Do you need to live with your partner?
@sprite1950 (30452)
Corsham, England
March 6, 2018 3:36am CST
I have been with my partner for 15 years but we don't live together because we both like our own space. I see him most days, Mondays being our day off from each other, and it works well for us.
Most people like to be married or at least living with their partner and would not be happy with this arrangement.
Could you cope with an arrangement like this?
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
6 Mar 18
@LadyDuck Are you still; happily married Anna? I would love to have met my soulmate but I never did if I'm honest.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
6 Mar 18
@LadyDuck That's wonderful. I never felt that way about anyone.
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@LadyDuck (471500)
• Switzerland
6 Mar 18
@sprite1950 Yes, I am still happily married after 47 years. We have also worked together during all our life.
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@DaddyEvil (137257)
• United States
6 Mar 18
I hope so, since that is the type of arrangement vanny and I are talking about having.
I honestly don't believe it will be a problem for either one of us, since we both like our space and don't want to feel 'smothered' by anyone else.
I know I had problems with feeling smothered by both my ex-wives. They always wanted to know what I was doing, where I was at and with whom, 24/7. Sometimes I just wanted to be off in a different room, reading a book without someone hovering over me all the time.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
6 Mar 18
@DaddyEvil Ha! I bet you were a bad boy in your time Daddy. No wonder they had to keep an eye on you
. I don't know why more people don't go for this kind of arrangement. It's very stress free.
. I don't know why more people don't go for this kind of arrangement. It's very stress free.2 people like this
@DaddyEvil (137257)
• United States
6 Mar 18
@vandana7 IDK what they were, vanny, but I know it was too much closeness for me!
I don't see a problem with me sitting in a room by myself reading. Or outside in the shade on a warmish day, reading, without someone calling me and asking where I'm at and who is with me!
Reading is my worst pastime and always has been! If you could say I have a vice, it is that I love to read!
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
15 Mar 18
@sprite1950 I like me time, if I dont get it I get grumpy after awhile... lol
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
15 Mar 18
@Ithink Yeah I couldn't live in someone's pocket all the time. It's good to have some me time.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
7 Mar 18
@Ithink I've always liked my own space. When I was young I used to share a house with other girls and it drove me insane. I suppose we're all different.
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@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
6 Mar 18
It can obviously work. Love is not attachment. Love has nothing to do with bodies. True love is like the bees loving the flowers without willing to own them.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
6 Mar 18
@excellence7 We never argue probably because we are not under each other's feet all the time. If things start to get tense we just go home!
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
6 Mar 18
I suppose it all depends on your age and why you want to be together when you are together. If children aren't involved, it might be OK, but if you have children together, I think they need both parents available. When you get old, it's good to have a partner to live with you. Either of you might need help at anytime with even small things. My husband is almost 80, and he needs my help with little things that take me maybe five minutes at bedtime to help him get ready for bed. He injured his rotator cuff when he fell in January, so he can't raise his right hand over his head. He needed help after the accident, too, when he couldn't drive to the doctor. Sometimes he's had to drive me to the doctor, too, when I was dizzy or having palpitations.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
6 Mar 18
@bagarad I have custody of my granddaughter but she isn't related to him and they get along so that isn't a problem. I'm sorry to hear about your husband. I don't know how it would work out if one of us became dependent on the other but at the moment we are both well.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
7 Mar 18
@sprite1950 I hope you never have to find out how your arrangement would work under more adverse circumstances.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
7 Mar 18
@bagarad He has a big family but I think they would expect me to look after him if he was ill. My granddaughter is my first priority, I want to see her grown and successful in life so hopefully we will both stay healthy until then. We are both very well at the moment with no health issues.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
6 Mar 18
@nela13 I know that our arrangement wouldn't suit most people but I don't like living with men 
and he likes his own space too.
and he likes his own space too.2 people like this
@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
6 Mar 18
@nela13 Lol that's one way of putting it!
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@nela13 (58667)
• Portugal
6 Mar 18
@sprite1950 I understand you, living with a man is complicated sometimes.
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@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
6 Mar 18
Honestly maybe I could. I do enjoy living with my husband, but since he does work nights and sleeps during the day, it might be all possible. It would be nice to have my own space. But it would also be more expensive. So, for the moment, I think living together works best for us.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
6 Mar 18
@dodo19 Yes sometimes it is more convenient to be together.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
6 Mar 18
@Icydoll think most people will say that. I suppose it is an odd arrangement but we are both happy with it.
