NO MONEY, NO LOVE.
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (54981)
June 21, 2017 2:11pm CST
How important is money in keeping a relationship stable? . They say when money runs out, love runs out too - so what about that other belief - that love conquers all?
Decades ago, a man preferred a stay at home wife who looked after the home and kids while he went to work. These days, if the woman is in a well paying job , she has a better chance of getting that marriage proposal. (there are exceptions of course) .Thankfully, with the advent of the internet, a woman can make her contribution to the upkeep of the household without having to go out to work.
Do you think it is best for couples to wait for financial stability before tying the knot? Or should they go ahead and work together to achieve their goals? What was your experience?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Jun 17
If my husband and I waited until we were both "financially stable" we would never have gotten married.
We have been homeless together, without vehicles, no money, etc... Yes love conquered all, and our faith in the Lord did too.
It depends if the people consider money more important than love-I never did. My husband was broke when I met him and he's almost just as broke now. Lol.
Love and faith in God have gotten us through it all. Let no man separate what the Lord has brought together. =)
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@allknowing (135362)
• India
22 Jun 17
Nothing is achieved these days without money and that includes a happy marriage.
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@allknowing (135362)
• India
22 Jun 17
@Kandae11 I do not think money has caused that unhappiness. There could be other reasons.
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@Kandae11 (54981)
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22 Jun 17
@allknowing The other reasons caused by having too much money.
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@ptrikha_2 (46835)
• India
22 Jun 17
@Lupita234 The theoretical ideal thought says that love is not dependent on money, but practically that is not true.
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@LadyDuck (470823)
• Switzerland
22 Jun 17
I married 45 years ago and those were the years when people married because they were in love, the man did his best to provide the money for the family and the woman stayed at home. I decided not to stay at home, I worked with my husband before we married, I continued to be his assistant. I think that it's better to be happy with less and to marry until we are young.
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@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
21 Jun 17
Each circumstance is different. If both are willing to work together and they are on the same page then all should go well
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
21 Jun 17
Personally what happened to For Richer For Poorer. Too often people could loose out on the Love of their life or being truly happy just because they tend to let money be a factor. My husband had a great job when we got married and was let go and we almost lost our home because of it. But because of this, it has helped bring us closer.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
29 Dec 17
@Kandae11 That is the issue many times it seems. Too many times, people get in Love with the idea of getting married and everything will be perfect while many times very unhappy instead of falling in Love with the person first and then get married and having a lot better chance of it surviving.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
22 Jun 17
I think financial stability before marriage is better than achieving it after marriage.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
23 Jun 17
@Kandae11 Human beings are strange fellows, some people go for another woman, forgetting about the sacrifices made by their respective wives in bringing stability in their life.
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@Kandae11 (54981)
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22 Jun 17
I think so too. So many times I have heard this cry - "I gave you the best years of my life - now you're leaving me for another woman." This happens a lot when a couple starts from scratch and work together to achieve success. Of course , where there is true love, the ending is different.
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@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
21 Jun 17
I think money shouldn't be a big factor into marrying someone. Yes, of course it should be something to consider before marrying someone but love should be a bigger factor. Everyone longs for financial stability especially those who didn't have much growing up, I guess there are some who are keen into being financially stable before getting into marriages because they want to make sure they can provide for the woman they love and there's no problem with that. It also doesn't mean they don't love them a lot. I think they just want to make sure money issues are secured.
But for the rest of the world, enjoy your time with your loved ones even if you don't have that much money. Money doesn't last a long time, love does.
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@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
22 Jun 17
@Lupita234 Yeah sometimes it is and its just sad that some separate ways because of money.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
21 Jun 17
@Kandae11 , I would say that these days financial stability is important. If at all possible I would want all my ducks in a row before I ever settled down with any one, that is if I ever meet any one I would consider settling down with.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
22 Jun 17
Well if that were the case I doubt we would have ever got married! LOL. When we first met we were both students. We got married were both on very low money but we saved and built our home had our daughter and 35 years later we are still married. A little bit more financially stable but working at it together going without when necessary rather than the attitude today of wanting everything now.
I think you would have to be pretty shallow to let things go just because you have little money. Through life we have all kinds of ups and downs but the good times outweigh the hard times!
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@ptrikha_2 (46835)
• India
22 Jun 17
@garymarsh6 But now money is becoming more and more important. I have even seeing people divorcing because of money factor or one of the partners suffering due to their earning less money than before. And sometimes in this respect, males suffer more than females, as they have been told not to cry and seek help from their childhood itself.
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@Shiva49 (26644)
• Singapore
22 Jun 17
I got married forty years ago and as per the norms of the day most wives were stay at home.
Obviously needs were limited and we knew our roles clearly.
I worked non stop and my wife too chipped in when our son was on his own.
There was no financial stability as such but we managed to save every year.
Personally I feel if we are not choosy and are adaptable, we can find a way to survive.
It is the attitude that counts - we should live life on our terms to the extent possible - siva
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@ptrikha_2 (46835)
• India
22 Jun 17
@Shiva49 but now a days, partners first look for the financial well being of each other- especially the girls want a boy who is very strong financially, and also if things go wrong after marriage, they are very highly critical and start talking in terms like "xyz" is earning so much, and going abroad and having so much fun.
Sometimes, the male also thinks of getting extra money from the girls' family.
And I now feel love after marriage is directly proportional to the bank balance, except in a few cases.
But those few cases are becoming fewer.
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@ptrikha_2 (46835)
• India
22 Jun 17
@Shiva49 Even I want to live my way of life, but have to face hurdles as others around me sometimes do not allow me to remain insulated.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
22 Jun 17
it is depends upon the individual, not all the people think or manage the things, those who give more importance to the money than relationship then it is difficult for them to continue their relationship coz they don't have love they just made a temporary attachment with the money and not with the love, if they have love on each other then money is not a problem at all.
I have seen many families who broke up only because their partner left the job or no money or property.
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@Letranknight2015 (51914)
• Philippines
22 Jun 17
Well Money is required for the relationship to work. But if the woman or man wants to marry or have relationship because of Money then forget it.
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
21 Jun 17
if your in love you get married, if your in love you will work out any problems you need to do
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@gautaam (159)
• Mumbai, India
22 Jun 17
I think it depends on the ambitions and career aspirations of both, husband and wife. If someone is able to think practically and able to convince the spouse that money is not important, it will eventually come, then I guess marriages happen fast. If you see the trend conservative communities in India marry off early. I do not want to name here, you can have a guess.
@BettyB (4117)
• Summerville, South Carolina
21 Jun 17
My husband and I both had jobs (not well paying) but no money in savings when we go married. There were times when the financial stresses added stress to the relationship but it also pulled us closer together. I've seen relationships work both ways, but if money is a prerequisite to love, the love isn't worth much.
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