Not sure what to do
By minx267
@minx267 (15527)
Hartford, Connecticut
June 16, 2017 4:27am CST
My cousin just called me while I'm here at work to tell me her husband just passed away.
It is so sad. I'm never quite sure how to respond in these situations..
I told her to let me know if she needed anything and that I was free for next couple of days if she needed me to come over...
But I'm a sure they hear that from everybody.
Should I just go over there?
Should I give her space and time to deal with it?
I'm always awkward with these things.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Jun 17
I'd keep in contact with her. Give her some space. How would you like to be treated, heaven forbid, if it were you?
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Jun 17
@minx267 .....Glad you had someone to turn to.
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@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
19 Jun 17
@celticeagle yea, I was SO close to having a nervous breakdown..
she ended up taking me on a vacation a few months later in Feb for my birthday to California.. my first and only tie going there.. and my last time on vacation.. lol (13 years ago) it helped.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
18 Jun 17
I am sorry to hear.
I have not had to deal with this before, I think you should go over there and see if she's okay.
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@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
16 Jun 17
@Iquestionitall you could have a point.
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@Iquestionitall (229)
• United States
16 Jun 17
@minx267 No. Maybe she needs you. She called you. Love gets in the way, all the time.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
16 Jun 17
If you're close to her I think you should go visit. If she's not someone you're close too, sending your condolences should be enough.
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@billo13 (44)
• Oshawa, Ontario
16 Jun 17
Firstly, my condolences. It is certainly a difficult time and it is tough to know what to say and do. No matter what you try, everything seems so inadequate.
I believe you did the best thing by simply telling her that you are there for her and available if she needs you. I think the best approach is the 'golden rule' in other words, respond in a way that you would appreciate if the positions were reversed. Would you want some space or would you rather have someone with you for support?
I wish you and your cousin peace and comfort.
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