Should we count this to be a disturbance ?

I would prefer openness and honesty in a relationship. What could be so confidential that you can't share it with your spouse? Having a den or other room in your house or basement that you can call your own, make your own rules and ask your spouse and family to respect them is needed sometimes, but separate bedrooms? I'd have nothing so confidential that I'd hide it from my spouse. That may only lead to problems in the marriage or relationship.

for confidential matters only i think