How Soon is Too Soon for a New Relationship When An Old One Ends?

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My marriage ended in 2012 after almost 13 years, it had been a disastrous marriage but it still hurt when it finally ended, more because of how it ended, not because I loved him. Plus there were children involved, and it is always worse when children are involved. Anyway, I loved my new found freedom, I loved that I received a lot of flattering attention from men, and enjoyed the flirt with them, but never wanted anything other than that. I did go out on a date about 2 months after my break up, it and he was nice, I warned him that I was not looking for anything other than a date and he was fine with that, or so I thought until after our 2nd date, two of my friends came to me and told me that he had been telling everyone that we were serious about each other and it was a full on relationship. I was furious and he got the elbow straight away! After that it was over 18 months before I became involved with anyone else, and then I wished to God I had not bothered because that was a nightmare! However that is another story, back to the title of my discussion..... How soon is too soon for a new relationship when an old one ends? I bumped into an old friend the other day, I had not seen her for a while, we chatted and she told me that she had been seeing someone for the past 14 months. He had split with his wife of 12 years just about 4 weeks before they met, she had come out of a relationship just 2 weeks previously. She said she had asked him if he was a) out for revenge on the female species because it had been a horrendous relationship or b) he was on the rebound because quite frankly she did not want to rush into it if there were any doubts. He said no he was not at all and was she on the rebound, she said no and they carried on seeing each other and they are now heading towards the 14 month anniversary. In all honesty listening to her story about it I have no idea how they made it this far, the things that have happened to them made my hair stand on end! The odds are stacked high against them but she loves him to pieces that I do know. So what do you reckon the chances are of this being the real deal and lasting? Did they go into it too soon? does it matter whether you stay single after a relationship for a week? or 2 years? or do you say stuff it if they are happy together so what?