My text mate communicated with me.
By ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
Philippines
September 19, 2017 6:05am CST
I have a text mate from down south. I am up north and you can just imagine how I and he have this unique friendship. When my mobile phone was the Nokia 3310, he sent me a text message that was intended for his friend in the capital city. It was my globe number; when I asked who he was, he answered in Chabacano. I replied in Iloco language until we both laughed with the HEHEHE!
We are friends since 2002. We have not seen each other in person but we have the friendship tie. I sent him a shirt from my town (now a city); he sent me a bracelet of black stones thought to be medicinal. I sent him a picture of me and my son, who was still in elementary grade; he sent me his picture in Malaysia. When I went to Manila for the birthday celebration of the grandson of my sister in 2003, we planned to meet, but it was raining that night.
When he went to Kuwait, I gave him some Arabic words to always remember--- then we stopped communicating. He somehow sent me some messages, but when I replied, I was charged big from my load (it was P15 for 160 characters).
When he came back here, our friendship rekindled. He has a girlfriend before but the girl got jealous of me. And then he has another. I am happy for him. Then the communication stopped again.
Yesterday, he sent me a message on chat that he searched for me through my globe number. I accepted his request. We had a brief chat, and then, his messenger was off. It seems his latest girlfriend is jealous of me.
When will his girlfriend accept that we are only friends and have not even met in person?
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21 responses
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
I agree. I too understand the GF. There's no sense of security on her part and I think it's the text mate who should do something about it and it's normal for the GF to be jealous.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
my friend, he seldom sends me a message, i rarely text him too. i know he has a girlfriend and i do not want to be the reason for their misunderstanding. we don't chat often. if not for that message (my picture) i would not have slightest reason that he still remembers me.
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@LeaPea2417 (37350)
• Toccoa, Georgia
19 Sep 17
I totally understand your relationship with him. I have a similar relationship.
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@LeaPea2417 (37350)
• Toccoa, Georgia
20 Sep 17
@Kind4321 12 and a half years. I really hope to meet him one day.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
really? so how do you feel about it when you are the subject of jealousy of your male friend?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
@Kind4321 would you plan to meet the person once you are already attached to him?
@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
19 Sep 17
Sounds as if you two have made it through thick and thin! That is a good friendship.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
yes my friend. he and i are really friends.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
24 Sep 17
@ridingbet I might be afraid to meet him in person, it might ruin the friendship. What do you think? Will you ever meet him in person?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Sep 17
@Shellyann36 no, i don't think so anymore. i have already given up the idea of meeting up with him since that 2003 time.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
i thought about that too. before when we were texting, i would ask him when he and AT, his GF, when they will 'march down the aisles', but he responds, 'later'.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
no, i don't think we sill still meet. he rarely texts me or gives me a call. i don't either because i know he has a girlfriend.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
we are only friends. that is the truth. and we have not yet even met each other. we are text mates and our friendship is unique and platonic as well.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
My dear Ingrid, you cannot deny the fact that a girlfriend would always get jealous of a lady friend of his boyfriend.
I too felt like that when I and my hubby are just sweethearts. He too was jealous of my male friends even my female friends. But now that we are married and older, we feel secure of our friends, boys or girls. 
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Sep 17
@ridingbet Yes, that's because we have proved we love each other and now has a stronger trust to each other.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Sep 17
that is trust, my lady, and i appreciate that.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
that is so true. when in fact if we communicate, i often ask him and his GF, AT, when they will marry.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
20 Sep 17
@ridingbet , since you ask when they will marry, she should not consider you a threat, but insecurity can mess people up.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Sep 17
@bluesa hahaha! i couldn't say more. but i am innocent. it is their problem, not mine. 
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
Hmm, is it really friends? Come on guys, 2002 is too long ago, when will you meet, when you have grandchild and he had children.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
You don't believe me? Well I won't push you to believe. It is up to you.
Thank you.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
my friend CF is from Zamboanga, i am from north, an Ilocana, and his GF is from Quezon city. if you notice the picture, he is in QC because he s working there.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Sep 17
@JustBhem no, i don't think that is a problem of my friend. that is the problem of the girl because she is insecure and jealous of a person that even her boyfriend has not yet even seen personally. hahaha!
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
well, the GF should be secured because i and CF have not yet met; we are only virtual friends for 15 years now.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Sep 17
@ridingbet
Well, and that is your friend's problem.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
20 Sep 17
The girl friend is unsure of you, hence her behavior.
He should clear up things
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Sep 17
i agree. it is his problem and he should not include me with their differences.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
If I am the girlfriend of your text mate, I would feel jealous too if he spends more time on communicating with you.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Sep 17
@renicemae thank you. actually, i only remember him when he sends me a message. i am nit sure too if he keeps my number in his phone.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
oh no. we are not even communicating regularly. it is so seldom, and i have no problem if he does not message me. i know he has a GF and i am happy for him.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
@ridingbet Well, that's good. He has to talk and give assurance to her girlfriend that nothing is special between you two.
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
19 Sep 17
I would also get damn jealous!I wouldn't want my boo texting with another babe too much he should use that time on me.
Not to mean that he cannot have his life after we are together but consistent chatting with another girl could raise eyebrows am sure if you were in her shoes you would do the same.Its a woman's nature.
But I understand your friendship and i hope you one day meet.Its been long.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
we don't text often. the last was 3 years ago. his GF should be secured to my friend's love and loyalty.
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
20 Sep 17
@ridingbet Ok then thats understandable
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
When it is just a girlfriend there's no sense of security. Can you imagine your boyfriend texting another girl while you are together? I think it would have been fine if he had introduced you to his girlfriend. That would make the gf feel more secure. I think it's the way HE handles things and not the GF having the jealousy problem alone.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
we are friends before he met his present girlfriend, even his previous GF. i live far from him and we don't communicate often.
@cacay1 (83406)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Sep 17
@ridingbet my friend, remember Dennis reached me from New Zealand to a very far Cagayan de Oro city.Distance is not a hindrance meeting someone we like to see in person.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Sep 17
@cacay1 i know that and i hope you can still see him in person.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
24 Sep 17
i hope so, but that is already very impossible because i am far north and he is in the capital city.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
maybe he, when he marries his GF and have a family of his own.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Sep 17
@YrNemo hahahahahaha! i am laughing at our interaction here.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Sep 17
hahaha! but no, i beg to disagree. we were friends for 15 years now. he and his GF met while CF and i are friends.i came before her. she is the other woman. nyahaha!
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@YrNemo (20255)
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22 Sep 17
@ridingbet She must have had a guilty conscience, knowing that she did wrong .
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
precisely, she should never be insecure to me because i am far, and i and his BF are JUST FRIENDS.
@mjestrella (25)
•
19 Sep 17
If it's pure friendship, there's nothing wrong about that. Maybe know your limitations so not to unintentionally hurt the other party. :)
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
i know my limitations fully well. that is why i don't text or message him much even on chat. i would never like to be the reason for a broken relationship.
