...and I am just able to take it a little bit lighter by 1- staying as far as I can from those people, even if I know they wont disappear. And will always re-appear. But just stay away from them even in my mind.. and my plans. They did that thing to me during a vulnerable time when I was going through big changes and other life's challenges. So i hated them for wasting my time for no reason other than they make fun probably of some people, don't know for what reason, it feels to me that they like me to feel that they really know better and that I'm somewhat delusional to want changes that they don't believe I can make, or that I need to go through their own tests and trials and what-nots. Problem is I dont trust them much. They knew me differently when I was still with them, ie co-workers but his/her gang mates are not my past co-workers. Some people are just sick and they want to reign. Sorry for this rant.

Very important not to take them seriously. I will turn those negative feedback as my motivation to move forward.

I listen, ignore, and move on if it is offered to me in a negative or rude manner. However, if it is said nicely and quietly I listen, think about it, and maybe learn from it.

Interesting query @magnumopus Hmm let's see. I would first try to understand that person's point of view. Did he/she criticize me in good faith wanting to help or just wanted to criticize and run me down. If I thought it was the latter which prompted the criticism, I would approach that person and ask for an explanation.

Unless I need to be around a person who gives destructive criticism, I will generally avoid him. If it's a loved one or friend, I will point out how the criticism is unhelpful and explain that it's hurtful. But even with people I love, if they continue to be negative, I will avoid them.

It is difficult to tolerate negative comments about ourselves but yes now I am mature enough to handle them

Well, I felt a little down these days because I show my friends a drawing I made (it took me a long time) and they say that was horrible and it is not something I do, but I was thinking and remember that they always rather to find mistakes on my drawings. Anyways, I admit I cry a little and I couldn't draw anything at all last week. I can't handle with those bad trades, it's harder when your friends are the ones who hurt you. So time heals everything, an option is to find anything that can distract us from those critics, and just hear the constructive side of it, discarding the bad.