Family keeps asking: when I am going to get married
@ourlot (982)
October 15, 2017 3:18pm CST
This weekend was madness, not just because I cleaned my whole place, but family members dropped by to visit (or to annoy). They keep asking when I am planning to get married. And that in front of my girlfriend. She didn't say anything, but I feel bad and don't know what to answer. Any ideas?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Oct 17
I get this before and by ignoring it, they stop.
But there is one patient who keeps asking me about it. We are the same Dialysis patient. Since she always seen us with the boyfriend during my session. She probably is jealous about it.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
15 Oct 17
@JustBhem you know sometimes people are so insensitive. People has its own choices in life and have its unique life plans and its too personal to ask what are those.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Oct 17
@cttolledo
Yeah, sometimes I feel shy about it whenever she asks this sometimes.
And somehow this makes me think a lot and I don't want to because it will be added to my stressful thought. I think a lot. And this kind of issue makes me a little bit blue.
I mean who doesn't want to get married, right?
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
15 Oct 17
@JustBhem exactly who woudn't want to.. but there are things that needs to consider first before marrying. and whatever it is just leave it to that person.
@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
15 Oct 17
Some of my family do that to me and my boyfriend also at times. We've been together 7 years so we get asked that. We just say no rush we like how things are now.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
15 Oct 17
I would probably say " mind your own business "
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
15 Oct 17
Well very normal to people more so to the family members to ask over and over again especially when you have reached the marrying age already. And guess what it happens to me all the time.
Well for me because marriage is something that must be entered into if you are completely ready not only financially, emotionally but also you're whole self is ready.. because it's a lifetime commitment. No turning back when you're there already.
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@ArtisticFlames (103)
• United States
19 Oct 17
My husband and I (well we really aren't 'married' we didn't have a ceremony nor do we have a license) have been together for 7 years! Yep - no big ceremony, no ridiculously expensive dress, no unrealistic expectations. Are you and your girlfriend happy the way things are between you? You and your girlfriend are the only 2 people that matter! If you both are happy just being what you are.. does that mean you are any less committed to people that 'tied the knot'? NO! Heck no! In fact, I've seen more actual marriages fall apart than people who are just happy being together. No rings, flowers, stupid dress she'll wear once, a tux you'll never wear again, and a bachelor party you might later regret once it gets flung all over YouTube.
You and Your Girl are the ONLY people you need to be concerned with in this relationship. If the family doesn't like it.. guess what, that is their issues and their issues only.
Just Be. Just be happy together as you are!!!!!
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@jstory07 (139579)
• Roseburg, Oregon
15 Oct 17
Just tell tem only when you are ready. No plsns right now.
@BigTalpha (117)
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20 Oct 17
I wouldn't worry to much about it that's just something parents do when they like the girl you're with.
@mikaelajuliet (638)
• Boston, Massachusetts
21 Oct 17
tell them to go home. geez that would really annoy me
