customs and rituals and our experiences
@spaceseed (2843)
India
September 2, 2017 4:58am CST
I live in India, here generally marriage happens first then we have children, some parts of the world follow other way I mean they have kids first and then get married.
So when today was having a discussion about a picture where bride and groom were standing with their kids. One of elder member of my family who is visiting us from remote part of my country where they have not seen much world outside, was very much amazed and surprised that this could also happened.
I was thinking otherwise, that information technology has done so much so fast that world has now become a global village. and things which were considered not possible in some part of the world is quite common.
I am sure you all must have similar kind of experiences..........about diversity
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13 responses
@LadyDuck (471547)
• Switzerland
4 Sep 17
@cacay1 In my opinion the most important is to be a loving couple where both respect the other. In some countries women are seen as "objects", their husbands do not respect them, they even throw the wife out of their house if she cannot have children or if they judge is not what they expected. This is something I find horrible, not to make kids without being married.
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@cacay1 (83495)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Sep 17
@LadyDuck , I also read stories like what you stated here.Very well said my friend, marriage is useless if the couple does not show respect to the wife.This time seldom could we hear young people liking to marry. The son of Dennis has a live- in partner and they never aspire to marry.They prefer to be like that, and foremost, they never want a child.The feeling sucks for a child makes the couple happy and stress out on their way when seeing their baby happy and gay in his or her gigs.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
2 Sep 17
both happens here: marriage before children or children before marriage and they could also end up with a partner who is not the father/mother of their child. what i read about in other countries here that makes me curious is arranged marriage. i don't know if it happens here.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
7 Sep 17
I read that post and replied too. The post was said about the 'church marriage' alone, not like they got married after the children's birth.
One of my friend's sister, who is a Hindu and married to a Christian, did the Register marriage. Their marriage done at church after the birth of their first child. She converted to Christianity then done the marriage at Church after two years of register marriage. Yes, during the register marriage only friends were participated and on church marriage family from boy's side participated.
Everything happens in our place too but we are not aware of it. 
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
24 Jul 19
@ravisivan In love marriage this kind of different functions happens. In arranged there will be only one marriage followed by grant function.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
24 Jul 19
interesting. some couples have registered marriage first , then marriage as per tradition of groom, as per tradition of bride and then a reception for friends good day
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
24 Jul 19
Yes Philipines people follow mostly western culture. Philipines people are hard working, intelligent and they pose competition for youngsters from India and other Asian countries. good day.
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@Shavkat (139934)
• Philippines
25 Jul 19
@ravisivan It cannot be denied this fact, my friend. We were colonized by the USA before.
@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
2 Sep 17
It is common in this country to have kids before marriage..crazy I guess. Having kids is crazy anyway lol
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
4 Sep 17
@cacay1 Yes I also understand that Erly.
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@cacay1 (83495)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Sep 17
@TiarasOceanView Thank you, Miss Ocean.
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@spaceseed (2843)
• India
6 Sep 17
@TiarasOceanView great, I wanted to have one kid, but my wife wanted to have two. and she won 
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
6 Sep 17
While I agree that culture, traditions and customs give an identity to any country or race , but even they change with times and change is the only permanent feature of life. Some would definitely want to hold on to old values but others may have different ideas . So, we need to accept ..
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@spaceseed (2843)
• India
6 Sep 17
For me or any body who lives in cities this is very well understood. But my visitor was from remote village, where Life is what they have seen till now - traditional ( girls dont see boys and boys dont see girls before marriages) for her it was quite new thing. She is old lady and I said only that happens in foreign land.
point of discussion was contrast of cultures through out planet.
here in india cultures are religion dependent as well for example manyy relegions support polygamy.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
6 Sep 17
@spaceseed Even in villages ,down here in South India things are different now. There is far more freedom with regard to marriage. I think it all comes down to education .
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
24 Jul 19
I am also from India --- Tamil Nadu . Nowadays modern concepts are getting into youngsters of our country also. we are following western style. I am now in Toronto. In fact there are many couples who live for many years together here, as in India.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
2 Sep 17
Here many people gets children first because they still can't afford a church wedding. But the proper way is that wedding first before having children. People here are more open minded now about this matter
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@spaceseed (2843)
• India
6 Sep 17
@cacay1 thanks for complements, but would you care enough to explain how you felt that I am judgemental
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
2 Sep 17
Yes of course , people here can't take it, as we are not used to it.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
24 Jul 19
@spaceseed yes concept of living together without marriage is prevalent in India also nowadays.
@spaceseed (2843)
• India
6 Sep 17
New generation is very different from our old generation, for new generation I have seen many live in relationships.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
24 Jul 19
yes. old people like us will subscribe to that only. good day
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Jul 19
@ravisivan I agree. I'm not liberal when it comes to marriage and children. My kids are though. All my grandchildren were before marriage. I only have one married child, my daughter and that wasn't until her children were almost out of the nest.
@spaceseed (2843)
• India
8 Sep 17
Different people have different views, and now as world is becoming full of knowledge with advent of technologies these gaps are being mitigated.
I am sure as people will get more aware with each others culture and will be willing to understand more they will provide space in their minds to be more and more liberal.
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@Shiva49 (26684)
• Singapore
5 Sep 17
We always had the few who were non-conformist.
As long as they don't harm others with their approach we should leave them alone.
Change is the only constant and the vast majority knows what is in their best interest.
Old ways are changing and we should keep an open mind - siva
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Jul 19
you are right, we have both type of people. As long as it does not affect the society, as you say it is fine, good day
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@mildredtabitha (16126)
• Nairobi, Kenya
2 Sep 17
I like the India traditions. Here where I am, I might be willing to get married first but to find a man who is willing to invest in marriage might be a problem.
