how to stop someone who complains unreasonably

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@mydanods (6513)
Nigeria
February 28, 2018 11:27pm CST
There are times people just keep on going on complaining and complaining. This or that isn’t right; that should have been done the other way round. I used to feel sorry for them. Now I don’t. I just think they should stop. If you can’t change something or offer suggestions on how to change it, just endure it. When someone goes on like this I take a break from the person. They can’t change their personality. Any suggestion you offer always rebounds back on you. It is because they are selfish and self-centered to the core. They are seeking only what interests them. I have feelings of my own; my own problems. I really don’t want to add to what is already troubling me. And the funny part – they just talk and talk not allowing you to talk. I don’t know if anyone has a successful technique for a person like this?
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Anna
@LadyDuck (471421)
• Switzerland
1 Mar 18
There are people who are only happy if they complain. You cannot change them, the only way is to take a break from them.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
1 Mar 18
Haha. Imagine living in a house with such a person. Complaining can make one feel all his heads are being torn apart. Have you met anyone like that in a relationship?
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
1 Mar 18
@LadyDuck How did you cope? What did you do to help her or what do you do when she starts on her rantings?
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Anna
@LadyDuck (471421)
• Switzerland
1 Mar 18
@mydanods My mom was like this.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55035)
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1 Mar 18
At first I will offer a suggestion and hope it works.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
1 Mar 18
What would you suggest?
Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
1 Mar 18
@Kandae11 Sometimes it's about the neighbors and their children, other times the in-laws, sometimes nothing in general just happy to complain about being bored.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (55035)
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1 Mar 18
@mydanods That would depend on what the complaint is about.
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hereandthere
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
1 Mar 18
you can say the same thing about some mylotters. they want mylot to change for them. i always say treat different sites differently.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
1 Mar 18
Okay. Treat all sites differently and take them at their merit. Some sites are slow earners while others you can earn fast.
hereandthere
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
1 Mar 18
@mydanods and don't mix the rules
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
1 Mar 18
@hereandthere I have to confess, I have mixed the rules sometimes. When you are working on several sites at the same time, you tend to do this.
Manisha
@ms1864 (6885)
• Bangalore, India
1 Mar 18
I believe there is usually a reason to why people become all negative. It is frustrating for us. ...but we can never know their full story. Nobody is born with negativity.... the environment and situations that people go through make them a certain way. Obviously, if your friend has not told you the main thing that troubles him, that made him so critical, he might not tell you even if you ask. For your own peace of mind you can try distancing yourself.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
1 Mar 18
I need that peace of mind and tranquility. I don't know how to tell him to just stop it; everyone has a problem and he's not the only one not happy with the way the world has gone. I'll leave him whenever he starts on his rantings.
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