Past Decisions
@nanette64 (20364)
Fairfield, Texas
June 3, 2017 11:16am CST
When I was 15 I got pregnant after 'one' encounter and gave him up for adoption. When I was 49 that boy named Michael contacted me wanting to know if I was willing to have a relationship with him. I said, "Well hell yeah."
Michael was stationed at a Marine base in California and said he would be coming to Fort Hood here in Texas and we would be able to meet. I was thrilled. A few weeks later I was informed by my daughter (who Michael had also been in contact with), that Michael had committed suicide.
Come to find out, my husband had been calling him and telling him I didn't want to have anything to do with him and don't bother coming and a whole bunch of other despicable garbage.
My daughter, Mom and Dad flew to California for the funeral and met Michael's adopted parents; who according to my daughter were fantastic people. I wasn't able to attend because when I found out what my husband had done, it resulted in a massive fight. I was too physically damaged to go. I never got to meet my son under any circumstances. Past decisions can come back to haunt you.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
3 Jun 17
You have been through so much Nanette. This is really heartbreaking.
He was a very handsome lad..so sorry for your terrible loss of your beloved son.
That x husband will pay for his bad deeds.
He was a very handsome lad..so sorry for your terrible loss of your beloved son.
That x husband will pay for his bad deeds.3 people like this
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 17
He was good-looking; no doubt @TiarasOceanView . I'm sure 'hubby' is in a 'bad' place.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
3 Jun 17
@nanette64 Yes he surely is and you made sure he would never hurt anyone again.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 17
@TiarasOceanView What's that term: "Ultimate Justice".
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@LadyDuck (471423)
• Switzerland
4 Jun 17
@nanette64 I cannot understand why your son did not call you, as he did to ask if you wanted to meet him.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
4 Jun 17
@LadyDuck The problem was is that I was having to drive 2 hrs to and from work everyday and was working a 10 hour shift while my husband sat on his a** at home drinking. The house phone was the only phone we had so that made it easy for my husband to have handled any calls from my son. He would have never even told me that Michael had called. If it wasn't for the fact that Michael spoke to my daughter, Dad and Mom, I would have never found out the truth of what my husband had said or done.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
4 Jun 17
Probably not @LadyDuck as he thought the world revolved around him.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
3 Jun 17
I hope that husband is now your ex. What a horrible horrible man he was to do that. I hope he will forever live with the knowledge that he caused a young man to kill himself.
I am so sorry that you were never able to meet your son.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 17
I made sure in 2004 that my husband went 6-ft under @ScribbledAdNauseum . Boy was he surprised when the bullet hit. I regret never being able to meet my son.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
3 Jun 17
@nanette64 I am sure that was very empowering, and cathartic to do as well. I am sorry that you regret not being able to meet your son but, unfortunately, that wasn't something you could have changed. What your ex did was disgusting, selfish, and well, he ultimately got what was coming to him.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
4 Jun 17
Wow, quite a sad story. How did you husband get in touch with the boy? Is that the husband who beat you?
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
4 Jun 17
@nanette64 That must have been horrible all the way around.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
4 Jun 17
@AbbyGreenhill It was and I'll never forget any of it.
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
4 Jun 17
My son originally found my Dad and my Dad gave my son my number. We spoke several times (with my husband listening in), so my son's number was on caller ID. And yes, he is the SOB @AbbyGreenhill .
@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
4 Jun 17
that is so sad, it would have been great to have met your son after all those years,,,i am so sorry
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
4 Jun 17
Thank you @hostessman . I'm glad he at least reached out and we got to talk a few times.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 17
Me too @DianneN and always will. I was extremely non-emotional when I took the spouse 'out'. I guess that's why they charged me with Murder even though at the time there were a lot of other circumstances.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 17
@DianneN And you would think with a female judge it would have turned out differently. But oh no, she states in court documents that, "I should have been hung on the town square." The charge was reduced to Criminal Negligent Homicide (which she really didn't want to do). 5 years probation, community service, $3,000 Court Costs, $3,000 probation fees and $7,000 to a worthless attorney. And yes, I am still considered a Felon.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
3 Jun 17
@nanette64 Did you really? I've heard of cases like that, and the women were okay lawwise. I hope you were, too. He must have been an abusive SOB!
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
4 Jun 17
Thank you @dodo19 . My husband was the biggest jerk (and other expletives) on this planet.
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@FourWalls (68069)
• United States
3 Jun 17
I'm sorry. That sounds so superficial, but there's little else to say. This is why one of the Ten Commandments says not to lie. Look at the damage it caused.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 17
People just don't realize what their actions can cause @FourWalls . And in his case having control over everything and everybody was his goal.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 17
"What goes around, comes around" @jaboUK . If I could bring that creep back, I'd plug him several more times.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Jun 17
That is so sad, I dont know what to say!
Are you still married to that man?
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 17
Nope, I took 'him out' in 2004 @andriaperry ; literally. Criminal Negligent Homicide is what I wound up with instead of the original Murder charge.
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
4 Jun 17
My husband was an absolute (you know what) @Ruby3881 . And after 17 years of brutality, I took care of 'business' permanently.
@thislittlepennyearns (62529)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
3 Jun 17
I would of divorced him right then and there.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 17
It wasn't too long after that that I shot him @thislittlepennyearns .
@snowy22315 (180794)
• United States
4 Jun 17
That is one of the saddest stories I have ever heard. My heart goes out to you. My roomie had a daughter he barely knew he had contact him. She said she wanted to have a relationship, and then after a few phone calls..she just went back to her life. I think she just had a curiosity and once it was satisfied she didn't want to have anything else to do with him. I am sure it was hard for him..but he wasn't really a father to his children. That was a terrible thing your husband did.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Jun 17
Oh my gosh I'm so sorry you lost your son and never got to know him. =( That was awful that your husband did that.
