~Guess I'm Tougher Than I Thought~

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Valdosta, Georgia
November 6, 2017 3:15pm CST
Hey everyone I hope your doing well. =) My children have finished their school work for the day so they are now playing with their neighborhood friends. One little girl here was talking to my daughter and they were talking about a boy. My son was teasing my oldest daughter and said the boy doesn't like you. The little girl turned to him and said shut up you stupid, ugly chicken nugget nobody was talking to you! So my son got told by me he better quit teasing his sister (or else) and the girl was told she needs to apologize to my son and if there's anymore name calling by her at my home she will be asked to leave. I do not tolerate name calling or bullying in or at my house at all. She left and hasn't come back. That's her choice. I told them all my rule before they started playing together a few days ago. I believe in lifting others up, not putting down and I think it starts in childhood. Guess I'm tougher than I thought... Oh well, my children will be respectful people or at least I'm trying to lead them down that path anyway.
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@AmbiePam (92789)
• United States
6 Nov 17
Any move to squash bullying is a good one to me.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Nov 17
@Ambiepam Thank you I agree. I don't like bullying or name calling of any kind.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Nov 17
jn@LovingMyBabies I do ot lie name calllg either
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@much2say (55655)
• Los Angeles, California
6 Nov 17
You're tough - but it's because you care and you want to teach them to care too! Kids need this guidance - and I do believe it's better to nip it in the bud in childhood . . . we've all seen what happens when this kinda stuff continues when they get older .
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@much2say (55655)
• Los Angeles, California
7 Nov 17
@LovingMyBabies Well maybe she left this time, but when she understands this behavior will not be tolerated, she'll come back and follow the rules (hopefully) if she wants to play.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Nov 17
@much2say Yeah I hope so.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Nov 17
@much2say Exactly! Yes I will not allow my children to behave this way or anyone that comes to my home. They Will follow my rules or leave...so simple. Sadly she chose to leave, which I actually wasn't expecting. =( It disappointed me.
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@BarBaraPrz (47334)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
7 Nov 17
"Stupid, ugly chicken nugget"? I'm sorry, but that made me laugh. I'd give that girl a gold star for creativity. But you're absolutely correct in not allowing name calling in your home.
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@BarBaraPrz (47334)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
7 Nov 17
@LovingMyBabies Yes it was rude, and good that your son recognized it as such and voiced objection, but it was funny.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Nov 17
@BarBaraPrz To be honest I did laugh because I have never heard that expression used before. But when I did my son got offended and said it's not funny-it was rude! Lol
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@celticeagle (167019)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Nov 17
I totally agree with you. Maybe you startled her. She may not be used to being told how she should act.
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@celticeagle (167019)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Nov 17
@LovingMyBabies ........House rules are important for any household. When visitors come over they should go by the same rules. Just common sense. I have had issues with visiting kids too.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Nov 17
@celticeagle Thank you. I think I might have but I wont be surprised if I get a knock at the door from an angry momma bear at some point...
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
I am proud of you for doing this. Good example for the children, yours and the others.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Nov 17
@marlina Thank you, my kids know my rules on this and now the other children were reminded of it again too.
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
6 Nov 17
Way to go mama. . Wonder if she gets called names and that's where it came from. Never know but good you're teaching your kids better. They're great little humans already.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Nov 17
@Courtlynn Thank you! I was really disappointed she left. I wasn't expecting her to, I just wanted her to follow the rules at my home.
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
6 Nov 17
@LovingMyBabies right. It is shocking she couldnt just stay and be nice and apologize
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@GardenGerty (160697)
• United States
7 Nov 17
They know that you mean what you say, and that they can trust you, because you did just what you told them about not being respectful. I was taught that lesson at a young age. I maybe did not always like the rules my parents had, but I knew I could count on them.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Nov 17
@Gardengerty Absolutely, I stick to what I say. I am the same way, they know what to expect with me.
@Juliaacv (50979)
• Canada
7 Nov 17
I don't blame you. They need to all understand respect, and I agree, it does start during childhood and in our own homes and those of our friends.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Nov 17
@Juliaacv Yeah, I cannot allow name calling or bullying types of behavior.
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@CinnamonGrl (7084)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
6 Nov 17
You are right, it DOES start in childhood. And good for you! It was never allowed at my house either. The thing I'm proudest of in my children, er, adults, is their kindness. I would have been so upset if my kids had been bullies.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Nov 17
@Cinnamongrl I think so too. Thank you! =) Yes I do not want my kids to be bullies either.
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
7 Nov 17
your nothing but a big meanieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee---lol
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• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Nov 17
@hostessman Yup I sure am!
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• Eugene, Oregon
7 Nov 17
If you can teach your children that, you will have, in a small way, made the world a better place.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Nov 17
@JamesHxstatic Thank you for saying that, I hope I will be successful at changing the world just a little bit. =)
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
7 Nov 17
All manners start at home.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Nov 17
@andriaperry I agree. =)
@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
6 Nov 17
A mom has to be tough. Part of the job.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Nov 17
@Johnroberts Yes it is!
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• Defuniak Springs, Florida
6 Nov 17
You did what any momma should of done in your situation
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Nov 17
@thislittlepennyearns Thank you. =)
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@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
6 Nov 17
Good for you! There are a lot of ways of saying things. Doesn’t mean you should call people names.
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@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
7 Nov 17
@LovingMyBabies absolutely no reason. There are other ways she could have made her point.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Nov 17
@dodo19 Yes there was no reason for her to start name calling.
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@Tina30219 (81944)
• Onaway, Michigan
7 Nov 17
Your right your kids don't need that type of person she sounds like she could be trouble
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• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Nov 17
@Tina30219 I absolutely agree with you.
• United States
7 Nov 17
Agree, she shouldn't have named your son, but I wonder if that was the way for her to stand up for your daughter since she was being teased by her brother.
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• United States
9 Nov 17
@LovingMyBabies Very true. Sometimes we blurt things we don't necessarily mean both are at fault definitely.
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Nov 17
@infatuatedbby She could have said stop teasing her or that's not nice. She didn't have to call him stupid and ugly-especially to a child who has Aspergers and has low self esteem already...
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@LeaPea2417 (37355)
• Toccoa, Georgia
7 Nov 17
You did the right thing.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Nov 17
@Leapea2417 Thank you.
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@LadyDuck (471421)
• Switzerland
7 Nov 17
Congratulations! You are so right, you have to stop bad habits from the beginning. If she does not want to aplogize, it's better she does not show up anymore.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Nov 17
@LadyDuck Thank you. I agree, it starts from a very young age and at home.
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• Canada
7 Nov 17
Good for you mama!
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• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Nov 17
@daphers1981 Thank you!
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