My sister fell in love with a CHEATER and I couldn't do anything
By Amber Ross
@amberross (16)
March 4, 2018 10:31pm CST
Yes. She did. And I couldn't do anything to change that. I wonder how she would feel if I slap her for just a second and shout at her face to wake up and use her brain and not let her heart overtake her common sense.
My sister introduced him to me back in 2010 and the moment I saw him, my instincts told me he's not the type I want for my sister. But despite that, I showed my respect to give him the benefit of the doubt. At first, he was sweet and kind to her. He gave her flower and chocolates every important occasion. He even met our parents and my other siblings. But then a few years later, he changed. He seldom calls my sister, he chooses to hang out with his friends more often than her and spends more time sleeping and going on trips with his workmates than having a quality time with her during their rest days cause they both have different jobs. I'm not entirely sure whether my sister's kind of oblivious to that or she just chooses to ignore because she loves him more??? Fast forward... Well, we just learned that he got someone pregnant a year ago and now the baby's 7 months old. I was hurt. I felt betrayed because I love my sister and anything that breaks her breaks me even more. I don't want to tell her "I told you so" cause it would be so unreasonable and insensitive of me to be kond of harsh to her at times like these. So I kept my mouth shut, again. What happened was she forgave him. She accepted him again and gave him another chance to become someone better and decided that they face this together. I just........don't know what else to say..... I can't believe her being so kind and dumb at the same time???? I mean she's the most generous and understanding person I know and being taken for granted just like that is totally unfair and selfish. I don't know what to do. I love her and I can't let her marry that person someday. It's not fair.
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@LeaPea2417 (37396)
• Toccoa, Georgia
5 Mar 18
In a lot of situations, the person who falls in love with a cheater is blinded and has to go through heartache to learn a lesson. They don't listen to wise advise from their families.
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@Swayamsiddha (4354)
• New Delhi, India
5 Mar 18
U r right. I am sorry for her your sis. So I think mI should take it like this- He is a casanova. He will soon leave her. This step of his will leave a very big impact in your sis's life.
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@amberross (16)
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5 Mar 18
I know she's aware that I'm hurting deep inside and so are the people around her who truly care for her. We only want the best of everything for her and seeing her with a guy who never understands her value is the last thing we want. I hope she's being true to herself.
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@amberross (16)
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5 Mar 18
I know. Hopefully one day she sees him like the way I do.
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@amberross (16)
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5 Mar 18
This is not the only time he took advantage of her. There were times she caught him lying to her but eventually she forgave him. The pregnancy thing should serve as an eye opener to her.
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@Dirren_Ronaldo (291)
• Yogyakarta, Indonesia
5 Mar 18
so sad.. your Sister is very kind..
she should get someone better that this cheater..
but it can be an aprove that you're Sister is not just a nice Person, but absolutely a fair and honest..
you have a sister like angel..
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@Swayamsiddha (4354)
• New Delhi, India
5 Mar 18
How do u know that cheater so well? Have u ever met him before ? Is he a casanova type?
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@amberross (16)
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5 Mar 18
My sister introduced him to me back in 2010 and the moment I saw him, my instincts told me he's not the type I want for my sister. But despite that, I showed my respect to give him the benefit of the doubt. At first, he was sweet and kind to her. He gave her flower and chocolates every important occasion. He even met our parents and my other siblings. But then a few years later, he changed. He seldom calls my sister, he chooses to hang out with his friends more often than her and spends more time sleeping and going on trips with his workmates than having a quality time with her during their rest days cause they both have different jobs. I'm not entirely sure whether my sister's kind of oblivious to that or she just chooses to ignore because she loves him more??? Fast forward... Well, we just learned that he got someone pregnant a year ago and now the baby's 7 months old. I was hurt. I felt betrayed because I love my sister and anything that breaks her breaks me even more. I don't want to tell her "I told you so" cause it would be so unreasonable and insensitive of me to be kond of harsh to her at times like these. So I kept my mouth shut, again. What happened was she forgave him. She accepted him again and gave him another chance to become someone better and decided that they face this together. I just........don't know what else to say..... I can't believe her being so kind and dumb at the same time???? I mean she's the most generous and understanding person I know and being taken for granted just like that is totally unfair and selfish. I don't know what to do. I love her and I can't let her marry that person someday. It's not fair. ??????
@Swayamsiddha (4354)
• New Delhi, India
5 Mar 18
@amberross Definitely u r right. She should not marry him
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
5 Mar 18
Hi! I know the feeling because I had been cheated by my former boyfriends and of course it is painful. You see when someone is in love, all the negative things are oblivious to that person even if the people surrounding them are seeing the obvious. It makes people dumb for quite some time, But, nature has its own ways of making us see the reality of the things happening around us. So I guess with your sister, for now she will not listen to you and to your loved ones, but believe me, she will realize whats happening. Sooner or later she will. What you can do right now is be there for her and let her. She will be needing your support. 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
5 Mar 18
@amberross I understand, but at the end of the day, you are the only one she will go to when reality strikes her bad. I still hope that she will be able see the truth and realize that she deserves better. 
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@amberross (16)
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5 Mar 18
To be honest, I couldn’t give her the 100% support she needs from me with what she has decided. I’m not as forgiving as her, and I have trust issues so it’s really hard for me.
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
9 Mar 18
Same situation with my eldest sister,luckily she did not marry the guy but they have a son.
@BabeSays (8575)
• Mauritius
5 Mar 18
@amberross So sorry hear about that. Well in the end she will get what she hasn't expected.
Sounds like she is stubborn. There is no way to deal with stubborn people. They always do what they want.
How is your relationship with your sister?
@amberross (16)
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5 Mar 18
This isn’t the first time she has to deal with his infidelity. This isn’t new to her. And for seven years of them being together, she hasn’t listen to any of my advice.
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@amberross (16)
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5 Mar 18
@BabeSays She's a really good sister. She's supportive, kind, generous and really down to earth. This guys is her first serious relationship so I guess she's kind of attached to him that's why it's hard for her to let go?
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