He put Me Through An Emotional Rollercoaster
By Nancy_Nikki
@Kind4321 (826)
Nairobi, Kenya
September 21, 2017 5:54am CST
I once met this charming gentleman on a dating site he seemed like everything and more I would ever want.I fell in love with him before seeing him or maybe it was just a mere attachment..not sure.He sent me chocolates and flowers in the office and he was just too romantic.We finally met and talked for hours its as if we had known each other forever.Thereafter we were on the messenger most part of the night.The week after the conversations become less and less and he went quiet.I tried to find out if he was okay and after 5 days of silence he answered 'I am well just busy!'..That is when i almost damaged my screen trying to hit the block button.
One year later we match again on the dating site and he express how he is happy and apologizes how he acted a year ago.So we catch up and agree to meet and he promises to make things right.He really begged me for a chance because i had put it clear that i was not ready for another emotional roller coaster.Ladies and gentlemen that is the last time i heard of him.I hear they call such people narcissistic...For me its twice beaten thrice shy!
What's your story?Which dating disappointments you ever encountered especially Online?
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28 responses
@SerenityEngel (525)
• United Kingdom
21 Sep 17
@Kind4321 I am on several dating sites. I've done these before about 6 years ago. I never had any luck before.
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@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
21 Sep 17
Never fall in love with someone whom you never meet first because there are no such things being in love not seeing his true identity. I hope you`ll be careful with dating sites online 
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@William21001 (2637)
• Havre De Grace, Maryland
21 Sep 17
You never know someone I do not care how long you been with them people change every day
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@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
21 Sep 17
@William21001 ..What do you mean by that? 
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@William21001 (2637)
• Havre De Grace, Maryland
21 Sep 17
@m_audrey6788 I mean I am not trying to be rude just making a statement
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Sep 17
I think he took you for a ride and made a fool of you. Don't think about this episode too much, it is part of life and this way you gained experience. You need to be very careful in future, if you are going to date someone through online mobile applications or through dating websites.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Sep 17
@Kind4321 It is good to hear that you have learnt your lessons and this experience has taught you many things. Of course he was smart enough to trap you by offering you gifts and treating you on lunches. You have rightly said that all that glitters is not gold.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
22 Sep 17
@dpk262006 as we see many topics about online dating. most of the people are fake in this regard, just concentrate on the work and real things why unnecessary inviting problems.
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Sep 17
Thank you for your response...And yes he took me for a ride and he was so good at what he was doing.Since he put money into it.By treating me to the lunches and surprise gifts.But i have surely learnt that all that glitters is not gold.I moved on and i even forgot his name.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
21 Sep 17
That's what I call a jerk! 
I think one should meet early before it gets too serious.
I think one should meet early before it gets too serious.3 people like this
@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
21 Sep 17
only one computer - online date for me, and she was quite insane. Twitchy, convinced everyone was spying on her and when we kissed she was copying the couple making out at the bar table opposite us - dumped her that night
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@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
21 Sep 17
@Kind4321 never heard from her again but I never missed her - can't imagine a future with her that wouldn't end with her getting violent to me
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Sep 17
@arthurchappell do you think she would have been violent?was that the reason you stopped online dating?
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
24 Sep 17
For some reason, I have had great luck with dating sites. Well, let me rephrase that, great luck and lots of rejects as well. I was always fortunate enough to dump the rejects straight away and only go on one date with them. My luck comes with 2 fellows. My hubby, who I have been with for ten years now, and another fellow I met online and we dated for 4 years before finally calling it quits.
As far as your guy goes, sounds as if he has some emotional or mental issues going on. Better to be far away. I have heard so many horror stories about online dating and catfishing these days, that I would be afraid to try it again.
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
24 Sep 17
Wow so you met your hubby through online dating?That's interesting and a success story in line with that.And i agree with you that online dating has become somewhat dangerous and one has to exercise great caution.The weirdos are too many and robots to.
The guy in my case i thought that he had underlying issues but i never looked at mental issue as a case to consider.Nonetheless I would never give him my time again.His chance expired!
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
21 Sep 17
sounds like someone who changes his mind a lot.
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@Letranknight2015 (52079)
• Philippines
22 Sep 17
I haven't really tried an online dating site before. But I've heard it's filled with scammers, gold diggers and people that are probably worst than the ones you dated. Maybe he really wasn't that serious or anything he changed his mind quickly after apologizing. It's better to move on and keep on talking to other people.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
22 Sep 17
Actually in my life I never had much time for this. Plus with work and moving around all the time I never got involved. Plus, I have never dated a single person online. I am sorry he has done this to you and I am glad you stood up to him this time. It isn't right to lead a person on and then just dump them like he did.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
22 Sep 17
@Kind4321 I am not sure, but I did hear about some guys being married and doing this. I guess I have always felt that it was a risk and I didn't really want to take it. I had a friend once who dated a guy from online and he turned out to be a real jerk. He even asked her to get married and she said yes, then 3 days later called it off.
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
24 Sep 17
@poehere someone proposing marriage and calling it off after 3 days that's a psycho!I do not want to imagine what your friend felt.She must have seen some red lights before and ignored them terming them as 'minor issues' maybe because the guy had romantic ways of sweeping her off her feet to cover up his flaws.It must have been devastating but I am sure she learnt her lesson.Sometimes we have to go through painful experiences so that we can learn something.
I just think whether online or physical dating we have to be careful.With the changing times there are so many issues revolving around the world of dating
@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Sep 17
Actually the reason i ended up going online it is because of being busy and so i figured the chances of me meeting someone physically was minimal.
Thank you i got over it though.I can't even remember his name but of course once in a while i remember what he did.The reason for his silence remains a mystery.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Sep 17
he is playing with your emotions. i think you should think a hundred times if you still plan on communicating with him again.
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@mildredtabitha (16147)
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Sep 17
Sorry about that and I hope you recovered. :)
Ever tried that once but it never lasted. I prefer meeting people in real life
@mildredtabitha (16147)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Sep 17
@Kind4321 Do you still try online dating?
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Sep 17
@mildredtabitha yeah its addictive and kills boredom
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@SerenityEngel (525)
• United Kingdom
21 Sep 17
I met a guy online nearly 2 years ago. We were going to date long distance. Things had gotten to the point when I was waiting to hear what time the train was he was coming down on. Silence. nothing. He just stopped speaking to me. then in January this year, I called him. We chatted like nothing had happened. I called him about a week later. He didn't answer. Never would he answer the phone to me again. What was that about? I have no idea.
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Sep 17
You sound like my twin the exact situation I have written about is almost the same as the one you are also describing here.That was an emotional turmoil after 2 years then he just goes silent..High chances he did not know what he wanted or he got someone else.But that silence thing really annoys me...Its better someone gives you a closure that way you do not have to overthink...
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Sep 17
@chunchunwadaddy I do not know why people do that I am yet to understand
@chunchunwadaddy (284)
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Sep 17
I really don't like it when someone stops speaking to you then months or years later start communicating as if they have been doing so all along!!
@snowy22315 (182204)
• United States
22 Sep 17
I had one something like that who wheedled his way into my life, and then disappeared. You have to be very careful online. I talked to someone for a few months who did that too. I have learned some valuable and painful lessons from these encounters.
@artemeis (4194)
• China
26 Nov 17
I have never tried these social sites at all and one of the reasons is to avoid experiences like yours from happening on myself. Despite with the latest regulations of disclosure and video chats the other party is still a "stranger" because we can all pretend who we are not most of the time when we are online.
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
23 Sep 17
Haven't tried online dating. Not a fan. Too many variables involved. Sorry you had to go through it. I think you made the right decision the second time you met.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32746)
• Calgary, Alberta
22 Sep 17
I think he tried dating other women during those "I am busy" times.
I am an active user of online dating sites and my experience is not really that good. I had been using tinder for 2 years and all I got are friends with benifits. No one wanted to commit, they just want a booty call.
@ourlot (982)
•
4 Nov 17
A guy like that does not deserve your time, attention and lest love. Be happy that you didn't become involved romantically with him.
@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Sep 17
after the second time I have never spoken to him again.He is a part of my past now.Maybe one day he will see this post..LOL
