How do you feel if your friend send a message to your boyfriend?

@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
November 4, 2017 11:12am CST
I feel like I was not respected as a friend. And I don't like it. Two nights ago, I was busy checking the boyfriend's messenger when I saw a friend of mine messaging the boyfriend and was asking for a favor. I was curious to what is the favor all about. In their conversation, the boyfriend said directly that he was busy and he was working which is so straightforward for the boyfriend to say that to her. But then it leaves me a curious state of mind. I know that it is not a good thing. She should have messaged me instead of the boyfriend for anything. I think there is something wrong about it. What do you think? No photo this time.
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• United States
5 Nov 17
Unless it's a surprise for you =) But yeah, I wouldn't want a friend to go straight to my fiancé/boyfriend either especially if they're not friends.
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• United States
6 Nov 17
@JustBhem I would be surprised as well. Who will you approach in this situation? Do you have a birthday coming up?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Nov 17
@infatuatedbby We have, it's my nephews Birthday this November 30. Why?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Nov 17
Yeah. I was surprised and I still wonder why she messages the boyfriend.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 Nov 17
i agree that your friend should message you first before your BF. if i were you, i will have a tinge of suspicion as to the real reason of the friend's action. it was good your BF declined your friend's request. he truly is a faithful one.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Nov 17
Yes, that is why I feel doubt about my friend. I will let it past this time.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 Nov 17
@JustBhem could this be that she has an admiration to your BF?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Nov 17
@ridingbet I know that's not it. He asked everyone she knows who can ask her a favor. She's a favor s.u.c.k. kind of friend.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
5 Nov 17
That's strange as she should have called you first instead of him . You should investigate what was the matter and what favour she was asking from him.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
5 Nov 17
@JustBhem you should ask her and your bf to clear your doubts.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Nov 17
That makes me wonder. I haven't asked her about it.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Nov 17
@sjvg1976 I already asked the boyfriend about it and he said it was nothing. She was asking only if the boyfriend is free. And he said he was working. I will let it pass this time for that friend and the next time she will do that. I will tell her something she will never forget.
@silvermist (19702)
• India
4 Nov 17
Your friend did the wrong thing .You have to make it clear to your friend that she is not to do this again.
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
6 Nov 17
@JustBhem Hopefully she won't be stupid to repeat it.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Nov 17
@silvermist And that would be a different story then.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Nov 17
The next time she will do that again, it will be a different story. But now, I will let it pass.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
4 Nov 17
Have you discussed this with your boyfriend and what were you doing looking at his messages? I think she should have asked you first.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
4 Nov 17
@JustBhem All good then, except for your friend.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Nov 17
@DianneN Yes, I will let it pass and the next time she will message the boyfriend again, I will tell her what's in my mind.
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
4 Nov 17
I and the boyfriend already agree about checking one's messenger. Yes, I asked the boyfriend about it and he said it was nothing important so he did not ask me. And besides, in the conversation, he said no. Exactly my point. Like she should ask me first.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
4 Nov 17
I think she should havr messaged you first and asked you to ask your boyfriend since she is a friend of yours. Did you ask him about it?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
4 Nov 17
Yes, the boyfriend said he was shocked at first but he didn't bother about it because it was nothing for him.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
5 Nov 17
@JustBhem ok well I would let her know how you felt about it
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Nov 17
@Happy2BeMe Yes, I will let it pass this time, and if she will still do that again. That would be a different story.
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@AmbiePam (92761)
• United States
7 Nov 17
I think she should have asked you first, and at the very least she should have told you that she had texted him.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Nov 17
I am expecting her that she is a decent enough to tell me first.
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
4 Nov 17
I am not very good at this.Let the rest here speak for itself
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Nov 17
Ahahahaha. Okay.
@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
4 Nov 17
Not a bad thing for a friend to message them, but doesnt make it good either.
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
5 Nov 17
@JustBhem good i guess
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Nov 17
Thank God the boyfriend is very straightforward in answering her.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
4 Nov 17
She should have asked you first.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Nov 17
That's what is in my mind. We are friends even if the boyfriend knows her. She still needs to respect me.
@Lejlacka (25)
• Serbia
5 Nov 17
Depends how close you all are... My friends call my boyfriend when something needs to be done, but we are all really close (vacations, and weekends spent together). Like family members... He ofcourse always tells me, when he was asked for a favour. Another question is if you 100% trust your boyfriend, cause that changes perspective on things alot. Will he tell you if she is acting shady? Where I come from its kinda normal that you ask for friends help, but idk if he is her friend too or only you
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Nov 17
The boyfriend knows her but there are not super close. We are the one that is close.