The single life.

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@Kandae11 (55035)
April 20, 2018 8:27am CST
If you are a single person planning on getting married - what would you miss from the single life? One of the main things I would miss would be my privacy - I am not too happy about sharing my space. I would probably try to convince my intended that we should have separate bedrooms and bathrooms - if he really wants me to be completely happy. What would you miss from the single life? and for those already married - what did you miss at first?
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
20 Apr 18
in our marriage my wife has her space, i have my space and then we share a lot of space together, it has worked for 50 years
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
22 Apr 18
@hostessman , this is pretty much the set up that we have here.
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
22 Apr 18
@Kandae11 just give each other space and also share a lot of space
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@Kandae11 (55035)
20 Apr 18
It works well when each is given some space at least. Congratulations on fifty years of marriage - would you share your secret so others can learn?
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
20 Apr 18
I do not miss anything, Kandase. Because most of the day I am by myself because my husband is at work. I still get to hang out with the people I love.
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
3 Jun 18
Great!!! U have a husband who works!!!!
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@Kandae11 (55035)
20 Apr 18
That's good.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
20 Apr 18
@Kandae11 Thank you, Kandase.
@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 18
It is important to have your own privacy and hobbies that you alone can enjoy and not live in each others pockets. I would hate that restrictive life style.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 18
@Kandae11 That's true. I like my freedom to do what I want to do when I want to do it. It all comes down to compromise. My wife does not like travelling like I do so it has not stopped me! She prefers just to visit her family although next january we will both be going to India as she really wanted to go there!
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@Kandae11 (55035)
21 Apr 18
I think it can stifle a relationship - but some don't seem to mind.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
21 Apr 18
@garymarsh6 Compromise is very, very important. You see, your wife doesn't object when you travel alone - but other wives might. The trip to India will be nice for both of you - seeing you love traveling and she has always wanted to go there.
@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
21 Apr 18
It would be hard for me now to give up my independence.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
21 Apr 18
Same here.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
20 Apr 18
I was never married so I missed nothing from being single.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
20 Apr 18
When you decide to tie the knot what would you miss?
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
20 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I will never be tying the knot.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
20 Apr 18
@JohnRoberts For me - once was enough.
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@YrNemo (20255)
21 Apr 18
Funny seeing this post of yours. An acquaintance of ours is about to get married the first time ever. Her grown-up children are very supportive of their mother's decision to move on with this step-dad. I wonder what her ex is thinking however. (only guessing, but he seemed to do something which upset her, so they broke up after years of being with each other.)
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@Kandae11 (55035)
21 Apr 18
@YrNemo Yes she does.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
21 Apr 18
So they were living together for a long time , never married , had children now grown-up. They break up after all that time - now she is getting married for the first time to someone else.
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@YrNemo (20255)
21 Apr 18
@Kandae11 Isn't that interesting? I wonder if her ex is kicking himself like mad for not thinking of that! He followed her and the children to this city, guess he was hoping for a reunion. Alas, she is getting married for the first time ever to someone else! (She has a very strong character.)
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
25 Apr 18
Missing freedom, not always but at times, I felt marriage means 'chained'.... It does not mean I am living prison life, not all. I have enough freedom for sure. Still... in some cases.....
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
26 Apr 18
@Kandae11 (55035)
25 Apr 18
I know what you mean.
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@allknowing (136541)
• India
21 Apr 18
My surname (lol)
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@allknowing (136541)
• India
21 Apr 18
@Kandae11 After all it is a name that came from my parents. We just have to let go.
@Kandae11 (55035)
21 Apr 18
What if your husband's name is nicer?
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
20 Apr 18
I am happier now in my life as a married person, I can do anything I want and I can go anywhere I want because my husband is very kind. I have a wonderful life now than before, so I don't miss the single life.
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• Philippines
20 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I agree.
@Kandae11 (55035)
20 Apr 18
When you are really in love, you won't miss the single life.
@jstory07 (139742)
• Roseburg, Oregon
22 Apr 18
Sharing is a good thing when you are in love.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
22 Apr 18
True love would make a difference.
@Tampa_girl7 (50260)
• United States
22 Apr 18
I've been with my husband nearly 30 years. I really can't remember if I missed anything
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@Tampa_girl7 (50260)
• United States
23 Apr 18
that must be it I couldn't love him more
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@Kandae11 (55035)
23 Apr 18
There is a difference when one is really in love.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Apr 18
since i am separated from the father of my son, i am enjoying my single life, of course with my son. and no, i don't miss anything from the relationship i had with the father of my son.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
22 Apr 18
Same here. I am very happy living a single life - after being married for a short spell.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
23 Apr 18
@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
20 Apr 18
Interesting topic! I was engaged (didn't work out) 5 years ago. I was already missing - * flirting (this is weird, since I don't flirt when I'm single, but I "missed" it, I guess.) * freedom (the thought of having to ask permission to go out with friends, go shopping, go to family, ask permission for all purchases) * giving up hobbies and single friends. (I was raised such that when a woman marries she gives up all hobbies outside the home in order to devote time to taking care of the family. Also, married people only have married friends - that is how I was raised.) Of course - all these things were how I was raised - if that works for someone - I'm happy for them. I most certainly hope that if and when I would marry - my husband would allow for my freedoms than that. But I think the marriage ship has pretty much sailed for me - at 36 no one has been interested since my ex-fiance 5 years ago. I think it would be totally cool to be married and have seperate rooms and maybe, live seperately lol
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
20 Apr 18
@Kandae11 Thanks for the heaD'S up, maybe there is still a chance after all. lol. Ah yes, separate house -- like Jack and Megg White did. Though... they didn't stay married, either... so maybe that's not good :/
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@Kandae11 (55035)
20 Apr 18
Women are getting married much later now - so at 36 you still have some good years ahead of you. Your prince charming will come and sweep you off your feet - just wait and see. When you say live separately do you mean as in - separate house?
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
20 Apr 18
When I am single, I can go anywhere I want ...
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@Kandae11 (55035)
20 Apr 18
I like the freedom of movement.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
20 Apr 18
@Kandae11 yes I also want it
@youless (112496)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Apr 18
I think I will have less spare time for myself after getting married. And sometimes I have to give in and I can not completely follow my heart.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
22 Apr 18
Yes indeed - much compromise will be necessary to keep the marriage sound.
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@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
20 Apr 18
I was too busy have children, raising children and working at the same time to miss much of my old life. One thing I did miss was going to parties/dances as I loved going with friends.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
20 Apr 18
I loved doing that too - but things are different now - even though I am single.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
22 Apr 18
I never missed a thing!
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@Kandae11 (55035)
22 Apr 18
Great.
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@porwest (91061)
• United States
21 Apr 18
You get used to living with someone, and it is actually not all that bad. I'd have to say that if my wife made me sleep in a different bed I'd not be married to her for very long.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
21 Apr 18
It is the usual thing for husbands and wives to sleep in the same bed - unless the husband misbehaves - then he is made to sleep on the couch or in the other room. For me however - I want my bed all to myself - except on those special occasions.
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@august18 (3907)
• Tunisia
21 Apr 18
I wouldn't miss a thing because I chose to stay single a long time ago
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@Kandae11 (55035)
21 Apr 18
After being married once - I am now single and plan to remain that way.
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21 Apr 18
There is nothing to miss when you are married.Marriage is all about care,commitment and love.
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@Kandae11 (55035)
21 Apr 18
It is a different lifestyle - and some aspects of it would be missed by some , while others might not give a second thought to their former life.
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