The single life.
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (55035)
April 20, 2018 8:27am CST
If you are a single person planning on getting married - what would you miss from the single life? One of the main things I would miss would be my privacy - I am not too happy about sharing my space.
I would probably try to convince my intended that we should have separate bedrooms and bathrooms - if he really wants me to be completely happy.
What would you miss from the single life? and for those already married - what did you miss at first?
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25 responses
@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
20 Apr 18
in our marriage my wife has her space, i have my space and then we share a lot of space together, it has worked for 50 years
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
22 Apr 18
@hostessman , this is pretty much the set up that we have here.
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
22 Apr 18
@Kandae11 just give each other space and also share a lot of space
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
20 Apr 18
I do not miss anything, Kandase. Because most of the day I am by myself because my husband is at work. I still get to hang out with the people I love.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 18
It is important to have your own privacy and hobbies that you alone can enjoy and not live in each others pockets. I would hate that restrictive life style.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 18
@Kandae11 That's true. I like my freedom to do what I want to do when I want to do it. It all comes down to compromise. My wife does not like travelling like I do so it has not stopped me! She prefers just to visit her family although next january we will both be going to India as she really wanted to go there!
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@Kandae11 (55035)
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21 Apr 18
@garymarsh6 Compromise is very, very important. You see, your wife doesn't object when you travel alone - but other wives might. The trip to India will be nice for both of you - seeing you love traveling and she has always wanted to go there.
@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
20 Apr 18
I was never married so I missed nothing from being single.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
20 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I will never be tying the knot.
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@YrNemo (20255)
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21 Apr 18
Funny seeing this post of yours. An acquaintance of ours is about to get married the first time ever. Her grown-up children are very supportive of their mother's decision to move on with this step-dad. I wonder what her ex is thinking however. (only guessing, but he seemed to do something which upset her, so they broke up after years of being with each other.)
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@YrNemo (20255)
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21 Apr 18
@Kandae11 Isn't that interesting? I wonder if her ex is kicking himself like mad for not thinking of that! He followed her and the children to this city, guess he was hoping for a reunion. Alas, she is getting married for the first time ever to someone else! (She has a very strong character.)
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@allknowing (136541)
• India
21 Apr 18
@Kandae11 After all it is a name that came from my parents. We just have to let go.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
20 Apr 18
I am happier now in my life as a married person, I can do anything I want and I can go anywhere I want because my husband is very kind. I have a wonderful life now than before, so I don't miss the single life.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50260)
• United States
22 Apr 18
I've been with my husband nearly 30 years. I really can't remember if I missed anything
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@Tampa_girl7 (50260)
• United States
23 Apr 18
that must be it I couldn't love him more
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Apr 18
since i am separated from the father of my son, i am enjoying my single life, of course with my son. and no, i don't miss anything from the relationship i had with the father of my son.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
20 Apr 18
Interesting topic!
I was engaged (didn't work out) 5 years ago. I was already missing -
* flirting (this is weird, since I don't flirt when I'm single, but I "missed" it, I guess.)
* freedom (the thought of having to ask permission to go out with friends, go shopping, go to family, ask permission for all purchases)
* giving up hobbies and single friends. (I was raised such that when a woman marries she gives up all hobbies outside the home in order to devote time to taking care of the family. Also, married people only have married friends - that is how I was raised.)
Of course - all these things were how I was raised - if that works for someone - I'm happy for them. I most certainly hope that if and when I would marry - my husband would allow for my freedoms than that.
But I think the marriage ship has pretty much sailed for me - at 36 no one has been interested since my ex-fiance 5 years ago.
I think it would be totally cool to be married and have seperate rooms and maybe, live seperately lol
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
20 Apr 18
@Kandae11 Thanks for the heaD'S up, maybe there is still a chance after all. lol.
Ah yes, separate house -- like Jack and Megg White did. Though... they didn't stay married, either... so maybe that's not good :/
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
20 Apr 18
When I am single, I can go anywhere I want ...
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@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
20 Apr 18
I was too busy have children, raising children and working at the same time to miss much of my old life. One thing I did miss was going to parties/dances as I loved going with friends.
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@Xanderman (46)
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21 Apr 18
There is nothing to miss when you are married.Marriage is all about care,commitment and love.
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