~Don't Promise Them~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
August 10, 2017 8:25pm CST
Hey everyone I hope you are doing well.
The lady I used to babysit for told my daughter the other day that she would have her sleep over today so she can play with her daughter. They get along well and have fun together. I wish people would not promise my kids things...it's not hard to say maybe!
I told my daughter it was a maybe and thank God I did! She never text like she said she would and my daughter was disappointed since she was so excited about going.
Disappointment is all around once your an adult, I guess it's good they know how to handle it now but gosh I hate seeing my kids hurt! If only us parents could shield their little hearts forever... 
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
11 Aug 17
Yes good you told her about maybe.
I am sorry that woman had no conscience about what she says.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@Tiarasoceanview It makes me wonder why people don't think before they speak.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
11 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies Well doing it to a child is really terrible. Children take you at your word.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@TiarasOceanView Exactly! I can't stand that.
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
11 Aug 17
I'm sorry the lady never contacted you so the sleepover could happen. Very disappointing.
So glad I'm one who keeps my word / promises. Especially to kids.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@Courtlynn It was disappointing. I can't stand when people do that. Don't say anything if your not sure. Grr.
I'm the same way, I won't promise unless I know it will happen.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@Courtlynn Yeah I can't stand that either. I refuse to do it to my kids or any kids.
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
11 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies what makes it worse is when parents do it to their own kids. Which my friend does to hers. Drives me nuts. Which is part of why kids love my mom and i. Cause we do as we promise.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Aug 17
Yes, good for them to learn it early. Still not very nice of this person.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies ......She probably didn't mean it when she said it. Just something to say.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@celticeagle Yeah this was the second time she's done this now and I'm over it.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 17
@celticeagle She probably should have kept her mouth shut.
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@tammys85 (30066)
• Baltimore, Maryland
12 Aug 17
She shouldn't have even mentioned it to her. I have a friend who's little one gets along great with my niece, but she has a habit of canceling when we have plans together, so I'm to a point where I don't even mention it to my niece (but I do mention it to her parents of course). When I get a call/text that she's on her way, that's when I tell her.
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@tammys85 (30066)
• Baltimore, Maryland
12 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies I don't blame you. Your little one was upset, and that wouldn't encourage me to make plans the next day either.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 17
@tammys85 Exactly! Yeah, I don't blame you at all. I wouldn't mention it either.
This woman text saying she wants to make plans for another day, I ignored the text because I'm not even interested.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
11 Aug 17
That wasn't very nice of that woman.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@Abbygreenhill I agree and this is the second time she's done this now!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@AbbyGreenhill The first time she promised all of my kids we would go over there to swim, which my kids love and then I never heard from her.
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
11 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies second time, hum, that's a double insult to your daughter.
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@HazySue (39268)
• Gouverneur, New York
11 Aug 17
I don't understand why people promise a child they will do something if they aren't going to. A child doesn't forget and they take it to heart when the adult doesn't come through. It is a good thing you forewarned her that this w3as a maybe situation.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 17
@Hazysue I don't get it either. She shouldn't have said anything in front of her to begin with. She could have asked me outside or called me to ask.
Yes I'm so glad I told my daughter it was a maybe.
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@HazySue (39268)
• Gouverneur, New York
13 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies That's true, she should have talked to you privately to obtain your permission first before she said anything to your daughter.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
11 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies I don't blame you. I probably wouldn't be interested either.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@dodo19 Yeah she text and apologized a little bit ago saying we will make it another time but I'm not interested now.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
11 Aug 17
They should not promise if they don´t mean it.
Poor girl she must have so wanted to go by the sound of it.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
12 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies
Maybe another time with another friend.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 17
@lovinangelsinstead21 I agree. She wanted to go very much. =(
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@Tina30219 (81948)
• Onaway, Michigan
11 Aug 17
You are so right she should have said maybe. I hate when things like this happen and the kids are the ones that always get hurt.
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@Tina30219 (81948)
• Onaway, Michigan
11 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies I would be frustrated as well.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@Tina30219 Yeah it's not hard to say maybe. It's frustrating to me.
@velvet53 (22534)
• Palisade, Colorado
11 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies I don't blame you one minute. That was so wrong of her.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@velvet53 Thank you. Yeah I'm going to tell her please don't say anything because I don't appreciate my children being lied to.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
11 Aug 17
When I was a kid I loved sleeping over at my aunt's house because I have 7 cousins I could play with. So every time one of them would tell me that he would pick me up and I could sleep over, I always got very excited and sometimes got very disappointed. So I know exactly how your daughter feels.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@toniganzon Yeah I wish people would think before they make promises.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 17
@Ladyduck Exactly! I don't know why some people don't say those words before saying something to kids.
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@LadyDuck (471459)
• Switzerland
12 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies Even if you have the best intentions, a problem can happen, so the kids are prepared.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@DianneN Yeah I think so too. I don't like my kids being hurt.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
11 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies No one does! That was very stupid of her.
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@Genipher (5405)
• United States
11 Aug 17
My daughter's best good friend lives several hours from us. On occasion, either her mom or I have made plans to meet so the girls could spend a night together. However, we usually don't tell the girls because, more often than not, the plans fall through and we hate to get their hopes up.
Won't be much of an issue anymore, though, since we'll soon be moving to the best good friend's town! (As a boon, my daughter's friend's mother is MY best girl friend.)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@Genipher Yeah, this lady said it right in front of her!! Not only that but last week she promised all of my kids they could come over and swim which was another lie! 
It's so awesome that your moving closer to them! Now they will be able to get together more.
It's so awesome that your moving closer to them! Now they will be able to get together more.1 person likes this
@Genipher (5405)
• United States
14 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies
Yes, both of the girls are super excited. They've known each other since they were babies, so this is a big thing for them. 
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@LeaPea2417 (37355)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Aug 17
That is too bad the Mom got your daughter's hopes up.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 17
@Leapea2417 Yeah especially when my kids don't get out much as it is. When they think they are going to get out it's a huge deal to them!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@bluesa Yeah I'm glad I told her maybe. I agree, I wish more people would think before they speak.
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@Marilynda1225 (82789)
• United States
11 Aug 17
Sorry to hear that your daughter didn't get her sleep-over but it was pretty inconsiderate to promise your daughter without even seeing if it was okay with you. Kids gets disappointed so easily
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 17
@Marilynda1225 Thanks. She should have talked wirh me about it outside or over the phone, not in front of my daughter.
She wants to reschedule but I'm not interested in my daughter being disappointed again.
@petatonicsca (7070)
• Japan
12 Aug 17
My daughter had one friend who never carried through. Finally she learned to not expect that friend's plans to happen, so she decided it was ok and stayed friends, but didn't do things with her much.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 17
@petatonicsca It's bad enough when kids don't come through but an adult should know better.
