CHOOSING FRIENDS.

Alfredo Rossi

@amadeo (111938)

• United States

2 Dec 17

@Kandae11 yes.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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2 Dec 17

Trust is important.

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M.-L.

@MALUSE (69373)

• Germany

2 Dec 17

I've never *chosen* friends. Nothing of what you've mentioned here applies to me. People have crossed my way, sometimes in bizarre situations. Acquaintances have turned into friends. Some have stayed friends, others have moved out of my circle or I out of theirs.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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2 Dec 17

Not everyone's situation is the same. Choices can play a part when we choose to remain friends with someone for one reason or the other, or when we decide the time has come to break free.

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M.-L.

@MALUSE (69373)

• Germany

3 Dec 17

@TheHorse Are you asking me? If so, the answer is yes. The job and hobbies usually bring people together.Exceptions prove the rule, of course.

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@TheHorse (218464)

• Walnut Creek, California

3 Dec 17

Have similar interests played a role for you? Most of the people I talk to are fellow teachers, music-lovers, or softball players. Also fellow stereo geeks.

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Hope

@1hopefulman (45120)

• Canada

3 Dec 17

"kind, true , listens and has a great sense of humor" Good list! I would add: a dash of patience and some spirituality/humillity.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

Perfect.

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ingrid

@ridingbet (66854)

• Philippines

3 Dec 17

i am a faithful and loyal friend, but don't mess around because i can be the most ferocious person you can encounter. because of that, i want friends who are also loyal and trustworthy.

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ingrid

@ridingbet (66854)

• Philippines

4 Dec 17

@Kandae11 that is true. because i can treat a close friend like a living entity, once i am hurt. (like that patronizing colleague).

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

- friends do not mess with Ingrid.

I understand, you won't let anyone take advantage of you.

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Angie

@andriaperry (116936)

• Anniston, Alabama

2 Dec 17

You are what you hang out with, that is how I was raised and its true. I prefer friends, male and female, that are funny and go getters, not lazy bums waiting for others to do everything.

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Marlina

@marlina (154131)

• Canada

3 Dec 17

@andriaperry, Do NOT want lazy friends either.

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@TheHorse (218464)

• Walnut Creek, California

3 Dec 17

@Kandae11 Lazy people bother me, as do self-absorbed people.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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2 Dec 17

You are perfectly right - you can be judged by the kind of friends you hang out with. I too cannot abide the lazy

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The Invisible Man

@TheInvisibleMan (17597)

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2 Dec 17

Being able to choose our friends and being chosen by them is something very valuable.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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2 Dec 17

It is always good to have a choice.

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The Invisible Man

@TheInvisibleMan (17597)

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2 Dec 17

@Kandae11 Always.

Toni

@toniganzon (72281)

• Philippines

2 Dec 17

I don’t really have a criteria in choosing a friend. I just know when someone is going to be a great one. I have friends from different walks of liked and different ages. I have friends as young as 20 and as old as 65. I will be turning 40 early next year.

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Toni

@toniganzon (72281)

• Philippines

2 Dec 17

@Kandae11 I don’t feel any difference when I was approaching my 18th

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

@toniganzon Very good.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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2 Dec 17

You are a very balanced person - that's good. How do you feel about your approaching fortieth birthday?

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (37350)

• Toccoa, Georgia

3 Dec 17

I gravitate toward those who share the same interests as I do. But, that doesn't completely keep me from being friendly with those who are different from me.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

That's the right spirit.

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@TheHorse (218464)

• Walnut Creek, California

3 Dec 17

My main criterion is similar interests.

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@TheHorse (218464)

• Walnut Creek, California

3 Dec 17

@Kandae11 I also listen closely to how people DESCRIBE their friends. A good way to find out what a person is like is to hear how they describe others.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

@TheHorse I agree.

@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

Very important component for a long lasting friendship.

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Nanette Piotrowski

@nanette64 (20364)

• Fairfield, Texas

3 Dec 17

Someone who's not a know-it-all like me

@Kandae11 . Discussions can get out of hand. Seriously though; a sense of humor is top priority on my list.

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@TheHorse (218464)

• Walnut Creek, California

3 Dec 17

That high on the list in any study of "interpersonal attraction."

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Nanette Piotrowski

@nanette64 (20364)

• Fairfield, Texas

3 Dec 17

@Kandae11 Just ask my sister; she's still alive.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

A sense of humor can keep a discussion from getting out of hand.

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DianneN

@DianneN (247186)

• United States

3 Dec 17

Hard to say. I have a huge variety of friends who are all dear to me. One thing for sure is that they are all intelligent, interesting, fun, kind, considerate, and classy.

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DianneN

@DianneN (247186)

• United States

3 Dec 17

@Kandae11 Aww, thank you!

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

All of your friends share characteristics that you like - - intelligent, interesting, fun, kind, considerate and classy.

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Hanni Harel

@Hannihar (130218)

• Israel

3 Dec 17

I have had different friends in different periods of my life. Here right now I like people that are there for me and stand by me whether they agree with me or not. People that care and loyal and nice and kind.

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Hanni Harel

@Hannihar (130218)

• Israel

3 Dec 17

@Kandae11 Thanks Kandase.

@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

Those are valuable friends.

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staplotick

@stapllotik (1933)

• India

4 Dec 17

Iam not into choosing business. What matters to me is the instant connect with the person. His any kind of status does not matter to me

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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4 Dec 17

That connection is important. Sometimes people choose to be friends with someone not because they really like that person, but for various other reasons.

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staplotick

@stapllotik (1933)

• India

5 Dec 17

@Kandae11 yes agree with you

JOSEPHINE

@nangayo (2290)

• Nairobi, Kenya

4 Dec 17

I choose someone whom i can understand and who understands me the way i am.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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4 Dec 17

Good choice.

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dpk262006

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

4 Dec 17

I would like to be friend with someone, who is like me in thinking pattern.

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dpk262006

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

5 Dec 17

@Kandae11 If interests are common, it is all the more good but even if interests are different but our wavelength matches, I would befriend the person.

dpk262006

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

5 Dec 17

@Kandae11 If interests are common, it is all the more good but even if interests are different but our wavelength matches, I would befriend the person.

@Kandae11 (54986)

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4 Dec 17

With similar interests I suppose.

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Always smiling

@allknowing (135918)

• India

3 Dec 17

I am not sure what a friend is I keep in touch with so many. We meet often and share our life.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

You keep in touch with many , and the reason you keep in touch with them and meet often is because you like their company.

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Sanjeev

@sjvg1976 (41281)

• Delhi, India

3 Dec 17

I would prefer a person who is polite,true,helpful and caring to be a friend.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

Very good qualities.

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Bobby Larkin

@hostessman (11871)

• Tucson, Arizona

3 Dec 17

don't care what they look like or what race they are as long as there honest and will be a true friend

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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3 Dec 17

Well said.

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Blue Butter Fly

@fly802 (1383)

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4 Dec 17

I like to have such friends whom I can believe and who can understand me better?

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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4 Dec 17

I hope that you have quite a few of those.

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Blue Butter Fly

@fly802 (1383)

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5 Dec 17

@Kandae11 Yes, I have some good friends.What`s about you?

ruth roberts

@welshbabe (81)

• United Kingdom

4 Dec 17

Don't think I'd want to be friends with the rich and famous - unless I actually liked the person anyway. Don't think I have ever actively chosen a friend - my friendships just tend to develop naturally - form shared circumstances or interests. I think that is the ebst way - rather than cold-bloodedly going after someone to be your 'friend'. Picking someone who is less attractive is also not the way to pcik a friend - when you like the person the looks are irrelevant.

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