It takes a while for me to forgive. / myLot

December 8, 2017 12:04am CST

There’s this guy who was a cool friend in high school. After we graduated high school(class of 2015) he said something so rude and disgusting, I cut him off after that. Today, ironically here he comes strolling into my life December 7,2017. Apologizing and the whole 9 yards. I’m still cautious and still stuck on what he said to me. When you lose my trust, it’s hard to gain it back. You have to prove to me, same goes for me if it was reversed. You can’t just forgive someone that easy. Even if I do forgive someone so easily, I will never forget what they said to me. Sometimes it’s easier to forgive than to hold on to something. This is all over the place...sorry. These are my 1:00 AM thoughts.

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Jotomy

@Jotomy (6322)

• India

8 Dec 17

If you forgive someone then you must also try to forget that issue.

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kiran8

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

9 Dec 17

@Jotomy , I agree ,there is no point in holding on to grudges all our lifetime.If a person is genuinely sorry and is trying to make amends it is only right that we forgive and forget the past.

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Jotomy

@Jotomy (6322)

• India

9 Dec 17

@kiran8 well said kiran

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josefina

@josie_ (10034)

• Philippines

8 Dec 17

Ever wonder why we say "forget and forgive"? You can't do one without doing the other. They go together. If you can't bring yourself to forgive then the next best thing is to "avoid and forget".

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (139937)

• Philippines

8 Dec 17

I am sorry to say this. I don't give my forgiveness easily. However, it will depend on how serious the concern is.

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Jotomy

@Jotomy (6322)

• India

9 Dec 17

I have seen some men they don't easily forgive others, some people try to take revenge I don't know with that what they get.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (139937)

• Philippines

10 Dec 17

@Jotomy I do think that it doesn't need to take a revenge. I still believe in bad karma.

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Mohit Arora

@mohit459 (12565)

• Haldwani, India

8 Dec 17

So are you Friends now?..

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Jazon

@holdoors (2517)

• Malaysia

8 Dec 17

Yes, I do agree with your perspective.Most of the time, it is really hard to forget these unhappy memories.

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Desiree Palomo

@Dyvette16 (4301)

• United States

8 Dec 17

I am the same way , I guess because the situation stays in my head so it’s still there when talking to the person

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ddnj2006

@ddnj2006 (652)

• Philippines

8 Dec 17

I feel you.. But possibly, if that person can make it up to you in full, on a level of how much damage has been done, the wounds will heal and the broke crystal of your trust will be regained. Sometimes, time is the only thing that will allow to correct everything. But both will have their part. The one who seek to be forgiven, and the one who offer the forgiveness. Cause sometimes things are not as easy as we thought or as we see, but chances will always be the last resort.

Neha211985

@neha211985 (779)

• India

14 Dec 17

Forgive but never forget.

Yumcha

@ya2017 (86)

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11 Dec 17

People sometimes say words they don't have control over and sometimes they say it intentionally. Whatever the reason is, words can heal,it will.

Toni LoCicero

@BearArtistLady (6037)

• United States

8 Dec 17

The saying has always been forgive and forget, but with some things there is a reason for not forgetting. It's called self preservation. The man has to not only EARN your forgiveness but he also has to earn your TRUST!!! Both don't come easily. Once he has earned both your forgiveness and your trust than you'll be able to allow time to erase what he did and forget the pain and hurt he caused.

Hilda

@Hildasalom (954)

• Nairobi, Kenya

12 Dec 17

You should just forgive and forget.maybe you may need his help one day.