romance love caring

Falling in Love

@RubyHawk (99405)

Atlanta, Georgia

September 14, 2017 10:23am CST

Do you think everyone should marry For exciting romantic love, or for stability and the chance to have a family? I think most couples fall in love and marry for romantic love, and that's what we all expect. But romantic love doesn't come to everyone. Some women settle for a honest caring man to share their lives and father their children. I have known couples who married for romantic love and have long lastingl marriages, others That didn't last a year. I have friends that settled and have good marriages and others that didn't last. What are your ideas about romantic love and caring love? Would you settle?

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@LadyDuck (471541)

• Switzerland

14 Sep 17

For me it was different, love was important but I wanted someone who shared my ideas and my passions. We did not want children, we wanted to spend our life together, every minute of our life. It's lasting from 46 years.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

I believe many happy marriages are like yours. Couples who have The same interests and are caring people.46 years is a good number.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

@YrNemo I've seen that happen too for one reason or the other. Usually a younger woman comes along.

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@YrNemo (20255)

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15 Sep 17

You are lucky LadyDuck, I have met ladies who were in love, agreed to not having children with their partners. However, their partners turned around suddenly in their late 40s, demanded children or else. While the 'women in love' still wondering of what to do, their partners told them they had impregnated someone else, and please get lost... It breaks my heart listening to those stories. (One of my good friends is now single, in her late 50s. She just got kicked out that way a few years ago!)

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@TiarasOceanView (70022)

• United States

14 Sep 17

Well my ideas now are entirely different than when I was young. Now I would not marry at all. Before I married for whatever the reason was..it surely was not love..nor money

Dumb choice for me. Just my experience..I never should have married..I was not cut out for it.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

I think many of us are not cut out for marriage, and are happier single. But I can't think of anyone I know who remained single.

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@TiarasOceanView (70022)

• United States

15 Sep 17

@RubyHawk Yes I do not know anyone that has never ever been married.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

@TiarasOceanView It's kind of weird You'd think some people would remain single but I suppose everyone wants a mate enough to try.

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@patgalca (18367)

• Orangeville, Ontario

14 Sep 17

I have married twice and am in my second marriage for 20 years now. In both cases, however, I feel I married for the wrong reasons. I might have thought there was real romantic love there, but there really wasn't. Love, yes, but not enough love. I settled, twice. I think marriage should consist of romantic, caring, undying love. Don't we all deserve that?

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@patgalca (18367)

• Orangeville, Ontario

15 Sep 17

@RubyHawk Yeah, but loving your spouse like a room mate or a brother is not good. There needs to be an effort put in. And if the effort is too much of an effort that the real love isn't there.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

@patgalca Right, you must have a special love for your mate and it goes for each half of the couple. Efforts must be made to trust and cherish. It won't work if either one doesn't make the effort.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

We deserve it but romantic love can't live forever, It's too intense, partners must learn to have compassion, honesty and value the same things.otherwise we have nothing.

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@LovingMyBabies (85288)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

My husband and I fell in love and married because we never wanted to live without each other. Of course it helped that we share the same faith and opinions on the important stuff such as raising our children.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

Yours is a good reason for marriage. Love for each and planing for a family. I would think yours was romantic love.

Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317089)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

14 Sep 17

I would rather have caring love. Romantic love just doesn't last. Once the romance is gone, what's left? Someone who cares is so much better. You can always develop the romance with caring love.

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@just4him (317089)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

16 Sep 17

@RubyHawk No it's not.

@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

16 Sep 17

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

I second that. Romantic love doesn't last and unless you learn caring love the marriage does not last or if you stay in the marriage for the sake of children it isn't a happy one.

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@Courtlynn (67085)

• United States

14 Sep 17

Personally, I don't think marriage is necessary at all. You can love someone and never get married. And same with having a long happy life together with kids, without marriage. But i would never get married without love AND happiness being there

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

True, you don't have to have that piece of paper to be married in your heart. Many people live together for years without a marriage certificate. In my opinion domestic partners are the same as marriages.

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@Courtlynn (67085)

• United States

15 Sep 17

@RubyHawk yes. Same here. My exbestfriend and her bf have beeb together for 10 years, and have 4 kids together. No marriage.

Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (37355)

• Toccoa, Georgia

15 Sep 17

We married for romantic love , and shared ideas, and we will celebrate 30 years of marriage at the end of this year.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

That's wonderful and a success story. I would think that you both have made a good effort and are caring people. @LeaPea2417

@amadeo (111938)

• United States

14 Sep 17

I am all ready settled here dear.My idea.Be true and kind and love . Oh!yes we do have our argument.But who does not.But not I am going to kill you type. After 45 years Love is a splendor this.Love can be a moment madness Oh!were am I going with this.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

I think I see where you're going. Even the best of marriages have their ups an downs. Life wouldn't be worth much without love.

@Marilynda1225 (82799)

• United States

15 Sep 17

I made the wrong choice many years ago when I married and it ended after 15 years of trying to stay together. The only good thing I got out of that 15 years was my 4 children. I just couldn't see myself staying in a marriage that wasn't fulfilling

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

Absolutely not. You aren't doing yourself or anyone else any favors by staying in an unhappy marriage. Children are always a blessing

@FayeHazel (40243)

• United States

14 Sep 17

I think everyone is looking for the romantic love - which - to my definition is intense, but short lived. I think happy relationships last because of care and stability.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

Exactly. romantic love is too intense for a long life. We must learn to care for the other by compassion, honesty,and common interests.

@Kandae11 (55035)

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14 Sep 17

I was infatuated with the person I married. My infatuation was shortlived - so was the marriage.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

And so goes Most romantic love unless the couple can work together to make a solid marriage. For many when the romance wears away so does the marriage.

@YrNemo (20255)

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15 Sep 17

Some people are luckier than others in this respect. They have their cake and eat it too. Others got rotten relationships however they tried (after choosing carefully!).

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

You're right. Sometimes it's the luck of the draw.

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• United States

14 Sep 17

I think there is a lot more to love than just these things. I want a romantic love, with stability, and a happy family. I met my husband when I was 17, he was 16... we've been together for 9 years. We have two children together, 4 & 5. When I met him, I was instantly hooked... we started dating 2 weeks after we met, and haven't looked back, but we have been through a lot. What I looked for in him, I found... I found someone who loved me for me, and taught me how to accept things for what they are, and keep breathing. He showed me the way to be open in love. He gave me patience. He gave me trust. He gave me himself. This is rare... someone who is willing to put themselves aside for you, so you can heal, so you can grow, so you can learn. I've never been so appreciative of someone in my life. And my goal is to be able to reflect the type of love he embodies.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

You have described a good caring partnership. From romance you went on to care deeply for your husband as he did for you. This is a the type of marriage we all want for ourselves.

DiamondzGlitter

@Diamondzglitter (21)

• Canada

21 Sep 17

I believe you should only marry for romantic love, a love of their touch their smell, their voice, their heart, and not for anything else. If you don't really love someone chances are you'll give up quicker at the first sign of deceit perhaps. When you marry someone you need to love all parts of them, if they have children their children become your children so you need to open your heart not only to a partner but a family.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

22 Sep 17

I disagree, romantic love wears away and you have nothing left unless you have a caring person that shares your interest. Many that marry for romantic love have long marriages but they learn to know their partner and love them in a different way.

@celticeagle (166976)

• Boise, Idaho

15 Sep 17

Everyone is different. For me, I am a romantic so I would go for falling in love and being in love with a man. While others might have other expectations.

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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)

• United States

15 Sep 17

I got married the first time because all my friends were getting married LOL and because he got orders to Hawaii! The second time was, and still is, because of love. I was independent and on my own 16 years between marriages so I certainly didn't marry him in order for him to provide for me!

@andriaperry (116936)

• Anniston, Alabama

15 Sep 17

Yes I would marry for romance and no I would not settle. Happy bed happy marriage.

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@fishtiger58 (29820)

• Momence, Illinois

15 Sep 17

I have a wonderful husband, he is calm and loving. He is my best friend in the world and I know he will always and forever take care of me and I will take care of him. Sure we get on each other's nerves now and then, but I would never ever just settle. We have two wonderful grown sons who both are doing well. We have been married 29 years and together 35 years.

@SerenityEngel (525)

• United Kingdom

15 Sep 17

I am looking to settle and marry. I wanted to marry 100% for romantic love, but I am beginning to feel that isn't likely and security is now becoming more of an option. I'm not happy about that, but I feel I have to be realistic.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

In my opinion, if you meet an honest caring person and you have interests in common youcan have a good marriage. Romantic love is Wonderful but it's too intense to last and tunes down into a caring love in time.You can have a happy marriage.

Rubeena Bashir Kunju

@rubyriaz007 (4188)

• India

15 Sep 17

Falling in love is most beautiful experience in life. Some fall in love before marriage and then marry the person, others marry a person and deeply fall in love with that person. All women have different preferences, some give importance to looks ,some to good behavior ,some for financial stability But among all these the most important fact is that true love should remain between couples ,then only there will be a strong bonding.