He's Married but He has a Girlfriend
By Macarrosel
@Macarrosel (7498)
Philippines
September 18, 2017 5:38am CST
I have a boarding house near our house. My boarders are usually males who are working in the banks, in companies and all.
Last weekend, one of our male boarders brought a woman in his room. I thought it was his wife, only to find out it was not. I was really shocked!
I really hate it for it's cheating, but I don't know how to react. They can bring their wives or husbands in the house but no girlfriends or boyfriends allowed.
Shall I remind him about my policy or just never mind it?
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
18 Sep 17
I think you could tell your policy to him and he should not violate the defined rules. If he wants to leave your boarding house, it is his choice. If he leaves, you may get another boarder.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
Yes, you're right and I decided to confront him tonight. Thanks!
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
19 Sep 17
@Macarrosel It was wiser on your part to confront him because until and unless you tell your concern to him, he would continue to violate it.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
@dpk262006 yes you're right and I hate it if he will do it again so I confronted him last night and he just nod. Let's see if he will follow this time.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
18 Sep 17
Personally, I would not put any rule like this, the private life of a tenant is not my business. But the problem is have you already told him your rules ? If yes, he should have not done that, you should discuss with him, and ask him to leave if he does not care.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
18 Sep 17
@Macarrosel It would be the best to do. If one of them starts to not respect your rules and you say nothing, others will follow.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
@topffer i agree. it would set a precedence.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
Yeah, I told all my borders about my rules. Maybe I have to confront him tonight.
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@GardenGerty (160624)
• United States
18 Sep 17
It depends on a couple of things. First of all, are you comfortable with confrontation? Secondly, if he leaves, can you replace him and his income easily? I do not do confrontation well, but I think I would remind him, even if I did need the income.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
I hate confrontation too but I decided to tell him toningt.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
i see from your comments that they are made aware of it right from the start and that you have decided to speak to him. by the way, how did you find out it's not his wife?
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tsk, tsk. so how did your meeting go?@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
Bra cause I knew who his wife is and it's obvious for the woman is years younger than him.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
You're right. But I hate confrontation especially with our borders. In my mind, he is old enough and know what is write or wrong.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
Yeah, all my borders were inform of my policy before renting the room. Well, I already remind him about it and he just nod. Let's see if he won't do it again.
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@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
18 Sep 17
For me, It`s much better to talk and discuss with him again your house rules just to prevent any future complications in your part 
but in a calm way 
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
That's what I am planning to do tonight. Thanks !
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@thelme55 (76971)
• Germany
19 Sep 17
@Macarrosel just imagine. The wife will know about the other woman, there will be trouble coming in your boarding house.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
If it was my boarding house and given the circumstances that I had mentioned the rules before hand, I would respectfully talk to the boarder.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
@Macarrosel good for you. Hopefully, he agrees to your terms.
@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
Yes, and I did talk to him last night and he said, yes he is willing to follow.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
Yes, I did remind him last night and seemed okay now.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
18 Sep 17
Oh..let us know what you decide to do..interesting problem.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
18 Sep 17
@Macarrosel Yes you probably have to as otherwise they will all think they can do this. Let us know how it goes my friend.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
I decided to confront him tonight so that my other borders won't do the same.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
19 Sep 17
@Macarrosel Let us hope so. All you can do is give him a written warning and if he does it again you can tell him it will be necessary to find a new place to live.
@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
Yes, I already did remind him last night and seemes our conversation was fine. Let's see if he will follow.
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
Talk to your male boarder about your house rules. Being a woman, it would do justice to the wife also! It is up to him if he wanted to do it somewhere and not in your place!
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
That's what I said to them when they first came in. If they want to do it, they can, but not in my house. They can Go somewhere else.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
18 Sep 17
I hope it all goes well when you talk to him. So people are not allowed to have guests in their rooms beside their spouses? Maybe it was just a friend. Either way you can talk to him and remind him of the rules. Hope it goes okay,
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
Well, I told them wives and relatives are allowed to stay but not girlfriend and boyfriends. I talk to him last night and seemed everything fine.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
19 Sep 17
@Macarrosel I am glad to hear it went well
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
Yes. I will confront him tonight and I will really stick to my policy.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
That's what I really did last night. Thanks for the advise.
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The house is near to yours, I don't think you would be constantly watching the boarders' movements.
@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
19 Sep 17
I think you should tell to all your boarder of what your rules and regulation. Because there someone told me that is bad luck especially in business
@Christinb (390)
•
19 Sep 17
Maybe you should write a list of rules to be followed n place it in every room so that everyone can read them when they come.
