A SLAP IN THE FACE?

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@Kandae11 (55035)
December 18, 2017 9:21am CST
Do you get annoyed when someone responds to your discussion with three words or one line? Depending on the topic, sometimes a very short response can pack more of a punch than a lengthy one . Some time ago I received a very rude reply from a member on whose post I had left a 'short' response. I thought my response was a meaningful one and would easily engender additional comments. However , the member did not see it that way, he was probably expecting an in-depth analysis of his discussion possibly a paragraph or two in length. Everyone should be aware by now that we earn here by interaction and received responses and likes - so would you get angry if you receive a short - even though meaningful response? What kind of responses do you find to be a real turn off? I must say - that member's reaction felt like a virtual slap in the face.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
18 Dec 17
I am thankful anytime that somebody responds to my discussions. It means that they took the time to actually read it and that means a lot. I don't care if you respond with just a few words or a much longer response. I read they all and the fact they they responded at all is what is important to me. Sometimes you can read a discussion and it just leaves you with a WOW and sometimes that says it all.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
18 Dec 17
@Kandae11 Very true. i have read a few of those discussions on here
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
Oh yes. We can be so overwhelmed that we find ourselves 'lost for words' so to speak. In such cases, a simple WOW can say a lot
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
18 Dec 17
I get those short on and some do not make any sense. I do not feel as bad as you do.I have a couple asking me why I tag my post gay.
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
18 Dec 17
@Kandae11 I am sure that he got the message.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
My main contention here is that there is no need to be rude to the person who leaves a short comment on a post - especially when the total amount of responses on that post ended up being less than six. Anyway, I have not seen him around for some time now.
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@much2say (55655)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 17
I guess since I've been on these kinda sites for a while, I just know I'm going to see a whole spectrum of responses - from short to long. I try to come here with no expectations. I will say it can be annoying though when you see a particular person doing the short responses everywhere by pattern with a generic comment - that's just insincere.
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@much2say (55655)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 17
@Kandae11 Right? I wouldn't call them on it either . . . why tell the world that your feathers are ruffled over that!
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
That would definitely be annoying . I receive quite a number of those, but I would never be rude to those who do it and as they say in my country -"run them off"
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@shaggin (72141)
• United States
19 Dec 17
I got one yesterday that thanked me for writing it. That was definitly someone who didn't read what I wrote and leaves generic comments.
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@jstory07 (139742)
• Roseburg, Oregon
18 Dec 17
A short respons is better than no respond. Sometimes I leave short responds.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
That's what I was thinking.
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
18 Dec 17
I'm sure it did. I don't mind the short responses, as long as I understand them. Giving a pointless response that doesn't make any sense to the post or the probable question I usually ask about how your day went, leaves me shaking my head and wondering if the person read it or not and I'm guessing not. Especially when I go to their profile and see a line or less of post and I'm supposed to respond to that in an intelligent manner. Ha! very difficult to do.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
I have received some responses which show quite clearly that the post was not read - even though the majority of my posts are not lengthy ones. You are right - it is hard to make an intelligent response to some posts. When I visit the discussions with no response section I can see why some have been there for two hours or more. Though I must add that some good posts might get lost in the mix.
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
19 Dec 17
I seldom leave long responses. There's so many things to read on My Lot, we would be online all day, if we had to leave a long response to every discussion! That other member is very childish and immature
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
19 Dec 17
@Kandae11 If we did that, we'd never get anything done!
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@Kandae11 (55035)
19 Dec 17
Yes, lengthy responses do take time to read - so they can't all be long.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Dec 17
I am very grateful for any response I get! I don't care if it's just an emoji.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
I feel the same way.
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@FourWalls (68084)
• United States
18 Dec 17
It depends. (No, I'm not stopping there. ) Sometimes I've been so overwhelmed by a song that someone posted that all I can say is, "Wow." With a discussion that one would think would elicit more than "yep" (or less), yes, it's annoying. However, I can understand that what one person is passionate about may bore someone else. I rarely get replies to discussions about the music that stirs my soul the most, and usually it's "never heard of him/her/them." It is what it is, and I try not to take it personally.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
I think that a "wow" or "yep" isn't that bad if it is an additional comment after the first response - and I have received a few of those as a first response. Sometimes I try to help out by responding to a discussion that I really have no interest in - especially when it has been sitting there for an hour with no response.
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@FourWalls (68084)
• United States
18 Dec 17
@just4him -- I admit that most of my favorites are outside of the "superstardom" mainstream. Not having heard of Elton John, though.... As for "living under a rock," either you like an art form or you don't. End of statement. I haven't been to a movie since 1987, so I'm under a rock, too...just a different one, one with an iPod.
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
18 Dec 17
@FourWalls - That's me who usually hasn't heard of the artist. My son says I lived under a rock while I was growing up in the 60's, 70's & 80's.
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@Madshadi (8840)
• Brussels, Belgium
18 Dec 17
Perhaps next time he should post a warning that only longer comments are allowed in his discussion before attacking people.
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@Madshadi (8840)
• Brussels, Belgium
19 Dec 17
@Kandae11 I’m not surprised
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
I don't know if I was his first victim - or he had behaved that way before - but his posts did not receive many responses.
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@LadyDuck (471421)
• Switzerland
19 Dec 17
I am only annoyed when someone replies and it is only a way to get attention, I mean something like "Thank you for sharing".
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@LadyDuck (471421)
• Switzerland
20 Dec 17
@Kandae11 I think that the message behind this is "come to my discussions and like them".
@Kandae11 (55035)
19 Dec 17
I suppose that means that they can't think of a suitable comment but want you to know that the post was read.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50256)
• United States
18 Dec 17
As long as someone is not hateful or rude any response is welcome
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@Tampa_girl7 (50256)
• United States
18 Dec 17
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
That is the way I see it - and my bank keeps ticking over.
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@rina110383 (24492)
18 Dec 17
I don't post discussions here. I only leave responses to others' discussions. There are times when I only leave a one-liner response because I have nothing more to say.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
That is understandable. Some discussions can be difficult to respond to as well.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Dec 17
I don't mind receiving very short messages as long as I understand them.
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
19 Dec 17
@Kandae11 I've been left a hug! What's wrong with that?
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@Kandae11 (55035)
19 Dec 17
@kobesbuddy Ive, received that too - but not in the first response. I can't imagine what that member would have done if he received a response with no words - just an emoji
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
Same here - as long as the message is understandable.
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@peachpurple (13962)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 17
I do get short responses too such as ; I am happy for you or Happy for you. These are alright for me. It doesn't matter how short the responses are as long as they are not rude/
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
It can be frustrating when it seems the responder hasn't read the post - but I won't attack anyone for something like that - or for a short response.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
@peachpurple Thank you.
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@peachpurple (13962)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 17
@Kandae11 you are a kind person, I know you don't return a attack on anyone
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
19 Dec 17
Sometimes I don't like short responses as if the responder is too lazy to respond to my post. Short and meaningful post is okay. I try to be nice even if their response is poor
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@Kandae11 (55035)
19 Dec 17
There is no harm in being nice.
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• Preston, England
19 Dec 17
I tend to dislike standard minimalist 'thanks for posting' or 'very interesting' style replies that just get cut and pasted to everyone and every post, suggesting the commentator probably never even read the title
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• Preston, England
20 Dec 17
@Kandae11 yes exactly, it is just a lazy way to add comments in the hope of reciprocation
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@Kandae11 (55035)
19 Dec 17
If the post is 'very interesting' - then surely there would be something to comment about.
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@LeaPea2417 (37355)
• Toccoa, Georgia
19 Dec 17
I am not offended if I receive a short reply.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
19 Dec 17
Won't matter to me either.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
18 Dec 17
There is no need for rudeness, even with a short, meaningful response. I get a variety of responses, some make no sense. With those, I just say thanks and move on. Time is of the essence for me on here.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
18 Dec 17
@Kandae11 I'd rip my hair out if my internet did that every 15 minutes.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
@DianneN There are good days and bad days. On a bad day it might remain off for forty minutes - on a good day it is back in action within two minutes. I never had this problem when I lived in the city.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
18 Dec 17
Time is the essence for me too - especially with an internet that blacks out every 15 minutes.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
19 Dec 17
Lucky for me I didnt experience it yet. But would not mind and even thankful if I got three words response
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@Kandae11 (55035)
19 Dec 17
I don't mind - if I gather from the response that my post has been read.
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• United States
19 Dec 17
How rude of him/her. Sometimes, I can't think of something meaningful to say, even though I really liked the post, I just don't know what to say. At those times, I'm not writing good responses as I feel I should. I think whoever said this to you was completely wrong and rude.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
19 Dec 17
It was the first time I experienced that type of behavior.
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• United States
19 Dec 17
@Kandae11 People just don't realize how their words can effect someone, and hopefully seeing how this made you feel--will stop this person in the future.
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