How does one protect themselves and prevent sexual harassment?

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By Hope
@1hopefulman (45120)
Canada
October 16, 2017 3:43pm CST
What do you do or should do to protect yourself from sexual harassment? On a discussion on the radio, they said: Keep your pants on and your hands to yourself. But is that enough? Can one not sexual harass with words and texts?
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@YrNemo (20255)
17 Oct 17
wouldn't know about this. I got some admirers in the past from work, but I just ignored that sort of 'courting'. They got the message fine. Can't complain!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
17 Oct 17
Sounds like you knew and know how to handle these kind of situations.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
17 Oct 17
@zhouyinxiu I have lived alone for 17 years and I have friends that are women of all ages. I will maybe marry again one day but I like a woman that has good qualities. That is more important than what she looks like.
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• Shenzhen, China
17 Oct 17
@1hopefulman It was said that you are interesting the pretty girl ,right ?
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@Kandae11 (54986)
16 Oct 17
Keep pepper spray handy.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
16 Oct 17
Is it lawful to carry pepper spray where you live? What about dealing with someone that sends an inappropriate text or email?
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@Kandae11 (54986)
16 Oct 17
@1hopefulman I could ignore and delete the email or text. I was kidding about the pepper spray. The situation would have to be desperate indeed for me to use that on anyone.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
16 Oct 17
@Kandae11 I know you were joking but it might not be a bad idea. If someone sends inappropriate material in a text or email, ignoring it might be best at first but if they continue, I wonder if there is something more that could be done?
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
17 Oct 17
If I am not comfortable with someone I immediately make it known. Yes one can be harrased with words and text, but there is a block option on social media and if necessary that can be used. Face to face I have no problem telling someone to back off. On a night out my friends and I stick together. If there is any nonsense we simply get up and leave.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
17 Oct 17
I know you are sensible and can take care of yourself and will speak up fearlessly even in your dreams.
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• Shenzhen, China
17 Oct 17
You are right !
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
19 Oct 17
@1hopefulman thank you
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
17 Oct 17
A wise woman knows how to handle it well and tactfully. The young girls need to learn how to recognize it and stop it in its tracks.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
17 Oct 17
Any wise suggestions are welcome! I was thinking that it's good to get things off to a good start. The very first time it happens is to let the other person know that you don't like it, don't want it and to leave you alone or else you will start screaming the next time and that the whole world is going to know that you have been sexually harassed and tell it to the authorities. So, don't let it happen again. If it happens again, then action must be taken, tell others what has happened and report it. Here is where the whistle will come in handy. What do you think?
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
18 Oct 17
@1hopefulman I think you are 100% correct. I was lucky in that the culprits listened to me the first time. There was fortunately no second time. The shocker was two Facebook friends. I had to delete them from my friends list.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
18 Oct 17
@DianneN Hopefully this will help others!
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
17 Oct 17
Dont get caught alone with the perv`s.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
17 Oct 17
I was thinking the same thing. Bring a chaperone or a bodyguard if we are going to be alone with someone. Do things as a group.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Jan 18
@db20747 Best not to take any chances.
@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
4 Jan 18
Yeah avoid them like the plague.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
18 Oct 17
Oh yes, they do it by insinuation, texts and words. It's hard for a woman in the work place, if they complain they are usually fired and most women cannot afford to lose a job.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
19 Oct 17
Here, we have a government agency where such actions can be reported and action is taken.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
20 Oct 17
@RubyHawk If there is enough evidence she can sue for damages and compensation.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
20 Oct 17
@1hopefulman If the court believes her and that's a big if. I've know of women who lost their jobs because they complained about the boss making advances.
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
17 Oct 17
The Bible has the advice to scream.. When I was harassed by a man, when I was about 11 years old, and I screamed, and he ran away. Someone recognized him, and probably told the police, as they came and questioned me.. Screaming can help..
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
19 Oct 17
Yes, screaming can be a protection. These kind of people are hoping that victims do nothing and say nothing.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
18 Oct 17
I would block people who sent texts like that. Here it's against the law and people who do that can end up in jail or prison.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
19 Oct 17
Yes, it is wise to bock them and report them.
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
4 Jan 18
It's terrible when some jerk can't take no for an answer, you have to be firm, slap them if they touch you wrongly, and report them. A friend thought I had harassed him when I accidently brushed up against his backside. I didn't mean it. He told me to keep my hands to myself. I was surprised. Didn't even realize my hand had touched him. In the workplace, just keep the distance from women or men. And watch their every move when you are alone with them. You don't want to have to pepper spray them. But keep one on you at all times.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Jan 18
Interesting, that even accidents can be viewed as harassment. Iguess it's best to keep our distance from everyone.
18 Oct 17
If I sense that someone crossing the line, I avoid them. It's a way for me to keep the peace.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
19 Oct 17
It is good to do that but if they continue they need to be exposed.
• United States
18 Oct 17
The key is not to give the person attention. In any negative situation, an individual keeps going because they think that no one will stop or because the attention to keep continuing is motivated. So you can't show that you care and that people's actions bother you because they'll do it more. If you ignore it, overtime they stop. It may seem hard and not the kind of impulse of action we want to take, but it is something that psychologically works. It's like how they say smile at people that want to fight you. It's not the response they want because they want to upset you, but by giving them the opposite reaction, you are flicking them away and they won't fight you anymore.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
19 Oct 17
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• United States
19 Oct 17
@1hopefulman I meant it more if it's happening to you personally. I'd expect you speak up if you see it happening to someone else, of course. But of course, for yourself too, talk about it if it continues.
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• United States
19 Oct 17
Harrassment these days can come in all forms now with the internet. I've never had a problem with men over stepping their boundries. In fact.. most of my best friends are Men! I don't know if there will ever be a way to prevent it but it is a good idea to be aware of your surroundings, stay in groups, only hang out with people you trust, go to places you feel safe, also stay off of creepy internet sites! Just a thought. Women can cause harrassment too but I don't know of too many men that would complain that a woman is coming on to them all the time. lol
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
19 Oct 17
Yes, being aware of where we are and where we are going is wise.