What would you do with someone that was trying to become you?
By babygrl22004
@babygrl22004 (238)
United States
November 26, 2006 9:22pm CST
So I have this girl who's now dating my brother in law and she is always trying to compete with me and trying to be exactly like me. I dont know whether to take it as a compliment or to be worried about it....maybe I watch too many lifetime movies but I'm scared that she may even try to completely take over my life because she's telling everyone that my youngest son is her's in a non joking manner.. I've tried to talk to her about it, but it just isnt working. what would you do and am I being too paranoid because my children are involved?
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7 responses
@euniceeleanor (5966)
• Singapore
27 Nov 06
it's annoying but it's a compliment too...i mean, we will try to be like someone if we respect or like them, right? but from the way you describe about her..i felt that she got some problem (mental) and i think it's better to avoid her as much as you can.
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@babygrl22004 (238)
• United States
30 Nov 06
thanks for the advice but its kinda hard to avoid her all the time because then I cant be around my brother in law who only tells me its nothing and that Im just being paranoid
@ASoldiersAngel02 (633)
• United States
1 Dec 06
it may be a compliment and it certainly is annoying but at the same time it can be very very dangerous. People have been hurt or even killed over things like this. There was a movie on lifetime, a true story starring Kimberly Williams(Brad Paisley's wife). you should watch it. Dont be too alarmed at first but watch the situation closely and watch her as well. I would certainly keep her away from the children
@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
27 Nov 06
Have you tried talking with your brother in law about the situation? Tell him she is making you uncomfortable and ask if he notices her acting like your son is her's. I would try to stay away from her as much as possible.
@babygrl22004 (238)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Yes I have tried to talk to him and he tells me Im just being silly and that I need to be nice to her for his sake....I dont know what I should do abot his thinking. Thanks for the comment
@sunrisekn (1466)
• United States
27 Nov 06
Just take her out of your life completely. Do this for your sake and your childrens. Better to be safe than sorry. If a situation comes up where you have to be around her, tell her that you would rather not associate with her. It's better for you and your children not to be around destructive behavior. If anyone asks tell them whats going on and you just don't feel comfortable being around her.
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@babygrl22004 (238)
• United States
30 Nov 06
I've tried to cut her out completely but then I have to exclude myself from family activities because shes always at them. I have told several of my family members about this and they all say she'll stop doing it if I just ignore her....Im not sure what else to try.
@starr4all (2863)
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12 Jan 07
That is creepy. You tried talking to her and she won't listen? Then try talking to the brother in law. There is a fine line between a complemint and stalking.
@babygrl22004 (238)
• United States
31 May 07
I've talked to both of them and nothing changed. Although the only thing that really did change is that they are now married...The family blames me because I supposedly introduced them. They met while she was at the hospital and he was there in my place because I felt bad that she was in so much pain and didnt have her own family around her!
@sabrinam (1203)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Keep your son away from this freak! Always follow your intuition, we women are smarter than we give ourselves credit for. Keep your distance from her too. Tell her that if she keeps "pretending" with your son, soon she won't see him at all. That's scary girl! As far as her copying you, just feel sorry for her.
@babygrl22004 (238)
• United States
31 May 07
Well I have a little bit of an advantage for now....at least until they come back home to visit. They moved to Arizona. However she is trying to have a baby and I dunno has completely become obsessed with the idea of even concieving a child! Thanks for the comment
@babygrl22004 (238)
• United States
31 May 07
thank you for the advice. Unfortunately my Brother in law married her so excluding her from my life is going to be much more difficult than it was before.
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@babygrl22004 (238)
• United States
30 Nov 06
yeah well I feel like she's just trying to use me to get closer to my brother in law and that she's going to hurt me either emotionally or physically one of these days if Im not careful
@baysmummy (1637)
• Australia
1 Dec 06
Maybe sit her down and say "Hey i am really flatted that you want to be like me but i am me and i think you need to be true to yourself and start being the real you" and maybe just ask her to stop saying that your son is hers as it is causing confusion for people! Sorry i am not much help!
@babygrl22004 (238)
• United States
18 Jan 07
Thanks for the response. Anything helps. I have asked her to stop telling that to people but it hasn't helped.
