How do you deal with dominating people and control freaks?

Very true, having a control freaks or a dominating person can.be very taxing and stressful. I feel communication is the only solution if at all that would help to ease the situation.

@kiran8 .. They are usually not open to communication, if you noticed. And their reasoning is often biased bordering to paranoia.

@kiran8 I agree, patience and communication.

Why don't you be firm and also the f you get a chance why this person is being dominating.. normally they are cowards only hitting out at soft targets who don't protest

Sure ,one can try if they let you speak ..majority of those dominating people refuse to see any other view point except their own.

@shshiju But that is how it is ..

@kiran8 That is really disturbing.

That is an honest admission ..On second thoughts there are some positive qualities in such people. They are confident and sure of themselves..

@just4him My mother in law was a very dominating person but children loved her because she never lost her temper with them.

@kiran8 I guess that's so. I'm usually only that way with my kids. They know how to handle me by now. They're all adults.

Yes very true , .. me st f these people are egoistic and sure of themselves which makes it all the more difficult for people dealing with them.

@Shiva49 Very true. .

@kiran8 Their mere sight creates tension and what a relief when they leave! siva

Yes speaking out your mind and being firm helps to a great extent. Unless people show courage and don't bow down , such people end up being more demanding.

@kiran8 exactly once they see we are buckling under pressure they are motivated more to bother us so its better to draw a fine line and boundry as to how much stupidity we can tolerate its better if we confront them and speak to them and explain them that they are wrong

@HAPPSINGH thank you buddy not much experienced as you are yo are my guru remember

You are lucky not to have cone across such personalities. I have several such people around me , among family ,friends and work place and it is a circus dealing with them..

@kiran8 I understand , though I am not in such situation, I knew from others experiences how annoying it is. Heard a lot from other friends.

@vandana7 It s precisely because of this obligation on our part that we tend to listen to such people inspite of not liking it

@Shavkat That would be the best thing to do , but many a times we cannot do so because of our own commitments

@kiran8 At some point, it is inevitable not to interact with them. But then, it should be carried out with professionalism.

That would be the ideal situation bit what would you do if you are unable to do so

@rahulvsmokiee what if the control freak gives back the message to you

@kiran8 Lol i am a short tempered guy. I have just one message to control freaks "**** ***" I hope you got what i meant.

Gabby, I find the it far easier to tackle youngsters but it is the older people . Our tradition demands that we don't talk back to them , so the only alternative left is ignoring !

Thanks a lot , that is being very honest ! like I said in an earlier post there are always positive traits and among dominating personalities it is their candor and self confidence , probably makes them impatient as well when things don't work as they ought to..

@CaseyRoss9966 it is very nice of you to share your perspective about your own personality. You seem very understanding and at the same time very confident of yourself .

@kiran8 I do get impatient sometimes but only when needed like when working on a project for class or work and people don't want to meet or pull their part it makes me impatient and angry and then I just want to do it myself and get it over with. I am very self-confident so that is true. That self-confidence helps me a lot when I have to give a presentation or with just regular self-esteem. I have actually told my friend before that if you have confidence then you can do anything because you won't be afraid to try. I like my dominant personality though and it makes me very assertive and not afraid to do things. I am also very realistic though and know that some things work and some things don't work. It all depends on how the person was raised to handle their dominant personality and if they were ever corrected as a child. There are some dominant personalities that I can't handle being around because we clash but then there are some that I am good friends with. A girl in my college had a very dominant and controlling personality and it wasn't in any way a good way. She took weaker people and manipulated them into doing and being who she wanted them to be. She was cocky and basically, a real b**ch and no liked her. She was an only child and parents were also controlling of her so it had a big part on how she turned out. My parent corrected me when I was wrong, taught me right from wrong, and now I use my dominant personality and self-confidence to be a leader and someone that others would look up to and follow. Most people who run a business or are CEOs have that dominant trait about them because you can't run a successful business and be a pushover.

For how long ?

@Sherwinmrtn You must try that out to know how it works for you ..

@kiran8 till i impress her. And become a bestie of mine. If she has become a bestie of mine, she will also start to understand me and stop dominating atleast to me right?

This s just a general discussion , however like everyone else I too have come across some difficult people

@vandana7 , most of the time we tolerate such people because we are in their power , either they are our bosses or family heads or someone who we need in some other way. Knowing this they take advantage .

Yes , ignoring is the best but at times you feel like putting them in their place..

I agree , ignoring is the only solution if you are not keen on confrontation

Yes , I agree ..it is at your work spot that you need to have lots of patience .